Teacher, I have always had a question about the sometimes cold and sometimes enthusiastic attitude of a boy between a couple who lives apart. They always seem to be able to selectively disappear when you need them most, as if playing an emotional game of hide-and-seek. The more you try to get closer to them, the more they deliberately keep their distance, as if your sincerity is just a joke. And when you choose to let go of the moment because of disappointment and exhaustion, and stop reaching out to them, they will suddenly appear in your life and ask about your condition with that seemingly eternal "What's wrong with you?"
This kind of behavior, after a long time, is undoubtedly a kind of torture for girls. We will accumulate countless grievances and dissatisfaction in our hearts, and eventually turn into cruel words, trying to make the other person aware of our pain and expectations. But in reality, these cruel words are often just a cry in our hearts that we want to be cared for and valued, rather than really wanting to hurt the other person.
However, too many times, even the strongest feelings will be consumed in this immediate-like attitude. As boys get used to the whining and harshness of girls, they may begin to ignore the real needs behind these emotions, or even see them as a form of vexatiousness. Such misunderstandings will only make the already fragile relationship even more precarious.
Teacher, I want to know, in the face of such a situation, how should we deal with it? Do we continue to persevere, or do we choose to let go? In the world of feelings, is there really a balance that allows two people to maintain that initial warmth and care in the face of distance and time?
Hello, when two "hedgehog" type people fall in love, the challenge they face is how to find a balance between each other. Since they both have sensitive and sharp personalities, getting too close or being too distant can cause problems when getting along.
When two "hedgehogs" get too close together, their spines can clash against each other, causing unnecessary injury and stress. This state of adhesion can make them feel suffocated and unable to express their individuality freely. However, if they choose to stay away from each other, they may fall into the dilemma of indifference and separation. This sense of distance can make them feel lonely and unable to enjoy the warmth and companionship of love.
Therefore, for two people of the "hedgehog" type, it is crucial to master the right distance. They need to give each other enough space to be independent while maintaining attachment. This means that they learn to maintain a certain sense of distance based on mutual understanding and respect. Only in this way can they avoid stabbing each other, and at the same time be able to enjoy the sweetness and warmth of love.
Communication and understanding are indispensable in this process. They need to be honest about each other's needs and feelings, listen to each other, and understand each other's positions. Only in this way can they find the most suitable balance for each other and create a beautiful love together.