I am Qin Shumin, 60 years old this year, retired for many years, with a monthly pension of 5200, and my wife has been gone for three years.
The only son has already started a family, and they always say that they should accumulate more wealth while they are young and give their children a rich home.
In the face of the concept of my son and daughter-in-law, I also promised them that if I have a child, I will definitely help.
Three years ago, my wife had just retired for half a year, and we were still immersed in the journey of playing together.
My wife said that her legs were getting weaker and weaker, and they discussed with me that we should go home first.
After going home to recuperate for a period of time, my wife had strength in her legs and feet, so we set off again to see the beautiful scenery in Jiuzhaigou.
hurriedly ended the pleasant sojourn and returned home, the wife not only ate less, but her spirit became worse and worse.
I was in a hurry to take my wife to the hospital for examination, several large hospitals, and well-known experts consulted, only to learn that my wife had advanced lung cancer.
It turned out that my wife's legs and feet were weak, she couldn't eat, and it had nothing to do with exercise or emotion, but she was sick.
After several rounds of dialysis, my wife refused to let me spend any more money and insisted on not allowing the hospital to use imported medicines.
"Life and death have life and wealth, you have tried your best, I have worked hard, I want to think about your future. ”
Whenever my wife knew that the doctor gave him medicine outside of medical insurance, she pulled out the infusion tube by herself, and when it was serious, she lost her temper with me.
Half a year later, my wife closed her eyes forever by my side and left me with a considerable amount of savings.
Looking at the transfer record given to me by my wife on my mobile phone, my heart is dripping blood, this is the companion who has been with me for more than 30 years.
At the end of his life, he thought about my future life, not his own desire to survive.
When my wife passed away, I have been sticking to my hometown, and I will visit him as long as it is related to my wife.
My son and daughter-in-law will come back before Qingming and accompany me to visit my wife, burn paper for him, and sit next to him to say something from the heart.
I also mentioned to my son from the side that I want them to have a child, so that I have a new concern and it will be better.
My son also said that they were thinking about it, and when they adjusted their bodies, I should not worry, cultivate some hobbies, and not be lonely.
This year, I finally got the heart to do something else and started exercising with my sisters in the community.
Alone at home, I began to record the first half of my life on the Internet, and I would also write some thoughts about my wife.
The living always have to move forward, always dwell on the past, and it is also a disturbance to themselves and to the deceased.
The winter snow drifted by, the spring breeze blew, and it was Qingming again, and the son drove back alone this time.
We went to visit my wife together, and I asked my son and daughter-in-law if they were pregnant, why didn't they come back?
My son was hesitant at first, so he made a bunch of excuses, and I understood that there was something wrong with them.
After waiting patiently for another night, when my son was leaving, he finally mustered up the courage to tell me that my daughter-in-law did not want to come again in the future.
The daughter-in-law said that she didn't want children, she just wanted to live her life quietly for the rest of her life, and it was too troublesome to raise children.
I asked my son what he thought, and he said that he also thought that he would be better off without children.
In the end, my son told me that they all feel quiet and comfortable without children now.
When my in-laws and I are old, and my son and daughter-in-law are retired, we can take care of our own mothers, and we don't have to worry about whose mothers to support them.
The daughter-in-law said that the money for having children and raising children is enough for them to support their old age, and it is even more cost-effective than raising children.
In my opinion, this is what young people are doing nowadays to "cut off their offspring". The son is our only son, and they don't want children, but they don't just break it.
I didn't get angry in front of my son, and I didn't say anything bad about my daughter-in-law, after all, they are not my children.
My son can not listen to my persuasion, and he also feels that raising a child is troublesome and expensive, so what qualifications do I have to persuade my daughter-in-law.
Nodding silently and saying that I knew, I began to think about how I would live in the future.
Raising children to prevent old age, to us is a luxury, this year the son came back alone to the grave, a few years later may not come back.
In my old age, I count on my son to support and take care of him after retirement, and I may not know who will take care of whom and who will give whom money to spend?
It's better to take advantage of the fact that my body is still okay, and I still have the savings left by my wife in my own hands, and enjoy the moment.
After my wife left, I thought that my wife would rather leave early than spend the money to help my son pay off the mortgage early.
I discussed with my son and took out 2,800 from my pension to help my son pay off part of the mortgage, so that they could have a child sooner.
Now it seems that I am amorous, and my daughter-in-law has long been prepared to have the idea of not having children, but she is just perfunctory to me again and again.
In this case, there is no need for me to help them pay off the mortgage, cut off the payment, spend all the money on myself, and live a more chic life.
I figured it out and sent my son a long email with his thoughts and plans.
Starting next month, I'm going to stop helping them with their mortgages to cover my travels.
I don't need my son and daughter-in-law to be responsible for my future, just whoever has their own life.
I went out to play as a guide, first went to Jiuzhaigou, and fulfilled the wish of my deceased wife.
Then, find a favorite place to do an in-depth sojourn and slowly experience a different life.
Meet different people, make new partners, live a different rest of your life, and never tie your days to your son again.
Instead of expecting my son's family to have a baby and bring me a new hope in life, it is better for me to bravely go out of the house and live my own life.
The parents of our generation of only children have never really lived for themselves.
At the end of my life, my wife was worried about my future, my son's mortgage, and I would rather suffer than spend all the money.
And when I lost my wife, I wanted to help my son pay off the mortgage first, instead of enjoying the old life myself.
Since they don't want children and don't want to come back to visit their wives' graves, what else can I not let go?
Take advantage of everything in time, plan your life well, let go of the past, and let go of your son.
Put on your backpack, bring your heart, go out of the house, go to a wider world, and live the life you want.
Do you think my choice is the right one? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
The pictures in the article come from the Internet.
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