"You are nine months pregnant, and you still require a house and a car, preferably a man who has no fertility, you are looking for wrongs, and there is no such stupid person now. The matchmaker looked at the 39-year-old expectant mother Su Manfeng in front of her, and shook her head repeatedly, just because Su Manfeng's request was too outrageous.
Su Manfeng immediately came to the marriage agency on a blind date, and asked for between 35 and 50, a monthly income of more than 4000, a house and a car are good for her, and it is best to have no fertility. The matchmaker has never understood that Su Manfeng looks average, has no money, is 39 years old, and is still nine months pregnant, the key is that she can't recognize herself.
What did Su Manfeng go through that led her to make such an unrealistic request?
Two relationships, ending miserably
Su Manfeng, who was born in the countryside, actually had a marriage when he was in his early twenties. It's just that she was still young at the time, obeyed her parents' arrangement, and married a young man from the same village, and she didn't understand what a real marriage was like at that time.
Sure enough, after Su Manfeng and her young husband got married, the two often quarreled because of disagreements. Besides, at that time, both of them were young and vigorous, and they didn't know how to give steps or humble each other.
Su Manfeng is a delicate idealist, but her husband is a coarse man who doesn't understand the amorous feelings. The marriage of the two lasted five years in the noise, and they divorced after five years.
Having just come out of a broken marriage, Su Manfeng decided to start his life again under the persuasion of the people around him. So she immediately packed her luggage and prepared to go to Changsha to work, away from this sad place.
From the countryside to Changsha, Su Manfeng can be regarded as a person who has seen the world. She began to meet new friends constantly, and she was looking forward to meeting her true son in the big city, and it was at this time that a man came into her life.
The two met at a gathering of friends, and unlike their ex-husbands, the other party was a handsome, tall, and well-mannered man. It can be said that in terms of appearance, he satisfies all of Su Manfeng's imagination.
I heard from a friend that his name is Liu Zhihuan, 5 years younger than Su Manfeng, and he only knows that he works as a sales manager in a foreign company, not only has a considerable income, but the most important thing is that he is also a divorcee. Originally, looking at his conditions in front of him, Su Manfeng was still very worried that he had no chance, but as soon as he heard that he was also divorced, Su Manfeng felt that he could do it again.
So she took the initiative to get the other party's WeChat. started online, but I didn't expect that there were still a lot of common topics between the two people, and this back and forth quickly developed offline.
Su Manfeng is the same as Liu Zhihuan, both of them like romance and pursue love. Gradually, the two confirmed their relationship and began dating every day. Just when Su Manfeng thought that things were going in a good direction, an accident happened - she was actually pregnant. You must know that she has been married to her ex-husband for five years, and she has not been pregnant, the reason is that her physique is not easy to conceive.
This child came too suddenly, and Su Manfeng was half panicked and half surprised. When she shared the good news with her boyfriend, she hoped that the other party would take responsibility and put the marriage of the two on the agenda. What I didn't expect was that Liu Zhihuan's words directly sent Su Manfeng to hell.
Pregnant blind date, matchmaker difficult
"I won't want this child, and I plan to remarry my ex-wife. It turned out that Liu Zhihuan simply regarded Su Manfeng as a spare tire, let alone having a child with her, even if he got married, it was impossible.
Although he divorced his ex-wife, after all, the child followed his ex-wife, and the relationship was continuous, and now his ex-wife was pregnant with his child, and now it was a critical period for remarriage, how could he marry Su Manfeng, not to mention that Su Manfeng was 5 years older than him.
After hearing this, Su Manfeng felt that the sky was about to fall, he had already been divorced once, and now that he was older, the conditions were average, and it was even more difficult to get married.
She originally thought that when she met a man like Liu Zhihuan, she picked up the treasure by herself, but who knew that the other party was a big scumbag. But Su Manfeng didn't want to listen to the other party's words and beat the child out. You must know that it is not easy for you to get pregnant, and she is now 39 years old, and it is even more difficult for a woman to get pregnant once she is over forty years old, and she does not want to miss the only opportunity in her life to be a mother.
Su Manfeng was unwilling, so he found a mediation program and wanted to power Liu Zhihuan, but Su Manfeng didn't know where Liu Zhihuan's unit was, where his family lived, and he had lived with him for a long time, and he didn't ask. The mediator was also speechless after hearing this, this eldest sister is 39 years old, she is still so simple, she has watched too many romance dramas, but she still patiently persuaded her to have a phone call from Liu Zhihuan's friend.
In the end, Su Manfeng remembered an insurance company and had come with Liu Zhihuan, and the mediator hurried to the insurance company, who knew that one of the salesmen had Liu Zhihuan's phone number. So the mediator called Liu Zhihuan, and when Liu Zhihuan learned of the other party's intentions, he unceremoniously asked Su Manfeng not to contact him again, they couldn't do it. immediately hung up the phone, seeing this, the mediator could only persuade Su Manfeng to plan early.
was strongly rejected by Liu Zhihuan, Su Manfeng no longer wanted luxury, but still wanted to give birth to a child, so she began to go for prenatal checkups alone with a big belly. How difficult is it for a woman to want to raise a child on her own? But for Su Manfeng, she had no choice.
