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A few days ago, I saw a girl's request for help, and after reading it carefully, I found that this is a typical story of "the first sword on the shore, and the first person to behead".
The male and female protagonists of the story are high school classmates, the boys' academic performance is not very good, and the family conditions are not good, and the parents have been living with their grandparents after their divorce, and the grandparents have died one after another in the past two years, and he is the only one left in the family.
After the girl went to college, the two were together, and in her junior year, there was an accident in the girl's family, and her father died unexpectedly.
My father was in business before his death, and there were hundreds of thousands of foreign debts to be repaid, so my mother borrowed money from relatives and friends to pay off the debts, and there was no money left for the girl to study.
When the boy found out, he offered to let the girl study, and the girl accepted and promised her boyfriend that she would marry him when she graduated and had a stable job.
Since then, the boy has run takeaway in the city where the girl is studying, and in addition to the tuition fee, he has also given the girl 1,500 yuan per month for living expenses, which has cost about 70,000 or 80,000 yuan in two years.
When the mother learned that the boy did this, it was also the default attitude, but I didn't expect that after three years, the girl and the mother had changed a little.
02
Time flies, and the girl graduated from college and was admitted to the establishment and had a stable job.
At first, they talked to the girl's mother about getting married, but the mother told them to postpone it for another two years on the grounds that they were still young.
The boyfriend also felt that the girl's mother was right, he had no savings at that time, and the family had nothing, so he planned to save enough money to propose again.
Now three years have passed, the girl's father's debts have been paid off, her boyfriend works in a factory in Guangdong, earning seven or eight thousand a month, saving 150,000 yuan, and he wants to get married.
The girl said that the 150,000 yuan was enough to hold a wedding in the countryside, but she could not give her any other material conditions, and she told her mother that the boy wanted to get married, and her mother regretted it.
Mother thinks that the boy's conditions are too poor, he has no car and no house, and he is the only one at home, is it possible that he will have to rent a house to live in the future when he gets married?
Secondly, the boy himself is also a low education and has no skills, he has only worked in a factory for the past three years, and he will definitely not be able to stay in his hometown to work if he wants to support his family when he gets married, so the girl has to stay at home.
If she gives birth to a child in the future, and there is no one on the man's side to help, the child is basically brought by the girl's mother, which is what she is worried about.
The mother also thinks that with the girl's current conditions, it is not a problem to find a good partner at all.
The mother said that the boy was a good person, but not a good marriage partner, she proposed a solution, the boy had spent the money back to him with interest, she remarried last year, and her second husband was in good condition and could help pay back the money.
She told her daughter that after repaying the money the boy had given, she would find her daughter a good partner to marry.
The girl posted hoping that netizens would give an opinion, she said: "My mother is my only support, she must be thinking about me." ”
03
As soon as the post was issued, it instantly caused a lot of discussion among netizens, and netizens agreed that the girl and her mother were quite a bit of crossing the river and demolishing the bridge.
Some netizens said: "When you are saying that what your mother says is for your good, your heart is already biased towards your mother's side, do you still need to ask for the opinions of netizens?"
Yes, the girl is actually not entangled, and it is not true that she does not have an answer in her heart when she posts for help, but hopes to see more people support her answers, so that she will not be condemned by her conscience when she makes a choice.
The girl has already made a plan in her heart, as someone said, is the boy suddenly in bad condition?
When I didn't have the money to study, I accepted the boy's contribution, and also acquiesced to the agreement to marry the boy in the future.
Now that the dust has settled, and there is no longer an urgent need for the boy's financial support, he began to care about the boy's poor conditions and felt that he was not worthy of her.
Who doesn't say "the heart is really black" after reading it?
Everyone felt unworthy for this boy, and at the same time saw his hard-working and perseverance.
He had nothing, and through his own hands, in addition to the seventy or eighty thousand yuan given to the girl, he saved 150,000 yuan in three years, which was already a rare thing compared to other young people who were used to moonlight.
If a person has such courage, what will he not be able to do in the future?
On the other hand, looking at the girl, the boy was in such a bad condition from the beginning, but the girl also gladly accepted his gift at that time, simply because her conditions were even worse at that time.
Moreover, she didn't think about using work-study to get the living expenses when she was studying, but spent the boy's money comfortably.
This fully shows that the girl only wants to rely on others to obtain a quality life instead of working hard herself, and she also uses her boyfriend as a springboard to unload the mill and kill the donkey, which shows her selfishness and ruthlessness.
In the relationship between the sexes, there are actually many selfish people, who want to maximize their own interests more than feelings.
A few days ago, a man was distressed, he was proposed to break up by his girlfriend, and he asked netizens what solution there was.
It turned out that the two met and fell in love online, and when they first met, the boy had nothing, but the girl didn't dislike it, and even the boy's current decent job was chosen by the girl.
She planned a bright future for the two, and the boy felt that he didn't have to worry about being with her at all.
But the relationship between the two was not very smooth, the man disliked the girl's age four years older than the boy and took her out to embarrass him, and the woman's family was not very optimistic about the two of them.
Both parents would often let them go out on blind dates, and the woman refused decisively under pressure every time, while the boy went.
It's just that he didn't expect that the girl he saw this time would be his girlfriend's cousin.
The fact that he secretly went on a blind date was revealed, and the girl decisively proposed to break up.
The boy thinks he is indeed at fault, but the sin is not so much, it is just a misunderstanding, not to the point of breaking up, he wants everyone to comment on it, is it really necessary to break up?
A netizen sarcastically said: "If you are forced to go on a blind date, you will go, and if you are forced to take the Tsinghua exam, why don't you take the exam?"
Yes, everything is an excuse. This time it's because the matter is revealed, if you meet another girl and look at the right eye, it won't be "forced to go on a blind date", but "forced to get married".
The boy is wishful thinking, talking about his girlfriend and going on a blind date at the same time, and when the matter is revealed, he puts all the blame on others, which is both irresponsible and selfish.
04
Whether it is the girl who wants to cross the river and tear down the bridge, or the boy who eats the bowl and looks at the pot, they are all people who only care about their own interests.
In their eyes, feelings are just a tool for them to obtain benefits, as long as they are beneficial to themselves, feelings can be useless things that are discarded and discarded.
They also only care about their own feelings and ignore the situation of others.
In intimate relationships, the most taboo is such a selfish person.
Although emotional selfishness is not a serious sin, it still needs to be spurned.
The vividness of human beings also lies in sincerity, kindness, and warmth, otherwise it will not be a person worthy of being cherished.
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