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My name is Liu Ting, I am 38 years old and I am a single mother. 12 years ago, my husband passed away unexpectedly, leaving me alone with my newborn daughter, Xiaowen. At that time, my family's financial situation was not well-off, so I had to quit my job to take care of my daughter wholeheartedly. It wasn't until my daughter was in elementary school that I found a job again to support our mother and daughter.
Just last year, my parents decided to move from their hometown to live with me because they were old and not in good health. I'm glad they were able to take care of me and Xiaowen, after all, I'm so tired by myself. However, it didn't take long for me to realize that the arrival of my parents had caused a lot of inconvenience to our lives.
My father's name is Liu Ming, he is 72 years old this year and has been retired for many years. He had a strange temper, he lost his temper, and sometimes he would dictate to me and my daughter. My mother's name is Wang Fang, she is 68 years old this year, she has not been in good health and needs to be taken care of. She was very dependent on her father, and she had to consult him on everything. I sometimes feel that taking care of my parents has made me more exhausted.
What made it even more troublesome for me was that my parents started nagging me about why I didn't have another child. They said that when I raised my daughter, they would not be able to go anywhere, and hoped that I could have another one so that they could have a sustenance in their old age. However, I have always felt that it is very difficult to provide for a child, where is the energy to have another one? I have explained this to them countless times, but my parents just don't understand it.
Every morning, I have to help my parents get up and wash up, and then prepare breakfast for them. Then I had to hurry up and make lunch for my daughter and take her to school. At noon, I hurried home to cook for my parents, and after dinner, I had to chat with them. When I came back from work, I was really exhausted after a long day. However, my parents were always unhappy with my work schedule and always complained that I had too little time to take care of them.
"You're so busy every day, when will you have time to spend time with us? Can't you quit your job and take care of us at home?" Father always complained like this.
I reluctantly explained: "Dad, you know that I live alone with my daughter, and I can't do without this job. And you and my mother are also taking care of me every day, and I do my best. "
"But now that you're here, why do you have to work, are we here to trouble you?" The father's tone became even more displeased.
I sighed and tried to reassure him, "Dad, you and Mom have helped me a lot. But it also takes a lot of effort to take care of you, and I also have to juggle my daughter and work. Can you understand my situation?"
"Then you should quit your job and take care of us at home! Look, your daughters are in school, what are you doing working outside the home? Don't you want your children to have a complete family?" The more my father spoke, the more angry he became.
"I know what you mean, but I really can't quit my job. I also have to pay for my daughter's schooling, and I have a lot of living expenses. I'd love to take good care of you at home, but the reality doesn't allow it. I patiently explained.
"You're just ignorant and unfilial! Are we here to make trouble for you?" The father finally couldn't help but lose his temper, and his tone became very stiff.
I looked at my father helplessly, knowing that he cared about us, but I couldn't do what he wanted. I took his hand and said sincerely, "Dad, the arrival of you and Mom has really helped me a lot. I'll try to spend as much time as I can with you, but I really can't give up on my job. Can you understand my situation?"
Hearing this, my father's face was slightly hazy, but he finally nodded. I breathed a sigh of relief and quickly changed the subject, asking how my mother was doing lately. However, from that day on, my parents' attitude towards me was obviously a little cold. They rarely take the initiative to communicate with me, and they don't take care of my daughter as much as they used to. I felt very heartbroken and helpless.
When I came home from work one day, I found my parents whispering in the kitchen. When they saw me coming back, they immediately stopped.
"What's the matter, what are you talking about?" I asked curiously.
"It's nothing, it's just chatting. The mother replied vaguely.
I had a vague feeling that they might be discussing something, but I didn't want to ask too much. At dinner, I tentatively said, "Mom, Dad, have you been dissatisfied with anything lately? I feel that you are a little cold to me and my daughter. "
The parents looked at each other, followed by a moment of silence. Eventually, my father said, "We were a little dissatisfied. You know, we're here to take care of you, but you've always treated us like outsiders. "
"Dad, how can I say that? I try my best to take care of your daily life every day, and I try to find time to spend with you. I hurriedly explained.
"Dad, you don't understand, I really can't rely on you and Mom completely. My life alone with my daughter is very stressful, and work is fundamental to sustaining our lives. "I tried to get my father to understand my situation.
"You're just not sensible! Look at your daughter, she's about to start middle school, and you're leaving her in our care! Don't you care about us at all?" The father's emotions became more and more agitated.
"Dad, I'm sad when you say that. I try my best to take care of you every day, but you're just not satisfied. I'm tired too, can you understand my situation?" My eyes were already moist.
"So you should quit your job and take care of us at home!" Father said angrily.
"But I really can't do it! My daughter still has to spend a lot of money to go to school, and the living expenses are also very large. I can't afford this family alone!" I choked up.
"Then you are not filial, and even we old people are not willing to take care of it! What qualifications do you have to be a mother!" The father threw off the dishes and left the restaurant in a rage.
