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My name is Xiaoli, I am 28 years old and I am a young mother. My husband, Xiao Wang, is 30 years old and is a middle manager of a company who is very busy at work. We have a 5-year-old son, Xiao Ming. My parents are typical rural elders, old-fashioned and traditional, and have high expectations for me and Xiao Wang. My brother-in-law's family also lives in our hometown, and my brother-in-law's wife is very strict in managing the family's affairs and often makes irresponsible remarks about us.
Our family lives in an ordinary rural area, the house is not big but it is fairly tidy. My parents are getting older and in deteriorating health, and they often need to be cared for. Xiao Ming attends a nearby primary school, and because of my work relationship with Xiao Wang, he is often taken care of by his parents. The life at home is quite peaceful, but Xiao Wang is too busy with work and is a little cold to me and Xiao Ming.
In fact, I have always wanted to take Xiao Ming back to his parents' house to accompany his parents, but Xiao Wang is always very opposed. He didn't find it interesting to go back to the countryside and didn't want to leave his job for too long. However, recently, I have been missing my parents more and more, and I often dream of them being alone, and my heart is sad.
"Lili, my brother-in-law's family is here!" Xiao Wang shouted in the living room.
I hurriedly came out of the kitchen, only to see my brother-in-law's family already sitting on the floor.
"Why didn't you say a word to me?" I asked my brother-in-law a little unhappily.
I looked at my brother-in-law's wife, and she nodded, looking proud. I know she's a point-in-cheek person, and it's not a good thing to live with us.
"Okay, just don't say a kind word. I said with a forced smile.
When the parents heard the movement, they also happily came out of the back room and greeted the brother-in-law's family warmly.
After my brother-in-law's family settled in with us, the atmosphere of the New Year gradually filled the house. My brother-in-law's wife cooks a table of good dishes every day, and the fragrance wafts throughout the house. The parents happily sat on the kang head, praising the craftsmanship of the little brother-in-law's wife from time to time. Xiao Ming is also very happy, because he has the children of his brother-in-law's family as companions.
It's just that whenever I think of Xiao Wang working in the field, I feel quite lonely in my heart. I often dream of his tired figure, longing for him to come back as soon as possible and our family can be reunited.
"Lili, your father and I are so happy to be at home with us. Mom smiled and said to me earnestly.
I actually want to stay a little longer, but I'm afraid that Xiao Wang will be unhappy.
"What? You're going to stay at home a little longer?" On the phone, Xiao Wang's voice sounded quite unhappy.
"Then what am I going to do when I'm out of town? Are you just so indifferent to my feelings?!" Xiao Wang directly interrupted my words, and my emotions were a little out of control.
"Okay, you can do whatever you like, I don't want to say anything more!" Xiao Wang hung up the phone coldly.
I covered my forehead and sighed. This can make things stiff, and it seems that it is not easy to get Xiao Wang.
Xiao Wang's reaction put me in a dilemma. On the one hand, I wish I could spend more time with my parents, after all, they are getting older, and I don't feel comfortable leaving them alone at home. On the other hand, I also understand Xiao Wang's feelings, after all, he must be working hard in the field alone.
"Lili, let's have a good talk. He said, "I know you're thinking about your parents, but it's not easy for me to be out there alone." "
"I understand, but Mom and Dad need us to be there even more. I persuaded him bitterly, "And Xiao Ming will also have someone to take care of at home." "
"Are you trying to leave me aside, then?" Xiao Wang's tone became a little excited again.
I sighed, feeling that it was difficult on both sides.
"Lili, it's really worrying to see you alone. "My brother-in-law's wife saw my troubles and took the initiative to persuade me.
"Hey, let's talk about it. I spread my hands helplessly.
"In my opinion, you young people are just too ignorant. The brother-in-law's wife said in a preachy tone, "You must know that every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and no one is smooth sailing." "
"You should be more filial to your parents now, and when they are gone, you will regret it. The little uncle also nodded yes on the side.
I was a little angry when I heard this, and secretly slandered them in my heart that these old fashioned ones were too old-fashioned. But after thinking about it, I felt that there might be some truth in what they said, and I really should spend more time with my parents.
"Ouch, don't talk about what you have and don't have. The little uncle's wife rolled her eyes, "You just listen to us honestly and spend more time with your parents." "
I just felt aggrieved, why did they teach me like that? I'm not a child anymore.
"Lili, your dad and I hope you can stay a little longer. My mother saw my embarrassment and spoke.
"You don't care about that kid, he's so young, how can he know these things. The father looked stubborn, "You just listen to your mother and spend more time with us." "
"You see, your dad and I are old, and our health is not working anywhere. Mom pointed to her waist and said, "If there is a case, you can rest assured that you are around." "
I looked at my parents' wrinkled faces and felt a little guilty. But the matter between me and Xiao Wang is so tricky that I can't decide what to do.
A few days later, Xiao Wang also called, but every time we called, we would quarrel about it. One day, Xiao Wang rushed back directly from the field, and he was extremely emotional.
