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Two days ago, a novice mother in the mother group asked: My baby is almost 8 months old, and he is not very good at crawling until now, and the people around him say that there is a problem with development, do I need to take him to the doctor?
A more experienced mother replied: If you don't feel at ease, go and see, there is generally no problem. My child couldn't climb at the age of 9 months, and now his 5-year-old athletic ability is very good, not bad!
In the process of children's growth and development, we can always hear a lot of mantras, such as, "three turns, six sitting, seven rolling, eight climbing, twelve walking", "three turning, six sitting, nine climbing, October is called big"......
Many novice mothers are convinced of this, and some elderly people even use this as a standard to observe their children's development.
So is this kind of experience like "three turns, six sittings and eight climbs" scientific?
Not all children meet the "three turns, six sittings, eight crawls"
According to the statistics of children's growth and development, in fact, not all children's growth and development are in line with the experience of "three turns and six sitting".
In fact, in real life, there are many babies who do not roll over at 4 or 5 months, but tracking shows that the children's motor ability has not been seriously affected when they grow up.
Novice mothers are easily nervous due to their inexperience, and they are worried once they find out that their child's gross motor development is slow.
But every child has their own growth and development curve, just as no two leaves in the world are exactly the same, and children have their own development, so mothers should not worry too much about this.
Of course, if the child's gross motor development lags significantly behind that of peers, such as being unable to walk independently at the age of 1 and a half, it is still recommended that parents seek help from a professional doctor.
However, it is important to know that the sensitive period of major actions is not a fixed point in time, but a broad range.
This means that we don't need to be rigid about the need for children to develop according to a certain timetable.
This requires parents to grasp the correct growth law in order to avoid external biases that affect our judgment of their children.
Deliberately summarized several key major movement rules in the process of children's development, you can compare them to see if the child meets the standard.
●Turning over (4~6 months):
Although there has always been a saying of "three turns and six sitting", in fact, most babies only begin to learn to turn over at 4~6 months, and only a few babies begin to turn over at 3 months.
And the average child will release some signals before they are ready to roll over. Like what:
- Your baby begins to like to lie on his side in one direction;
- When the baby is lying on his stomach, he begins to consciously raise his head;
- Parents can sit up without leaning back by gently holding their child's hands with both hands.
When you have these signals, it means that your child is ready to turn over.
●Sitting(7~8 months):
Most babies can sit independently at the age of 7~8 months.
However, it should be noted that babies who have just learned to sit should try not to sit for a long time, so as not to affect the development of the spine due to sitting for a long time due to the imperfect development of bones.
●Climbing (8~10 months):
Statistics show that the time it takes for babies to crawl varies greatly, some children may crawl at 6 months, but some children may not crawl until 1 year old. However, most of them learn to climb between 8~10 months.
Many parents are reluctant to let their children climb more at this stage, and always feel that the ground is too dirty.
However, studies have found that crawling is very important for the development of large movements such as muscle control and balance, and parents should encourage their babies to crawl more.
●Station (10~12 months):
I wonder if there is a baby around you who starts standing very early?
I've seen a baby who was able to stand at 8 months, and parents are very proud of that.
However, from the perspective of child development, it is not recommended to exercise standing and walking skills too early. Training too early can have an impact on your child's spinal muscles.
So it is recommended that standing should be trained between 10~12 months.
●Walking (11~18 months):
Most of the babies around them begin to walk independently after reaching the age of one year, and the latest will not exceed 1 and a half years old, which is also the normal time range for babies to walk.
However, if the child is still unable to walk after the age of 1 and a half, it is recommended that parents pay attention to it and it is best to seek professional evaluation.
You see, "three turns, six sittings and eight climbs" is not a fixed standard. In fact, as long as our children do it within the above time frame, it will be fine.
Children can't grow and develop quickly
In the matter of children's growth and development, we can't blindly pursue fast, and some things are done too early, which will affect the baby's development. Like what:
●Do not introduce solid food too early
Many babies will be very interested in seeing adults eating, and some parents can't help but feed adults when they see their children like it so much.
However, it should be reminded that when the baby is not yet 6 months old, it is not recommended to consume solid food.
Before the age of 6 months, breast milk or formula milk is the main source of nutrition for babies. Consuming solid foods too early can cause stress on your baby's digestive system and even trigger an allergic reaction.
Parents are advised to be patient and introduce a variety of foods gradually and scientifically according to the advice of the pediatrician.
●Premature cessation of breast milk
The American Academy of Pediatrics advocates continued breastfeeding until the infant reaches the age of one year, while the Continental Society of Nutrition goes a step further and recommends breastfeeding until the child's age of two years.
The long-chain unsaturated fatty acids contained in breast milk play a vital role in the baby's brain development until the baby reaches the age of one.
A study published in the Journal of General Psychiatry showed that breastfed babies had an average IQ 7.5 points higher than those who were not breastfed.
But in real life, many working mothers choose to give their children breast milk and change milk powder not long after their maternity leave.
It is recommended that if possible, breastfeeding should be stopped after 1 year of age.
●Toilet training too early
Some parents may want their children to get rid of diapers as soon as possible and start potty training very early.
However, for children under the age of 2, they are not physically and mentally ready for potty training.
Potty training too early can be stressful and even cause them to resist going to the toilet.
In general, training is smoother when your child has shown interest in going to the toilet and understands the concept of going to the toilet.
●Leave your child alone too early
As parents, we all know that children's independence is very important, and many parents will consciously cultivate their children's independence when their children are very young.
But we would like to say that for children under 2 years old, they still need a lot of companionship and interaction. Leaving children alone too early may affect their emotional development and social skills.
Before the age of 2, parents should interact with their children as much as possible, participate in their play, and help them build a sense of security.
Finally, I would like to say that every child has his own growth law, and we don't have to take the experience of "three turns, six sittings and eight climbs" as an iron law.
Instead, we need to use more scientific parenting knowledge, identify false information, and find out what is useful for our children, so as not to panic, what do you say?