After watching the late-night video of the Tsinghua Library, I silently put away my son's mobile phone
Learning to fight is not talent, but concentration and endurance.
On the road to success, only by strengthening the heart and resisting temptation can we reach the other side.
Author | ciyu
In the past few days, there are two things that have touched me a lot.
The first thing, when the blogger @seniorLEO went to visit Tsinghua University, he took a late-night video of the Tsinghua Library.
No matter which library it is, the study area is full.
No one talks to each other, and no one is holding a mobile phone to play games or chat.
They were immersed in their studies, and the only sound in the library was the pages turning and the keyboard tapping.
The blogger said that Tsinghua students have already turned hard work into a long-term habit, and engraved firm goals and strong execution in their genes.
The second thing is that a visiting professor @林渡舟 visited a vocational college.
He went to the classroom first and found that many students were playing with their phones openly during class.
Subsequently, he went to the student dormitory.
Some of the students who skipped class were playing games directly in bed, and some were sleeping lazily and asked them why they were still sleeping at this point, and he said that he had stayed up all night with his friends last night.
Eventually, he went to the library, where a few students sat sparsely, and someone had a stack of books on the table, but he was looking down and playing with his phone.
The visiting professor said with emotion that mobile phones killed their youth.
I used to think that Tsinghua students are better than talent and intelligence, but now I have found that the gap between ordinary people and Tsinghua students is actually on this mobile phone.
After much thought, I decided to confiscate my son's phone.
My son also keeps his phone with him.
Every time he came home from school, he would play at his desk with his mobile phone, doing homework for ten minutes and watching videos for thirty minutes.
He also often watches three watches in the middle of the night, hiding under the quilt to read online novels.
I often lose my temper about it, but he always has a myriad of excuses:
"The students who came first in our class were also playing, and it was out of the way. ”
"I play a game to relax, so that I can study better. ”
I understand that children are under a lot of pressure to study, and I also feel that learning varies from person to person, so I didn't deliberately stop it.
But the momentary connivance almost hurt the child.
Once he leaves his phone now, he has no energy and can't do anything.
Because he is accustomed to the fast food reading of online novels, he can no longer focus on the text at all, and he feels bored after reading a few pages of a famous book.
In order to compete with his friends for the rank of the Honor of Kings game, he pondered the video of the game anchor all day long, and his mind was not on learning.
That's when I realized that my son's brain had been hijacked by his phone.
The National Institutes of Health of the United States has studied the effects of the use of electronic products on the brains of minors, and found that children who are addicted to electronic products such as mobile phones for a long time have significantly thinner cerebral cortex, become sluggish, and have difficulty concentrating.
Mobile phones have become a stumbling block and obstacle on the road to children's growth.
Netizen @Shuyang is a candidate of the 20th class, and the results are in the middle and upper reaches of their year, and it is more than enough to be admitted to a college.
As a result, when the results of the college entrance examination came, he could only barely go to the second year.
The culprit of all this is the mobile phone.
At that time, because of the epidemic, he could only take online classes at home, so he completely let himself go.
Every day, as soon as the door is closed, he turns on the computer, listens to online classes in a fake way, and uses his mobile phone to swipe anime.
Over the course of a semester, he chased more than a dozen anime.
When the college entrance examination was approaching, he was also nervous, but his heart couldn't calm down, and when he wanted to memorize words and formulas, he couldn't help but want to click on the video to watch it.
Once you encounter a problem that you don't know, you want to play a game to relax first, and the result is two hours.
He regretted not being on the list: because of the mobile phone, the years of hard work seemed to be in vain.
But regret is the most useless thing.
Some roads can't be re-walked, some pits can't be refilled, and a semester of indulgence can turn into a lifetime of regret.
Mozart once complained that the world did not know him: "I spend 8 hours a day practicing, but people bury my efforts with the word genius." ”
A child's talent is important, but hard work and self-discipline can determine his future.
A Zhihu netizen shared his story of going to graduate school.
He studied in a secondary school as an undergraduate, and his major was still a partial major, so you can imagine how difficult it will be to find a job at that time.
He decided to be admitted to a prestigious university in Shanghai across majors.
