It is often said that "a woman is like a flower", but the beauty of a flower is determined by its roots. Therefore, women are like flowers, and they must have an excellent core while having a beautiful appearance. Only in this way can you maintain a calm heart in your marriage.
I think most people's first reaction is "firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea", yes, this is indeed the most basic form of marriage.
Marriage is called marriage because it not only satisfies the most basic needs of life, but also adds more to it. In this way, two people can have more time to communicate and spend time together.
However, after getting married, many women forget their original goals and dreams, and only care about filling things at home, but neglect to improve themselves. As a result, he lost his independence and survival skills.
- Have independent financial capacity
As the saying goes: "The economic base determines the superstructure". Nowadays, there are many women in society who will begin to relax themselves after marriage and no longer try to improve themselves. And their husbands don't change because of the laxity of the woman, they take it for granted.
In the long run, such a marriage will only get more and more tiring, until one day you find that you can no longer live a normal life with your husband, but you can no longer leave him.
Therefore, women must have their own independent financial ability, so that they can have the confidence to say "no" to their husbands. Only when you are financially independent can you no longer be looked down upon by your husband and maintain a calm heart in your marriage.
Just like Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", after getting married, he stopped improving himself and revolved around his husband and children all day long. In exchange for her husband's incomprehension and betrayal.
- Have a good attitude
A woman's mentality determines whether she is a happy woman or an unhappy woman.
Those women with a good attitude, no matter what difficulties they encounter in their marriage, they can face them with a positive and optimistic attitude.
And those women who have a bad mentality, even if they encounter great difficulties, they will complain about their husbands and complain about fate.
Over time, there will be rifts between husband and wife, and even irreparable consequences.
Therefore, it is important to have a good mindset at all times so that you can go further in your marriage.
Of course, a good attitude does not mean that you should be a "resentful woman", but that you should maintain a peaceful, optimistic and positive attitude.
Because only in this way can you not make a fuss and complain when facing various problems in life.
On the contrary, if a woman is always suffering from gains and losses, and emotional ups and downs, then she can easily be bound by marriage.
For example, when you encounter a small setback, you wonder if you have married the wrong person, or blame others for all your misfortunes.
The result will only make men more and more bored with you and even want to run away from you.
- Have independent hobbies
After getting married, many women give up their hobbies and hobbies, and only revolve around their families and children every day. It's actually very dangerous to do this, because once the man is gone, your life will be a blank slate.
Many women think that they are responsible for their children and their families, but in fact they are just deceiving themselves.
Children are growing up day by day, and their minds are maturing. If you give up your hobbies at this time, then there will be a growing generation gap with your children.
And if you lose your independence and survival skills, you can easily be abandoned by men. After all, this is a society full of competition and pressure, and women can only ensure that they have a place in society by constantly improving their abilities.
Of course, if you have independent interests, that's a great thing. After all, there can be many ways to live in life, so why do you have to limit yourself to this one?
As a woman, you must have independent interests and hobbies. In this way, you can not only live a full and happy life, but also enrich your spiritual world.