"Is that how you treat me?" As soon as he entered, he yelled at me and my parents, "I'm working so hard outside, and you don't care about my feelings like this!"
"You shut up to our family!" The little uncle's wife also came to the end, and replied to Xiao Wang with a choked voice, "You are young, how can you know how important it is to be filial to your parents!"
"Is that what you taught them?" Xiao Wang pointed to his brother-in-law's family, and his tone was extremely angry, "You old stubborn, you keep those old rules and bad habits all day long!"
"Shut up, you kid!" The little brother-in-law was also provoked, and several people quarreled with red faces.
I looked at the scene in front of me, and I only felt that my eyes were black for a while, and my whole body was weak. Xiao Ming was awakened by this commotion, and looked straight at us, his eyes innocent and frightened.
"Lili, where are you going?" Mom asked me with a puzzled look.
"Mom, I'm sorry, I'll take Xiao Ming back to my parents' house to live for a while. I lowered my head and said, "Don't embarrass Xiao Wang, he is indeed very hard." "
"Alright, you go. The father was silent for a moment, and finally spoke, "I hope you can live a good life when you go back." "
I glanced at the other people in the room, Xiao Wang lowered his head, and the little uncle's family looked lively. I didn't say anything more, just took Xiao Ming's hand and left without looking back.
In this way, Xiao Ming and I stayed at my mother's sister's house. Xiao Wang also made a few phone calls at the beginning, and his tone was very guilty.
"Lili, I'm sorry, I'm too impulsive. He choked up and said to me, "Come back, I promise you'll be a good man in the future." "
"I know you're working hard, but your parents' bodies really need to be taken care of. "I'm not angry, I'm just tired," if only you could understand what we're struggling with. "
I looked at Xiao Wang's self-blaming expression on my phone, and my heart was also painful. If we had communicated well and not allowed the situation to deteriorate, we would not have gotten to this point.
Looking at Xiao Wang's guilty look, I also began to reflect on whether my decision was too hasty. I chose to leave temporarily with Xiao Ming in order to avoid more quarrels and injuries. But separation is not a long-term solution after all, and we still have to face this problem after all.
I took a deep breath and made up my mind to have a good communication with Xiao Wang.
"Xiao Wang, I know that you have also had a hard time during this time. After a few days, I finally made up my mind to call him, "Let's have a good talk and talk about it." "
"Well, you name it. Xiao Wang's voice sounded very tired.
"In fact, the root cause of our quarrels is a lack of communication. I said sincerely, "Of course, I hope you can understand what I do, but I should also be more considerate of your work and life." "
"yes, we're all at fault. Xiao Wang also admitted frankly, "I was too focused on my own feelings and completely ignored the needs of you and your parents." "
We talked about it one by one, and it seemed that we had finally found a solution.
"So, when are you going to be back?" Xiao Wang asked me.
"Well, I'm going to stay for a while longer and spend time with my mom and dad. I hesitated, but decided to stay at my mother's house for a while longer, "When they are better, we will discuss going back." "
"Okay, so be it. Xiao Wang sighed and seemed relieved, "I will try my best to handle the work well, and when you come back, our family will live a good life." "
In this way, Xiao Wang and I finally reached an agreement, and I also felt that a lot of the burden on my shoulders was lifted.
After staying at my mother's house for more than a month, I felt it was time to go back. Mom and Dad's health is much better than before, and they are relieved to let me go.
"Lili, go back. Mom took my hand and said earnestly, "You can't always follow us, your own life is the most important thing." "
"Well, I'll be back to see you often. I nodded, my eyes moistened.
"It's just that we're overthinking. Dad touched my head and said apologetically, "You young people, you still have to live your own life." "
Saying goodbye to my parents, I pulled Xiao Ming and set foot on the way home. Along the way, Xiao Ming looked around excitedly, and my mood was much calmer.
When he returned home, Xiao Wang had already cleaned up, and the house was clean. When he saw us back, he excitedly stepped forward and gave me a big hug.
"Welcome home. He whispered in my ear.
Tears flowed down my eyes suddenly, and the bits and pieces of the past month or so came back to my mind. I knew that our family was finally going to start over.
"I'm sorry, I'm too headstrong. Xiao Wang's eyes were also red, apparently what he had done before repenting.
"It's okay, it's all in the past. I shook my head, and I could only express my gratitude in my heart, "From now on, we must cherish the life in front of us and take good care of our families." "
"I will, I will. Xiao Wang nodded vigorously.
I looked at Xiao Wang's sincere eyes, and suddenly understood a truth: family harmony is the most valuable wealth of our family. Without the support and tolerance of our families, we would not have been where we are today. So no matter what happens, we must cherish the people in front of us, be considerate of each other, and understand each other.
A few days later, I invited my parents to my home. As soon as they entered, they were startled by what they saw.
"Ouch, you've spoiled us!" Mom looked at the newly bought sofa and TV in the living room and said in surprise.
"Yes, Lili, are you going to live the life of a city person?" Dad also thought it was fresh.
I smiled and nodded, and told them frankly that I had made up my mind to change some of my old beliefs.
