Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
Someone said, "The degree to which a person loves you is not how good he is to you when he is romantic; ”
When people are emotionally out of control, they are most likely to expose their true nature, and disconnection, like a "demon mirror", can help you distinguish the people around you.
The man who really loves you and the man who just wants to have fun react very differently when the connection is disconnected, and if you understand their reaction, you will see their heart.
A man who truly loves you will panic and fidget in the face of your "disconnection". Because you are an important part of his life, he is afraid of losing you.
And the man who just wants to play with you will only be indifferent, and even after you "disconnect" for a while, he will completely disappear into your world.
Therefore, if you want to know if a man really loves you, it will be clear if you "disconnect" once.
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The man who loves you will try to find you
Byron said, "If you weep, it will always be my face wet, and if you grieve, it will always be my heart." ”
When a man is truly in love with a woman, he will become persistent and focused, his emotions will be affected by you, he will be happy if you are happy, he will be even more sad if you are sad, and your every move will affect his heart.
When he senses that your emotions are not right, or that he can't find you, he will be very anxious and will try all kinds of ways to contact you until he finds you.
My friend Xiaoya once used the method of "disconnection" to test her boyfriend's feelings for her.
She said that that time was because the two of them had a little conflict, and she was not happy, so she turned off her mobile phone and went to her best friend's house to live alone for a few days.
Originally, she just wanted to calm down for a few days, and by the way, she also tested her boyfriend's feelings for her. Unexpectedly, on the night she turned off the phone, her boyfriend was in a hurry.
He searched all the places where Xiaoya might go, contacted all of Xiaoya's friends and girlfriends, and even went downstairs to Xiaoya's house to wait for the night.
Later, Xiaoya turned on her mobile phone and saw dozens of missed calls and countless messages, and she suddenly relented.
She said that through that "disconnection", she saw her boyfriend's sincerity and decided to be with him in the future.
A man who truly loves you will do everything he can to find you after you disappear, because he puts you in the most important position in his heart, and he can't bear to let you disappear into his world.
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The man who loves you will seriously reflect on himself
It is said that "a woman's heart is a needle in the sea", but in fact, a man's heart is as unfathomable as the sea.
It is not easy to see a man's sincerity, but after the "disconnection", you can feel his heart for you from the first sentence he says when he contacts you.
A man who doesn't have you in his heart won't have any reflection, and will only ask why you didn't reply to the message, why you "played missing", but he won't ask you if something happened, let alone review if there was anything wrong with you.
And the first thing a man who really loves you will probably say after contacting you is, "Are you okay? I'm worried about you." ”
After making sure that you are safe and sound, he will review with you that he has not done a good enough job before you choose to "disappear".
Xiaoxiao said that after a quarrel with her boyfriend once, she chose to "cut contact".
Three days later, when his boyfriend appeared in front of Xiaoxiao, the first thing he said was: "Are you okay? I'm worried about it these days, it's all my fault, let's have a good talk, okay?"
Xiaoxiao was still angry, but after listening to her boyfriend's words, most of her anger disappeared at once. Later, the two sat down and talked calmly, and the contradiction was naturally resolved.
"People are not sages, who can do nothing", two people get along together, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions and quarrels, but the important thing is that after the problem, the man can face it correctly and take the initiative to find the reason from himself.
A man who truly loves you will take the initiative to review his mistakes with you after the "disconnection", instead of blindly blaming and questioning you.
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A man who loves you will cherish you more
People who have experienced "loss" will know more about the preciousness of "possession".
An intentional or unintentional "disconnection" is no less than a "rebirth" for people who truly love each other.
It's just because they have experienced the pain of loss, and after "losing and regaining", they will cherish this hard-won relationship even more.
It is often said, "Parting is for a better encounter." ”
Sometimes, a short parting will bring two people who love each other closer. Because they realize the weight of each other in their hearts, they will cherish each other's time together more in the days to come.
A man who doesn't love you, even if you choose to "cut contact" and come back, he won't change anything, because you are a dispensable existence in his heart.
Therefore, "disconnection" is like a "touchstone", which can help you test whether a man is true or false to you.
There is a saying: "There are not many people who are really good to you, and don't lose one." ”
May we all meet the person who truly loves us, be with us for a lifetime, and be happy until we grow old.