I sat back in my chair, tears welling up in my eyes. My mother patted me on the shoulder and said, "Don't be sad, your dad is just grumpy, and he is actually doing it for your good." "
I shook my head and said, "Mom, I'm really tired, I really can't do what you want." I'd love to take care of you at home, but the reality is so hard. I'm really sorry to disappoint you. "
My mother sighed and comforted me, saying, "Son, you don't have to feel too guilty. It does take a lot of effort to take care of us, and we understand your situation. Your dad is just too stubborn and always very demanding of you. As long as you do your best, we will try to cooperate with you. "
I shook my mother's hand and said gratefully, "Thank you, Mom." I really appreciate your support and understanding. I will continue to work hard, and I hope you can understand my situation. "
Mother nodded, and we cleaned up the table together, temporarily easing the tension between father and daughter.
Since that night's post-dinner argument, the parents' attitude has noticeably become more cold. My father always pointed fingers at me, saying that I was not filial and did not know how to take care of them. Although my mother would occasionally persuade me, she gradually stopped taking the initiative to help me with household chores and take care of my daughter. I felt more and more rusty and helpless.
One day when I came home from work, I found my daughter Xiaowen home alone, and the house was in a mess. I hurriedly went to check and found my daughter falling to the ground, crying incessantly.
"Mom, grandma left me alone at home! I fell and my knees were bruised. Xiaowen said while crying.
I quickly picked up my daughter and examined her wounds. Seeing the abrasions on her knees made my heart clench.
"How did Grandma leave you alone at home, how did you fall, did it hurt anywhere?" I asked with concern.
"I accidentally tripped while I was playing. My grandmother said she was going grocery shopping and left me at home. I waited a long time and she didn't come back. The daughter was crying and sobbing.
I was so anxious and angry that I couldn't care about the injury and went to my parents first. I saw that my father was preparing to go out, and my mother was busy in the kitchen.
"Dad, Mom, how can you leave your daughter alone at home? She fell and was injured, and you didn't care about her!" I asked.
The father frowned and said, "Oh, we just went to buy vegetables, and we didn't really leave her alone." Why are you doing so much, and we haven't done anything wrong. "
"But your daughters are hurt, but you are indifferent, what is this? Do you not even care about your daughter's safety?" I couldn't control my emotions anymore.
Seeing this, the mother hurriedly persuaded: "Daughter, don't be angry, we just have something to do temporarily." You see, we'll be back soon. Xiaowen is just a small bruise, it's not a big deal. "
"But if you leave her alone at home, she will be scared and hurt! I am busy with work every day, and I leave her in your care, and you have not even fulfilled this responsibility!" I'm on the verge of spiraling out of control.
As soon as the father heard this, he immediately became angry again: "What do you mean that we have not fulfilled our responsibilities? You are so busy with your own work that you can't even take care of your daughter, and you blame us in turn! You are just not satisfied with us taking care of you, so that's why you do this to us!"
I looked at my father in disbelief, and my voice trembled: "Dad, how can you say that? I take care of you every day, but you never understand my situation. Now I don't even care about my daughter's safety, you say I'm not satisfied with you?"
The father snorted coldly: "Then don't let us take care of your daughter, anyway, you are doing well by yourself! You just don't know how to be grateful and are not filial!"
I burst into tears and couldn't speak. Seeing this, the mother quickly grabbed her father and tried to persuade her: "Dad, daughter, don't be angry. We are indeed a little negligent in this matter, and we will definitely be more careful in the future. Daughter, you better go and bandage the wound first, don't let it get infected. "
I gritted my teeth and held back tears and silently returned to the bedroom with my daughter in my arms. When Xiaowen saw me crying, she also sobbed quietly. I hugged her tightly, my heart filled with helplessness and anger.
I cried alone in my bedroom for a long time, but finally plucked up the courage to go out and face my parents. The parents were sitting on the sofa with solemn faces.
I took a deep breath and said, "Mom, Dad, I'm tired, really tired. I try my best to take care of you and my daughter every day, but you always think that I am not filial and do not know how to take care. I would also like to be able to take care of you at home, but the reality is too stressful. My work is fundamental to sustaining our lives, and I can't give it up. I also feel sorry for my daughter, but I really can't be there for her all the time. I need your help and understanding. "
The parents were silent for a long time, and finally the mother spoke first: "Daughter, we know that your situation is not easy. In fact, Dad said this out of concern for you and his daughter. We are too stubborn to put ourselves in your shoes. "
The father also sighed and said, "Daughter, we are indeed a little too harsh. You take care of us every day to the best you can, and we are always critical of you. We are so selfish to look out for our own needs and not to understand your situation. It's our fault, I'm sorry. "
I was finally relieved to hear my parents' apology. I stepped forward, shook my parents' hands, and said, "Mom, Dad, I know you have good intentions. But I'm really tired, and I really can't rely on you guys completely. I need your help and understanding. "
The parents nodded and said, "We understand, we will try our best to cooperate with you in the future and not cause you too much trouble." We will also learn to be considerate of your situation and stop asking too much. "
When I heard this, I was very moved. I know that although my parents are a bit stubborn, their original intention is to care for us. I took the initiative to hug my parents and said, "Thank you, I really appreciate your understanding and support." I will continue to work hard and hope that we can get along well as a family. "
My parents hugged me back, and my mother wiped her tears and said, "Daughter, we're really sorry for causing you so much trouble." In the future, we will definitely cooperate with you more and do not disturb your work and life. "
My father also patted me on the shoulder and said, "I'm sorry, daughter." We will definitely take good care of you and your daughter in the future. We will also try not to burden you too much. "
I nodded gratefully, my heart free of the anger and helplessness I had before. I know that the resolution of this conflict has not only made our relationship more harmonious, but also made me know how to cherish the family in front of me more.
