Not all gatherings are fun.
Find a weekend when everyone is not too busy, make an appointment with dozens of classmates, have a drink, and catch up.
In a flash, it has been more than 20 years since I graduated from high school, and I want to see how my classmates are mixing, whether they have thinning hair and a big belly.
Actor Song Dandan said: "'You can't have both youth and youthful knowledge. It was only when I entered middle age that I realized how profound it was. ”
If this is the case, no matter how much you read, you can't become wisdom without experiencing the beating of society.
The truth of middle-aged life was revealed one by one by a party.
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When people reach middle age, their classmates will not be at the same level.
Actor Du Ruoxi shared a scene on the Internet of the reunion of the students of the 02 acting class of the Shanghai Theater Academy, and celebrities such as Lei Jiayin and Sun Yizhou were present.
Everyone said yes, treat people equally, but there are more shots of Lei Jiayin, and there are more people talking to him. I can't help it, and I regard people who are more famous as the protagonists.
The concept of human hierarchy cannot be erased in the end.
Someone made a life hierarchy chart. If you go to different universities and mix different units, you will be positioned at different levels.
My classmate Lao Li, after graduating from high school, went to Dongguan to work.
By chance, he set up an electronic processing factory. At first, it was a small grinding machine, and later there were more than a dozen grinding machines, with an annual income of hundreds of thousands.
In contrast, several students who were admitted to university were much bleaker.
In addition to academic qualifications, units, and positions, the amount of people's income also affects the level of people.
Students of different levels, when they get together again, there are subtle changes in human feelings. There are also high-level people who refuse to be gregarious, just have a few drinks with everyone at will, find an excuse to be "very busy", and leave the table early. Perhaps, people are really in a hurry.
When I was in school, I did an experiment: put a few drops of oil, drop it into a glass of water, and stir it repeatedly. After a while, the water and oil are still separated, and the oil floats.
It turns out that when people reach middle age, they have different levels and will not blend. People in high places can't climb high, and people in low places can't pull up.
02
When people reach middle age, only the family remains.
Have you noticed that no matter how many people toast you, it is your family who helps you home.
There is no feast in the world. If there is, it is a family feast.
When classmates get together, they have to drink a few glasses, and it's just right to be red-faced. If you don't drink, you will appear unsociable and ruin everyone's fun.
No matter how good you are, if you take turns toasting with your classmates, you have to get drunk, and at least you will feel dizzy.
There were a lot of people around, chatting with the sea and the sky. talked about the past, as well as the current work, and introduced the situation of starting a family.
There are also classmates who once had a crush on you, and when they reached middle age, they said it generously.
When you get home, you suddenly find that it is like a dream, you don't know anyone, and you don't have any feelings left.
Only the lover is silently with you, and the child is also worried that you will be drunk. My lover hopes that you are safe, and you have to go to work tomorrow to earn money, and children can't live without their parents, they need a complete home.
03
When people reach middle age, no matter how many classmates there are, they can only cross by themselves.
I've heard a saying: "People who used to talk about mountains together later talked about 'connections'." ”
You and I both want to find a reliable person in the group of classmates and pull yourself. Or, leave someone's contact details for backup.
Sun Bin during the Warring States period also thought so.
When he was learning the art of war from Guiguzi, he met Pang Juan.
Pang Juan has completed his studies and wants to go to Wei to seek development.
Sun Bin sent Pang Juan out of the valley and on the road.
Looking at Pang Juan's back, Sun Bin shouted: "Classmate, don't forget me." ”
Pang Juan didn't reply, and replied: "Classmate, come to Wei to find me." ”
Tragically, Pang Juan became the general of Wei, but he was jealous of Sun Bin who came to take refuge in him, causing Sun Bin to lose his kneecap.
In the end, Sun Bin fled to the State of Qi and made great achievements.
The current classmates will not be as vicious as Pang Juan. But when you contact your classmates, they don't answer the phone and don't reply to messages. Know that you ask someone to do something, and decisively refuse.
If you are destitute and have to borrow money, you find that you have almost no classmates.
finally understood: "There are eight hardships in life, all of which need to be overcome by themselves." ”
If you have a future, you are the biggest network.
04
When people are middle-aged, they have no money and no power, so it is recommended not to attend the party.
I have seen such a story: When Qi Baishi was down, he was invited to a party.
When he arrived at the meeting place, no one paid any attention to him.
When Mei Lanfang arrived, everyone stood up to welcome him and shook hands with him.
Mei Lanfang once asked Qi Baishi for advice on how to paint, so she walked to Qi Baishi as soon as possible, shook hands, and arranged the position.
All the people saw the wind and made the rudder, and they were respectful to the white stone.
When we are praising Mei Lanfang's respect for teachers, we should see the fact that no one asks about being poor in the downtown area.
Classmates who have nothing always sit in the corner in obscurity, raise their glasses, and want to drink with people, and they have no confidence.
If dozens of classmates get together, there are always one or two people in the forgotten corner.
In the TV series "Zhang Weiguo's Summer", Zhang Weiguo, who was riding a bicycle, arrived at the door of the hotel where the party was held, but was driven away by the security guards. If it weren't for the classmates who drove luxury cars, they might not have been able to get off the stage in time.
Class reunions, most of which are AA systems. If you don't have money, you don't have money, you don't scrape together, you don't go to meetings, that's fine.
When people reach middle age, they want to break every penny and use it, so why spend money on meaningless food and drink? Go to a party and sit on a cold bench, this is not your intention.
05
Writer Liang Shiqiu said: "The fun of middle age lies in knowing life and knowing oneself, so as to do what one can do and enjoy the life one can enjoy." ”
There is no one worthy of your admiration, no one is worthy of your contempt, and you need to look back on yourself.
is no longer the age to go to the end of the world with a sword, and you no longer rely on the strength of the crowd, you have to return to the reality of life after all.
Class reunions, it doesn't matter if you go or not, if you go, it depends on the state of life, and if you don't go, you will accept people to go to tea and cool.
It is better to forget each other in the rivers and lakes.
Source: Cloth Coarse Food