As her belly grew bigger day by day, Su Manfeng's body gradually became difficult to move. Sometimes I want to do odd jobs to earn some milk powder money, but I can't do it. As a last resort, she had no choice but to ask her mother's family for help and ask them to take care of her before she gave birth. For this daughter, although the second elder hates iron and steel, he also has to plan for his daughter's future.
"Are you going to live alone like this? You have to find a father for your child in advance!"
Her mother's words were taken to Su Manfeng's heart, and she began to look around for a blind date agency to submit her materials. Some matchmakers see that the other party is not only forty, but also has a big belly, which is to find her a blind date, it is simply as difficult as the sky!
What surprised the matchmaker even more was that she hadn't opened her mouth to refuse, and Su Manfeng actually listed a large list of requirements for the conditions of the blind date-
First of all, the most important thing is to have a house and money, so that you can afford the living expenses after marriage; secondly, you must be between 35 and 50 years old, too big is not good, too small is not good; and finally, you have no fertility, one is that you are older, and it is more difficult to conceive again, not to mention that she does not want to have another child to take the love of her own child.
After listening to Su Manfeng's request, the matchmaker only felt that it was even more difficult. "Nine months pregnant, but busy looking for a pick-up man, what man in this world would be willing to be this wronged man?"
On the Internet, there are mixed reviews
Soon, Su Manfeng's blind date during pregnancy spread on the Internet, and the discussion about her was uninterrupted for a while. Netizens have different opinions on her behavior, and in general, they are on two sides - the support and the opposition.
Netizens who supported her praised her behavior as a brave choice - no matter how old a woman is, she should have the right to pursue her own happiness. It is the unreliable man who is wrong, and the child is innocent. The opportunity to be a mother is so precious, it is the right decision to go to the father and keep the son.
And netizens who oppose her think that Su Manfeng's behavior is not responsible at all. Not to mention that she is an elderly mother, giving birth to this child is risky, the follow-up burden is also large, and the most important thing is that she is now busy looking for a pick-up man, which is not only unfair to others, but also irresponsible to herself, her family, and her children.
Su Manfeng is already an adult who can deal with personal problems, if she knows that it is difficult to raise a child, she should not give birth, but she wants to give birth to herself, and she wants others to raise it, this is very nonsense. And Su Manfeng's own conditions are average, nearly 40 years old, she has no savings, her body and appearance and work are average, why should a man with good conditions choose her, with the same conditions, is it not good to find a young and beautiful one? So Su Manfeng's requirements are only afraid that it will be difficult to achieve.
For Su Manfeng to be so gullible Liu Zhihuan, living together for a long time, the company's address is not clear, like a simple girl who is bigamy by love, she doesn't know each other at all, and as a result, she is scum, to be honest, Su Manfeng is pitiful and pathetic. It's a pity that I met someone unladylike in both marriages, and it's a pity that as an adult, I don't know the other half, so I believe the other party to live together, and finally be abandoned.
Of course, in the final analysis, Su Manfeng can't be blamed for all this, she doesn't want to suffer two failed relationships, she doesn't want to be abandoned by men, and she doesn't want to go on a blind date with a big belly at such an old age. All this is forced by life and circumstances.
All the matchmakers heard that Su Manfeng's conditions were demanding, and either politely refused, or directly said that her conditions were too high. In the end, she could only return to her hometown, her mother's family had a sister-in-law, she couldn't go back, to the eldest sister's house, the eldest sister said that it was inconvenient, and persuaded her not to be ambitious, to find an honest man to marry, but Su Manfeng didn't want to marry an honest man who gave money, but in desperation, she could only obey the eldest sister's arrangement of a blind date, and finally someone was willing to accept her and the child, and she was 5 years younger than Su Manfeng, but the other party worked in general, and was not motivated, loved to play cards, and had no money, so Su Manfeng couldn't look down on it.
Then under the care of her family, she gave birth to a healthy baby, looking at the baby, Su Manfeng was very satisfied, but then she began to worry, she didn't know what to do, she couldn't raise a child by herself, she still hoped to find her other half, the kind with the same conditions, in fact, since the child was born, she couldn't raise it, it was best to find Liu Zhihuan and ask for child support, otherwise it would be handed over to the law to solve.
Su Manfeng's experience warns everyone that as an adult, you should be responsible for your own actions, love is emotional, but you should also understand your other half, don't be blind, otherwise it will be too late to regret it. At the same time, I also hope that Su Manfeng can find a suitable blind date. What do you think of Su Manfeng's experience and requirements?
Resources
An Analysis of the Marriage and Love Situation of Contemporary Chinese Youth
French media: Why do young Chinese people not want to get married?
The city of Hunan is pregnant in September