"You see, our lives are not what they used to be. I told them sincerely, "So we also have to keep up with the times and learn to live in new ways." "
"But when we get old, it's hard for us to change our deep-rooted habits. Mom said with some embarrassment.
"It's okay, we can take it one step at a time. I patted my mother's hand encouragingly, "As long as you can be humble and try to accept new things, you will definitely be able to adapt." "
Mom and Dad looked at each other, as if they were hesitating to do so. I could see the apprehension in their eyes, but I knew that this was the only way to move towards a new life.
"You can relax, with me and Xiao Wang here, we will definitely take good care of you. I said to them with a smile.
Mom and Dad were finally persuaded by my sincerity, and they nodded vigorously, as if they had made up their minds to change.
Just when our whole family was ready to start over, my brother-in-law's family was leaving.
"Well, you've got to get by. As she packed her belongings, her brother-in-law's wife told me, "Don't be like that before." "
"Got it, got it. I smiled and nodded, my heart was gone.
"I wish you a harmonious family. The uncle also smiled and patted me on the shoulder.
I looked at the back of my brother-in-law's family and felt relieved. Maybe there were some differences in our concepts before, but now I have come to understand the true meaning of life.
I saw that the corners of my mother's eyes seemed to be a little moist, and she rubbed her eyes with the back of her hand, turned her head and said to me, "Lili, you have finally grown up now." "
"What do you mean, Mom?" I asked, somewhat puzzled.
"You see, you used to be a very traditional child, and you listened to me and your dad in everything. Mom reached out and grabbed my hand, and said earnestly, "But this time you can stick to your own ideas and understand Xiao Wang's situation, I think you have really grown up." "
I listened to my mother's words and had mixed feelings. Indeed, after all these twists and turns, I finally learned to think independently and to find a balance between tradition and modernity.
"yes, Mom, I finally understand now that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to life. I nodded and said sincerely, "We need to learn to see the world in new eyes, and we must also be humble enough to accept new things." "
"You're right. Mom nodded approvingly, as if pleased with my growth, "But don't completely deny tradition, that's the wisdom of our ancestors." "
"I know Mom, I will definitely abide by the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. I smiled and hugged my mother, feeling that her body was so thin, but full of tenacity.
At this moment, Dad and Xiao Wang also came over, and they seemed to be whispering something.
"Lili, come here, I have something to say to you. "Dad beckoned to me.
"What's wrong Dad?" I walked up to my dad and asked.
"Listen to both of you. Dad said with a straight face, "From now on, you have to run your own little family well." "
"Well, we'll be Dad. Xiao Wang also nodded solemnly.
"Yes Dad, we've all learned our lessons. I said sincerely, "In the future, I will definitely think more about Xiao Wang, and I will no longer be willful." "
"Me too, I will be considerate of Lili's situation. Xiao Wang also nodded yes.
"Don't worry, Dad, we already have this awareness. I glanced at Xiao Wang, and he nodded vigorously.
"Finally, and most importantly. Dad's voice slowed down a little, and his tone became solemn, "You must keep in mind the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, which are the foundation of our survival and development." "
"Yes Dad, we will keep the traditional virtues in mind. Xiao Wang and I said in unison.
Dad nodded in satisfaction, as if he had let go of the boulder that had been hanging on his mind. Mom was on the side, smiling.
In this way, Xiao Wang and I started a new life. We have learned to live with new ideas and ways of living, without discarding our traditional roots.
When Xiao Wang is working, I will clean regularly and prepare three meals for my family; And when he returns home, he will also take the initiative to share the housework and accompany the children to do their homework. Sometimes we go out together and have a great time together.
My parents are in better health, and they will come to the house from time to time. At that point, we will serve them traditional food and drinks. And in normal times, they will also take the initiative to adapt to our newly purchased appliances and supplies.
It's been a tortuous process, but we've finally found a way of life that blends old and new. Xiao Ming is growing up healthy and happy in this environment, and Xiao Wang and I are constantly making progress and learning from each other, feeling the warmth and beauty of family life.
One night, I was sitting on the couch in a daze. Xiao Wang has already fallen asleep, but I can't sleep at all. I can't help but think back to the experiences and lessons I have learned along the way.
I remembered the complacency of my family in the past, the feud between me and Xiao Wang, and the helplessness when I was separated. But I am more reminded of the reflection that followed, of our determination to understand each other, and of our efforts to find the integration of the old and the new.
It was the hardships along the way that made me truly understand the true meaning of life: tradition and modernity complement each other, and we should take the best of them and remove the dross. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to life, and only by understanding each other and making progress together can we find our way to happiness.
I took a deep breath and only felt more happy and grounded than I had ever felt before. I have a husband who loves me, lovely children, and parents who are tolerant of me. And our family has finally learned to live in a new way and live the life we want.
I walked softly into the bedroom and got under the covers. Xiao Wang was already asleep, and I looked at his peaceful side face, and my heart was warm. I know that from now on, our family will be happy and healthy, and we will work together to make progress together.