Don't think about me anymore, we'll never see each other again, I never want you to be in my life and in my life, I beg you to forget me.
Is it true that many people, when they hear such words, will be in a state of despair, completely emotionally broken, thinking that there is no possibility between the two of you at all?
However, ordinary people will only interpret these literal meanings, and will not ponder the psychological state of the predecessor behind these words, so at first glance, the mentality immediately collapses, and then on the road to death, it will never return.
In fact, the ex's ruthlessness is not ruthless, sometimes ruthlessness is the real ruthlessness, you can think about the meaning of this sentence, many friends will put love and ruthlessness on the opposite side, which is actually a wrong perception.
Forgetting is the true ruthlessness, and ruthlessness is the opposite of love.
And the kind of "let's not meet again, you will never appear in my life" said by your so-called ex, this kind of words is not a kind of desperation, a kind of helplessness to love to the point of powerlessness, love to the point of helplessness.
For example, if your predecessor says to you, "Let's stop here."
The first answer is: In that case, let's not meet again, and the second answer is: Okay.
Which of these two answers does you think is more desperate? Obviously, the latter, because the latter represents indifference, the latter represents the ability to forget at any time, and the former is the least, with emotions, with despair in conversation.
Any emotion of despair is actually the opposite of hope, and it is precisely because expectations are not met that there is despair.
So if a person says more words to you, the more emotional they say, it just shows how much he once loved you, and he was just disappointed in the relationship, not giving up.
But this also shows even more: he really can't handle your relationship for the time being, he can't see any hope, and he can't accept this state.
But it doesn't mean how much he hates you, how much he doesn't care about you, if a person can say goodbye to you very calmly, friendly and happy.
When he says goodbye to you with a sense of happiness, then it means that he is forgetting you and forgetting this relationship, and this relationship has really come to an end.
So sometimes the more ruthless your ex is to you, the higher the probability that he will take the initiative to contact you, and the more gentle he is, the lower the probability that he will contact you.
Although the ex will not easily say that they will break up, nor will they easily say that they will get back together, you must know that he and your heart are the same.
The same entanglement, the same inseparability, the same pain, but they are stronger and better at holding on to their emotions.
At this time, you need to show stability, support, understanding, tolerance, waiting, patience, when he sees your reaction so steadily, when he feels this sense of security, he will naturally come back.
Therefore, no matter what type of scorer you are, or how ruthless the other party says to you, every ex's mind is longing for an intimate and long-term happy relationship.
Although there is no standard answer to this happiness, you just need to remember that his desperation for you is a kind of self-preservation, and it is not really that he no longer loves you, nor is it an attack on you.
You must be calm, don't press it step by step, don't make some mistakes, so that you can increase the chance of redemption to the maximum, and it will not affect your relationship in the future after you get back together because of some things in the past.
It's not terrible to fall into a subjective pessimistic thinking, but what's terrible? The terrible thing is that you've read this content, but you still can't get out of your own subjective thinking.
You still think that what you think is right, you still think that this thing is hopeless, then the result is what you think, Murphy's Law tells us that this world is so strange, and what you think often comes.
So how do you break the current situation? I'm going to teach you an ice-breaking formula.
There are three main points that you can use to communicate with the other person using this formula:
1 indicates the correctness of the breakup, 2 expresses understanding of the other party, and 3 quickly comes out of the sadness.
These three points can dispel the other person's emotional dissatisfaction with you, and can also let the other party see that you have an attitude that can be changed, and at the same time, you should also make the other person feel that you "walked" out before the other party, he lost, and you won.
If the other party still doesn't reply to you after seeing this message, then it may be due to the following reasons.
1 I still feel scared of you and need time to calm down.
2 Be rigorous and timid, but still want to observe
3 Your credit is overdrawn and the other party no longer trusts you
So for redeeming someone, it's more like a psychological war, you have to try little by little, try the right answers, and get rid of the wrong answers.
Only after trying until the end can you find the problem, you can break through the opponent's psychological defense, if you haven't found it, you have to keep looking.
Instead of giving up halfway, because you know which point may be the point that the other party cares about, maybe you do it, and you succeed.