With the development of the times, people's minds have gradually changed, especially girls. In the past, I thought that getting married and having children was a necessary thing in life, but now it seems that you can skip marriage and have children directly.
The most successful case is Ye Haiyang, who likes to surf the Internet and is definitely no stranger to this successful woman. However, if you want to learn from Ye Haiyang to "go to the father and keep the son", you still have to be cautious!
1. A life that people look forward to
Ye Haiyang's life is simply the dream of many girls, she has two test-tube children, founded her own brand, and lives an independent life.
It can be seen that her life is very chic, and it can be seen from the life she shares that even if the child does not have a biological father, life can be perfect.
At this time, many people disagreed, and the biggest point of discussion was that children could not get their father's love.
Indeed, in the traditional concept of Chinese, it is always believed that a family combination with a father and a mother is happy.
The reality is always cruel, how many families because of the wrong union of the two or various unexplained reasons, the responsibility of taking care of the child finally falls on the mother, and the father has become an invisible existence in the family.
Especially for boys who pursue machismo, if they are better, they will bear the expenses of the family, and if they are not good, they will directly be a shopkeeper.
More and more such inferior boys appear, causing girls to be full of disappointment in marriage. Many girls even begin to practice non-marriage, and they can't bear all the pressure that comes with getting married.
If you look at it from this point of view, Xueye Haiyang is indeed a better choice, and she has avoided many troubles.
There is no need to be upset by looking at a bad husband, or even the most difficult mother-in-law relationship in the world.
But what if the atmosphere of the whole society is like this, and everyone thinks it is normal?
Second, the rhetoric is reversed
Some people think that there is nothing bad about it, and this kind of life is simply open. However, some people oppose it, believing that we should not blindly follow the trend.
On the surface, everyone only sees Ye Haiyang's happy side, and her efforts behind the scenes may be ignored by everyone.
From the moment she decided to do a test tube, she was destined to be subjected to public opinion.
Do you have a strong heart to do such a thing against all odds?
The incomprehension of relatives, the embarrassing scene when others ask about the child's father in the future, and the child asks where the father is, may all be encountered in the near future.
The biggest problem is economic freedom, and if the economy is restricted, the first step has already failed.
For test-tube children alone, she has already spent hundreds of thousands.
In order to cultivate good habits and vision for her children, she arranges various daily horseback riding and high-end learning courses. In this crazy era, everything can be saved, but children's education cannot be saved.
For more and more women who want to learn from Ye Haiyang's "father and son", it is not realistic to be sober!
Someone joked before: "Don't envy those who look glamorous on the surface, envy those who have more children, they are the real rich." ”
At first, I didn't understand what they were trying to say, but later I learned that someone had roughly estimated that it would take four million to raise a child, and the total amount of expenses slipped away like water.
3. Respect the choices of others
In fact, there is so much analysis, and in the end, it depends on your own choice.
I believe that if you are willing to make up your mind to make such a big decision, you must have done a lot of battles before and after. Ordinary people say that it is better to cross others than to cross ourselves, and we have never changed the ability of others.
As long as you have a strong heart and make up your mind to do this, no matter how difficult it is, it will not hinder you.
As long as you have your own economic power, you can make decisions about everything, which is a real problem.
The most common example is celebrities, and it is very common for female celebrities to take care of their babies alone after divorce. It may be that they have lost their father's love, but that doesn't mean they can't make up for it elsewhere.
In the same way, there are many husbands and wives who work together to maintain the family and raise children. The two have an obvious division of labor, the father is responsible for making money outside, and the mother is responsible for taking care of the family, which complements each other.
At the same time, the father will not be absent from the child's education, and the mother will also understand the fatigue of the father's hard work outside.
There must be a reason for this, and the prevalence of the trend of "leaving the father and leaving the son" cannot be promoted in a day or two, and a large part of it is caused by the fact that men do not care about the family.
If this bad atmosphere can be improved, the atmosphere of "fatherlessness" will definitely change, there will be less resentment in society, and both boys and girls will not have to worry about how to form a happy family.
epilogue
Times change, and when more and more choices are placed in front of you, think deeply. Everyone needs to pay for their choices, and don't follow the crowd.
Things are always two-sided, there is no absolute good or bad, what suits you is the best.
Of course, life is short, and it's okay to be bold and try new things, but remember to do a good job of risk assessment. After all, the test tube is not as simple as you think, and there may be various ethical issues involved.