Author: Peanut
On April 11, a piece of news suddenly appeared on the hot search.
Jin Xing officially announced his remarriage on Weibo.
She said:
In 2006, in order to settle a household registration for the child, I had no choice but to divorce, and after 18 years I re-registered and remarried, which also witnessed our feelings and responsibilities all the way; today is Hans's birthday, double happiness is coming! I also wish the world a lover to become a family eventually! Everything life gives you is what you need to experience.
When how many people saw this news, their first reaction was: they actually divorced before.
But many people also carefully discovered that Venus not only chose the date of Hans's birthday to post Weibo, but even chose the time to post Weibo at 13:14.
It's no wonder that everyone sincerely sent their blessings after reading it.
I have to say that this relationship has gone from being controversial to unanimously recognized, and Venus's business in this relationship is very remarkable.
Marriage is indeed inseparable from wisdom.
Who is Venus?
Her biggest label should actually be a modern dance artist.
The entertaining news makes people forget her artistic highlights, but even so, it still does not affect her status in modern dance.
In 1985, Jin Xing won the gold medal in the junior men's group at the first "Taoli Cup", which gave her a second-class meritorious service. It was from this that she began her sparkling artistic career.
She pioneered men's pointe dancing;
She has won many international awards and won international reputation for China;
She also founded China's first private dance company.
Some people even commented on her like this: Jin Xing's name was once equated with Chinese modern dance.
It's no exaggeration to say that you can't get used to her, but you can't erase her artistic achievements.
Unfortunately, more people are still paying attention to Venus as a star.
What impressed many people the most was that this sister was not afraid of offending people's bold remarks.
She complained that the Chinese love to compare:
Sooner or later to get married, sooner or later to have children, and even more to have children, Westerners Shakespeare, we are comparing everything.
She complained that Pan Shiyi donated money to Harvard University:
Rich people only help rich people. And what about these people down there? You don't care? How many children can you save with that money you give to Harvard? If you do a good job in China's basic education, you will have great merit.
She complained about the unqualified queue cutters:
If you encounter a queue, remember to always let them go first, our days will be long.
She dares to be tough on the top of the capital, and she also dares to criticize social phenomena, and she must distinguish right from wrong in black and white with her mouth.
As strong as Venus's remarks are her life.
She has done transsexuality.
She had a fake marriage to her first wife in order to stay in the United States.
She also adopted three children.
- Each of these things is beyond the knowledge of many people.
But Venus, who was in a hurry, did it almost without thinking about it.
Life only comes once, so what she pursues is to leave no regrets.
However, it is precisely because of this that her later married life is full of controversy.
Many people are questioning:
With so many complicated pasts, is it true that her husband chose her solely because of love?
Is this marriage union because of love or because of interests?
Regarding this issue, Venus is really not worried.
Because at the beginning of the fight, Hans didn't know her at all.
Venus meets Hans at the airport in France, and at first it was only a glimpse.
But this glance made both of them remember each other.
Venus's first impression of the man was: What kind of taste? such a serious face with such an active tie.
She simply thought Hans looked glaring.
What Hans thought was: this woman must be a Chinese woman living in France, this kind of woman is very proud, don't take the initiative to answer.
He felt that Venus was very far away.
This was the end of their relationship.
But when the two got on the plane, they found that they were not only on the same flight, but even their positions were next to each other.
So, during this 12-hour trip, the two began to have a brief contact.
At that time, Venus did not expect that the man next to him would be his future other half, but regarded the other party as a companion who would never see each other again after 12 hours.
So she didn't think much of what she said, and she introduced herself to Hans: a dancer and a single mother of three.
She also specially "scared" Hans: My three children were born to three different men.
Venus's words did come as a surprise to Hans.
But Hans's reaction was also not expected by Venus.
Hans replied to her with great surprise: Chinese women are too great.
A few years later, Venus still couldn't help but laugh when she remembered Hans's reaction.
But at that time, Venus still felt that their fate was only 12 hours, so she didn't explain much.
She thought, "I'll explain to him so much, and I'll be done with a good trip."
But fate is even stronger than she imagined.
Just the next day, Hans took the initiative to call her and invite her: Can I treat you to coffee?
He also boldly confessed: I think I have found the woman I like, the woman in my life.
Venus naturally didn't believe it, when the two met, she deliberately wore an overcoat and held her youngest child in her arms, she just wanted this way to make Hans more aware of the reality that she was a mother.
After meeting, Venus told all his stories without concealment.
She told Hans bluntly: After thinking about it, it is not so simple to fall in love with me.
Venus thought this would scare Hans off.
But two days later, Hans called again: I decided that I would meet with you again.
Four months later, they were in a relationship.
Many people have doubted Hans's sincerity.
But over time, the hearts of the people will be seen.
Hans and Venus's love for many years has gradually made the people who questioned it back then become the ones who blessed them.
Many people will feel that in the relationship between the two, Hans's tolerance is the most important bond in this relationship.
But looking back at their stories, the wisdom of Venus is also hard to ignore.
In a show, Jin Xing seriously shared the method of managing marriage.
Her answer is two words: honesty.
What is Candour?
Venus takes marriage as an example.
In the current marriage market, as soon as you open your mouth, you will first put out your own good conditions, and show your high education, good looks, and high income, and the success rate of these later is often very low.
But if it is the other way around, first make it clear that you have a bad temper and grow fat, in short, if you put your unconfident situation first, then once the other party can accept it, the success rate will be very high.
Because-"When you really know this person, you will surprise him more every day, and what comes out every day is your strengths, which is much stronger than the shortcomings that come out every day."
And Venus does the same.
As soon as she met Hans, she told her about herself.
She also confessed her shortcomings: I don't have a good temper, I'm very domineering, and I don't have a sense of time when I dance.
She even said cruelly: If you want to enter my family, if the two of us live together, the child is the first, you are the second, don't compete with the child for the limelight, let's really live a good life, and when the child leaves home at the age of 18, the two of us are officially old husbands and wives and start to live.
She didn't say a good thing.
But it is a very realistic thing for husband and wife to live.
Instead of turning their faces and accusing each other and even fighting, it is better for the two of them to sit at the negotiation table honestly at the beginning and show the bottom line.
After all, you have to be realistic.
You don't have to pretend to have a kitchen and you can still earn money to support your family.
I don't need to say that I am tall and handsome, have a house and a car, and can give you the card to swipe at will.
Everyone is just an ordinary person, and they want to find another ordinary person, and then live an ordinary life together.
If you're willing to accept my shortcomings, I'm okay with yours too.
So, let's work together to live a good life.
The world is a huge grass platform, and the important thing for a perfect marriage is not the excellence of two people, but the mutual understanding and tolerance of two people.
So, learn to be honest, start being honest, be honest with each other, and hope that everyone can find the right other half like Venus!