In today's society, many people overemphasize material conditions when getting married, while ignoring the emotional foundation. Recently, the news that a 30-year-old woman asked for a 3 million bride price sparked heated discussions.
Source: A 30-year-old woman believes that the grace of her parents should be measured in money, and she asks her future husband to provide a bride price of 3 million yuan based on 100,000 yuan per year. In addition, she also suggested that the husband needed to buy a property and a car, and she did not think that these demands were excessive.
As soon as this incident came out, it immediately caused an uproar on the Internet. Many netizens criticized the woman's request for being too ridiculous and unrealistic. Some voices believe that she is just an ordinary working woman, without a celebrity face or the identity of a rich lady, but she has put forward a sky-high bride price and various material requirements, which is really a princess disease, and she does not realize that her conditions are seriously out of touch with her requirements.
Some people also calculated that if she lived to be 100 years old, according to this standard, the bride price would be as high as 10 million. What's more, what she did was tantamount to prostitution.
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It is true that when anyone gets married, they will consider the other party's economic strength and ability to support their lives, but overemphasizing material conditions and asking for a high bride price is tantamount to using marriage as a tool for material transactions.
We can't help but ask, is this woman looking for a husband, or is she looking for a benefactor? The essence of marriage should not be a material exchange, but should be based on mutual respect, understanding and sincere love between the sexes.
In today's society, many people are still influenced by traditional customs and believe that marrying a wife should have a considerable bride price. But we must face up to the fact that times have changed, that the status of men and women has become equal, and that women should not be seen as commodities that can be bought and sold. A high bride price can only bring temporary material satisfaction, and does not constitute the cornerstone of a happy marriage.
Women themselves should also correct their concept of marriage. Don't have a princess mentality and make excessive material demands on the man. You know, the person you choose, in addition to money, needs to have a warm home. If you marry simply for money, you will eventually lose your true happiness.
Men should also establish an equal view of marriage. Don't think that you can buy each other a lifetime of companionship by spending money. Be genuine about your significant other and don't treat her as a commodity to be traded.
Parents also have a subtle influence on their children's concept of marriage. Material things cannot be used as the sole measure of gifts, let alone unreasonable demands from children. They should lead by example and educate them to establish the right value orientation.
We should also note that behind the high bride price may be hidden the helplessness of many families. In families with limited financial resources, in order to make up for their daughter's bride price, parents have to empty their savings and even borrow money over the years.
This not only increases the financial burden of the family, but also easily leads to post-marital conflicts. The newlyweds should put themselves in the shoes of the other party's family, be cautious about the bride price request, and do not fall into the situation of extravagance and insult.
All sectors of society also need to call for a civilized and rational concept of marriage. Relevant departments may take measures to restrain the negative atmosphere of high bride prices, and guide the public to establish an equal and autonomous view of marriage and love, and a concept of marriage with equal personality. Tieing the knot is not a win-lose game, not a monetary transaction, but rooted in the independent choice and equal contract of both men and women.
Marriage is about the happiness of two families, and it is also about the unrepentant choice of a generation. The parties should not reduce it to a monetary and material transaction. It should be built on the basis of feelings, actively face the ever-changing trivial things in life, and cherish the sweet and bitter companionship, which is the password to happiness.
I hope that every frustrated man and woman can listen to their inner voice quietly in the hustle and bustle, and not be confused by material things and make regretful choices. Let us work together to protect the authenticity and purity of marriage and reshape the true meaning and value of family ethics.
Marriage is a major event in life, and we should be cautious about it, and we should not engage in it as if we were buying and selling. The bride price should not be the only criterion for measuring a relationship, let alone a bargaining chip for material exchange.
In this era, we need to write the true meaning of marriage with equality, reason and true love. It is believed that with the progress of society, this bad habit of objectifying marriage will eventually be eliminated, and true happiness will return to everyone's family.