Are you really a husband and wife? If you haven't shared these three things, you're probably not close enough. In marriage, sharing objects is not only a simple living arrangement, but also a symbol of trust and deep integration. Let's take a look at three things that can make a difference between you and each other. Without these, your marriage may be a formal union rather than a deep soul bond.
I just mentioned the importance of sharing things, so let's talk about what three things are specific, if you haven't shared them as a husband and wife, you may really stay in a superficial relationship.
The first is personal belongings. You might be thinking, what's the big deal, isn't it just a toothbrush, a towel or something like that. But have you ever thought that these little things are actually the most intimate details of everyone's life. A person's willingness to share his toothbrush with you means that he has completely opened up his living space and allowed you to enter his most personal realm. Think about it, if you can't share even these most basic things, then how much trust and openness can you reach between you? Moreover, the small habits in life often reflect a person's true attitude and lifestyle, and sharing these seemingly inconspicuous personal items is actually the beginning of mutual adaptation and coordination of the rhythm of life.
The next thing to talk about is money. Some people may say that money is too sensitive, and it is not good for the husband and wife to clearly understand each other, but have you ever thought about it, money is actually the most direct manifestation of support and trust. When you hand the wallet to the other person without thinking and let the other person have free repliment, it is not only a material sharing, but also complete trust and dependence on the other person. In a common life, if you can't even be honest with money and are always careful, then the strength and depth of the relationship are naturally limited. Moreover, sharing money is also a kind of planning and preparation for a common goal in the future, showing that you are ready to face any ups and downs in life together.
Finally, and most importantly, there is a common goal. This may sound a bit big, but it's actually very close to life. Whether it's planning where to travel in the future, career plans for the next few years, getting a pet or when to have children, these are all essential parts of a couple's life. What would your life look like if you couldn't agree on even these basic common goals, and the common goals were what drove the two of you together, without which the relationship between husband and wife might just be two parallel lines that would never really intersect.
Many small things in life are touchstones for testing and deepening the relationship between husband and wife. Some people may feel that these are too trivial, too practical, and lack some so-called romance. However, true relationships are built on the daily bits and pieces. The romantic scenes in those movies may only be occasional spices, but what can really make two people go a long way is these seemingly ordinary but extremely important little things.
So, if you haven't started sharing these things yet, maybe now is the time to sit down and have a good chat. It's not to test anything, but to make each other's lives more integrated and the relationship deeper. After all, marriage is not just a contract on paper, but a heart-to-heart fit.