Some people say that all relationships in this world are a game.
When you are in love, you are each other's only, and when you are married, you are each other's all.
Actually, in essence, there is nothing wrong with this statement.
Everyone wants to find someone who is good to them, but few people can really understand the other person's heart.
I like what is good about him, and I dislike what is bad about him.
Many times, you are always complaining that you have given a lot, but you have never received recognition and response from the other party.
In fact, the most comfortable relationship in a relationship has always been two words: tolerance.
- Tolerance is a kind of understanding
Writer Li Bihua said: "True love is not nervous, that is, you can burp, fart, pick your ears, and have a runny nose in front of him without any scruples; ”
I think so.
Many people always feel that to love someone, you have to tolerate all his shortcomings and shortcomings, and they can't wait to hold each other in the palm of their hands and spoil them.
However, everyone has their own temperament and personality, and the more you tolerate him, the more he will gain inches, and the more you understand him, the more he will become stronger.
Over time, you will feel that you are particularly wronged.
In fact, to tolerate a person is to learn to understand and be considerate of the other person's difficulties and hardships.
There's a good saying: "No one is perfect, and it's impossible to satisfy everyone." ”
In this world, everyone has their own thoughts and personalities, and you should learn to tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings.
Don't always accuse the other person of not doing well or not being perfect, but try to understand him from the other person's point of view.
This way you can truly understand what the other person wants, what they hate, and what they care about.
- Tolerance is a kind of trust
For marriage, trust is the cornerstone of affection, and tolerance is the glue of affection.
When two people are together, what they are most afraid of is not quarreling, but not even having a chance to explain after a quarrel.
Once trust is lost, it is difficult to repair it.
But if both people know how to be tolerant, then all problems will be solved.
In "Love Defense", there is a couple who often quarrel over trivial things in life.
After every quarrel, the husband will prevaricate his wife on the grounds that he is too busy with work, has no time, is stressed, etc.
For the sake of family harmony, the wife can only choose to endure it again and again, but in exchange for her husband's intensification.
In the third year after the marriage, the husband met a woman outside.
Later, the woman became pregnant, and she thought she was going to be a mother.
So she called her husband and said, "I'm pregnant. ”
The husband said, "Isn't this when you were pregnant? Why are you telling me now?"
- Tolerance is a kind of encouragement
Someone said, "A person who truly loves you will want to tolerate all your shortcomings." ”
Actually, there is nothing wrong with this statement.
No one is perfect, everyone will make mistakes, but people who know how to tolerate will choose to tolerate each other after making mistakes.
This kind of tolerance is not because of cowardice and humility, but because of encouragement.
Like Strickland, the male protagonist in "The Moon and Sixpence", he was a painter with no morals before he became famous.
He has a rich imagination and creativity, but he is disgusted and disgusted with his family, loved ones, and children.
His wife couldn't stand his character and behavior and left him.
The family also thought he was a sick person and just wanted to put him in a psychiatric hospital as soon as possible.
Even his best friend sneered at him, calling him a madman.
But Strickland has always been convinced: "I painted their ugliest, dirtiest side, but at the same time their best, most beautiful side." ”
Because of this, he chose to paint, and eventually became a famous painter.
Because of the incomprehension and cynicism of his family and friends, Strickland did not back down and gave up.