Over the past few days, there has been a noticeable change in how we get along as a family. My parents took the initiative to help me take care of my daughter and shared a lot of housework. I often find time to chat and walk with them, which enhances our communication.
One night, we were having dinner together. The father suddenly said, "Daughter, we have caused you too much trouble here. In fact, we also came to make it easier for you, but the result may be counterproductive. "
I nodded and said, "Dad, I know you have good intentions. I also appreciate your care and care for me and my daughter over the years. The conflict between us also made me feel the importance of family more deeply. "
The mother took over and said, "Daughter, we are old and not as healthy as before, and we have indeed caused you a lot of trouble. We tried to help you, but it backfired. It's really not easy for you to support this family alone. "
"Mom, don't say that. The arrival of you and your father has actually brought a lot of benefits to our lives. Not only did you help me take care of my daughter, but you also shared a lot of household chores. Without your help, I wouldn't have survived. I say sincerely.
The father pondered for a moment and said, "Daughter, I'm really sorry we made you feel so hard before. In fact, we do this out of the idea that you can work with peace of mind and make this family happier. But we are too stubborn to understand your situation. "
"Dad, you don't have to say any more. I understand your and Mom's intentions. Our previous conflict made me cherish my current family life even more. I know you're old and not in good health, and I'm worried about you. However, I really appreciate your continued support and help. I say it sincerely.
My mother's eyes moistened, she took my hand and said, "Daughter, we are really guilty. We never thought about your situation and only looked out for our own needs. Now it seems that it is really not easy for you to carry this family alone. We will definitely be more considerate of you in the future and not cause you trouble. "
The father also nodded again and again, and said, "Yes, we will definitely cooperate with you more and no longer be as harsh as before." You've worked hard enough, and we should try to lighten your burden and make this family more harmonious. "
Hearing my parents' sincere apology, a warm current welled up in my heart. I shook my parents' hands and said solemnly, "Dad, Mom, I know that you have always cared for us. I would also like to thank you for your support and help over the years. We are a family and we should understand each other and support each other. In the future, we must get along well and make this family happier and more satisfying. "
My parents nodded in relief, and we smiled as a family. I suddenly realized that the existence of my family is my greatest support. Even if life is difficult, as long as I have the support and understanding of my family, I can keep going.
From that day on, our family got along more and more well. My parents took the initiative to help me take care of my daughter and shared a lot of housework, which made my life much easier. I also often find time to spend with them, and we chat and play sports together, which strengthens our bond with each other.
One day, I came home from work and saw my parents teasing their daughter in the living room. When they saw me come back, my parents said kindly, "Daughter, you're back." We're teaching Xiaowen to play chess, so let's play it too. "
I smiled and walked over and said, "Okay, then I'll join in and have fun." "
When my daughter saw me coming back, she happily ran over and took me by the hand and said, "Mom, grandma taught me how to play chess, it's so interesting! "
I picked up my daughter and kissed her on the cheek and said, "Well, mommy wants to play with you too." "
The three of us sat together in front of the chessboard, chatting while playing chess. From time to time, my parents would remind us of a few words, and the family was happy. Looking at my daughter's focused eyes, my heart was filled with happiness and satisfaction.
In the past, I used to be anxious and helpless, but now I see life as it is. Life may not be perfect, but with the love and support of our loved ones, we can get through it together and achieve happiness and well-being.
I was secretly glad that although I had a conflict with my parents at the beginning, we were able to resolve our differences and resume a close relationship. I also deeply realized that the existence of my family is the most important support and sustenance in my life.
Today, I still juggle my work and family responsibilities, but I no longer feel overly tired and stressed. Because I know that no matter when, with the support and understanding of my parents and daughter, I can always go strong.
In this small family, I am not only a mother, but also a daughter. We care for each other and support each other, forming a harmonious whole. No matter what the future holds, as long as we are still together, I believe that we will be able to overcome any difficulties together and gain more happiness and fulfillment.
It is my sincere hope that my story will inspire and courage others who are also in difficult situations. The existence of family members is undoubtedly our greatest reliance and belief. As long as we can understand and care for each other, we will be able to find our own path to happiness.