Many people laughed at him for being a fool of dreams.
The results were beyond everyone's expectations, and his grades far exceeded the cut-off score for admission.
Others think it's lucky, but only he knows what he's paid behind it.
During this lonely and long period of exam preparation, he has been a nail in the coffin of the graduate school entrance examination classroom.
He unloaded all the games and short video apps on his phone, whether it was a roommate inviting him to play a black game, or recommending a good drama, he refused all.
For him, the only use of his mobile phone is to listen to English.
Every day he gets up at 5 o'clock and goes to bed at 12 o'clock, and once he starts to review, his mobile phone turns on the Do Not Disturb mode, and he has read dozens of postgraduate examination materials over and over again.
Learning is essentially a race of self-discipline.
Whether you pick up a book or a mobile phone determines the different directions of a person's life.
Others are racing against time to study between queuing up for meals and physical examinations.
Our children play games whenever they get the chance.
Who is more likely to be at the top?
Others have completed more than 5,000 sets of test questions in a semester, piled up to 1 meter high, and used up a tube of ballpoint pens, bundled up to cover the table.
Our children show off what level the game has reached, and read a few novels.
Who might be more hopeful of going to Tsinghua University or Peking University?
Others took advantage of the moonlight and lights to endure sleepiness and fight in the sea of questions.
Our children had two dark circles under their eyes and stayed up late watching skits.
Who would be more favored by fate?
Learning is not a 100-meter race, not talent, only concentration and endurance.
Mobile phones are accelerating the stratification between children: those who are self-disciplined are outstanding, and those who are lazy are out.
In order to prevent my son from becoming addicted to his mobile phone again, I found an opportunity to tell my son the story of Lin Tian.
Lin Tian is the first graduate to be selected as a Huawei Genius Teenager.
No one would have thought that he, who was crowned as a "genius boy", was once a poor student who was almost dropped out of school.
When Lin Tian first entered Fudan University, because of his lack of discipline, he was addicted to games all day long, and he ignored his homework, so that his grade point in the first semester was only 1.8, which was almost the bottom score.
One year, during the Spring Festival, the school teacher informed Lin Tian's parents that if Lin Tian still had such a low grade point, he would be at risk of dropping out of school.
Because he had to take a make-up exam, Lin Tian was forced by his parents to go to the station and return to school on the day of the Lantern Festival.
The lights of thousands of homes are lit up during the festive season, but Lin Tian is alone in the face of the cold dormitory wall, infinite loss wells up in his heart, and he secretly makes up his mind to change himself well.
He uninstalled online games on his phone and computer, downloaded many e-books related to the course, and eagerly absorbed knowledge;
He no longer snuggled up in his dorm during his rest time, and stayed in the library every day until it closed, no matter how cold or hot it was;
With unremitting efforts, Lin Tian has scored an excellent grade point close to a full score of 4.0, published 8 SCI papers, and was invited by Huawei with the highest salary.
Why did you want to tell this story to your son?
Because I want to tell him: what attitude you use towards mobile phones, what kind of life you will have.
You're going to have to endure mental torment.
I listened to the lecture with full attention, and I didn't dare to relax like a wound clockwork.
You have to endure the boredom of life.
Day in and day out, no holidays, no entertainment.
Child, you can only bury yourself deep in the ground and absorb it desperately, so that the branches can blossom.
A reader wrote a review of "Me and the Altar of Earth", and I would like to give it to my children:
"A man of thirteen or fourteen years old in the summer picked up a real gun on the road. Because he was young and ignorant, he was not afraid of heaven and earth, and he pulled the trigger.
No one died, and no one was injured.
He thought he had fired an empty gun, and then he was thirty years old, or older, walking down the road when he heard a faint wind behind him.
He stopped, turned around, and the bullet hit the center of his eyebrow. ”
Child, this bullet is the wrong path and the wrong choice made when you are young and ignorant.
By the time they really understood, the bullet had already hit the center of the eyebrows, and it was too late to change.
From now on, refuse low-level pleasures, sink your heart into reading, and one day, you will see the meaning of persisting in learning.
At that time, you will also be grateful to yourself for being self-disciplined.