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"Hey, do you remember the last time we got together, Xiao Li said that he was going to get married?" I sighed softly, and suddenly a picture of the past came to mind.
"Haha, how could you forget?" Xiao Zhang smiled heartily and said, "Weren't you quite excited at that time?"
I nodded, my eyes a little gloomy: "Yes, I was really happy at that time, thinking that I could finally grow old together." "
Xiao Li smiled knowingly: "No, you were like winning the jackpot at that time, and you were as happy as a madman." "
I smiled helplessly, but there was a sour feeling in my heart. The long-lost joy and anticipation are now only a few fragments of memories.
"Mom, I've decided I'm getting married. "I said to my parents with confidence that day.
Mother's eyes widened, obviously not expecting me to be so straightforward. "Married, married, but you're still so young!"
I smiled and shook my head: "Mom, I'm twenty-seven years old, it's not too early to get married at our age, right? "
The father pondered for a moment and said solemnly: "Marriage is not child's play, you have to think twice." "
I looked at them with firm eyes: "Mom and Dad, I've been thinking about it for a long time. I know it's a big decision, but I do it with a sincere heart. "
Looking at my resolute expression, my parents finally nodded, but they couldn't hide their apprehension in their eyes.
When we first met, I was attracted by his calm and reserved temperament. He wasn't as flamboyant and rude as some men, but he was polite and gentle.
"Hello, my name is Zhang Wei. Nice to meet you. He held out his hand politely, a faint smile on his face.
The two old men on the side looked at us and seemed to be satisfied. I stole a glance at him, and saw that he was looking at me intently, his eyes full of softness.
In this way, under the witness of our family, our fate began.
The marriage went smoothly until one day, when the parents of both parties began to discuss the issue of bride price.
"Ahem, how much dowry do the Li family plan to give?" Father Zhang smiled, but his tone was a little stiff.
"Mom, don't say it!" Zhang Wei quickly interrupted her and looked at our family, his face full of apologies.
My heart sank, and I secretly prayed that something would not make a mess. Unexpectedly, Zhang's father spoke again: "Anyway, we won't force you, but the bride price should always be given, right?
Zhang Wei and I looked at each other, and each other's eyes were helpless.
"Mom, Dad, I think we shouldn't be too concerned about the bride price. I opened my mouth and said in a firm tone, "This is no longer ancient times, the status of women has long been greatly improved, and we should not be bound by stereotypes." "
Wenwen has a point. The father said in a deep voice, "The core of marriage is not money, but the love of two people for each other." We should not take the bride price too seriously. "
Zhang's mother seemed to be a little dissatisfied, and her face was full of displeasure. But I insisted on my opinion and said confidently, "Mother-in-law, I know that you also have good intentions. But I personally feel that the bride price is outdated, it will only increase the financial burden of both parties, and it will not make much sense for marriage. We should look at marriage in a more modern and egalitarian way. "
Zhang Wei obviously also felt this tense atmosphere. He hurriedly opened his mouth to play a round game: "Wenwen, parents, everyone calm down." The issue of bride price is indeed tricky, but we should be considerate of each other and solve it in a rational way. "
I looked at him with anticipation in my eyes. As a man, his attitude will play a key role.
Zhang Wei took a deep breath and said solemnly: "Wenwen is very reasonable. Personally, I am not in favor of the bride price, which is a heavy financial burden for both families. But I also understand my parents' thoughts, after all, it is a traditional custom. "
He looked at his parents, then turned to me and my parents, and said sincerely, "Why don't you do that, let's give a symbolic number." This respects tradition without putting too much pressure on both families, killing two birds with one stone. What do you think?"
I am secretly glad that it seems that Zhang Wei and I have the same idea. I smiled appreciatively at him, then looked at both parents.
However, Zhang's father and Zhang's mother's faces became more and more ugly. Father Zhang frowned and rebuked Zhang Weidao: "What are you talking about? A symbolic amount? What kind of bride price is it? Do you not want this family business at all?"
"Nonsense!" Mother Zhang interrupted him, and her face turned red with anger, "You are quite good at thinking about others! Our Zhang family has so many generations, which one of them does not give a full bride price when he marries? You want to cut off our incense!"
I looked at Zhang Wei's helpless expression, couldn't help it anymore, and said loudly: "That's enough! Mother-in-law and father-in-law, you are too complacent, aren't you? Can't you just jump out of the traditional box and look at the problem with a new concept?"
"Nonsense! You girl don't know this!" Mother Zhang glared at me angrily, "If you weren't reluctant to pay, how could you come up with so many excuses?"
"Hmph, you're quite protective of others!" Zhang Mu sneered, the anger on her face became more and more intense, "It seems that you have made up your mind to oppose us!"
I looked at Zhang Wei's helpless expression, and tears suddenly fell. I never imagined that what should have been a beautiful marriage would end in such an impasse.
At this moment, Zhang's father slammed the case and burst out with an angry roar: "Okay! Since you are so unpopular, then we will barely come! This is the end of today's matter, you go back and think about it again!"
Zhang Wei was stunned, obviously not expecting this result. He looked at his parents with a stunned face, his lips squirmed a few times, but he couldn't make any sound.
I covered my mouth with my hands, tears streaming down my face. It all happened so suddenly, and I couldn't accept that fact at all.
"Shut up!" Mother Zhang scolded sharply, "You have seen this family business we found for you! Since you don't cherish it, then we have nothing to say!"
With that, she glared at us fiercely and slammed the door. Father Zhang sighed, looked at Zhang Wei with complicated eyes, and then left with him.
Zhang Wei sat weakly on the sofa, hung his head, and said nothing. None of us thought that this originally beautiful marriage would go to such a desperate situation.
I choked up and finally didn't continue. At the moment, there is no more possibility between us.
In this way, the fate between us was cut off, and we each started our lives anew. One night a year later, I was watching TV at home alone when my phone rang suddenly.
"Hey, Xiao Zhang, what's the matter?" I picked up the phone and asked absentmindedly.
I frowned: "Just say anything straight, don't go around in circles." "
My heart suddenly felt like something had hit me hard, and it almost stopped beating. Zhang Wei is getting married? My mind was blank, and I didn't come back to my senses for a long time.
"Hey, Wenwen, are you still there?" Xiao Zhang's voice pulled me back to reality.
My heart was filled with anger, betrayal, and sadness. How could we give up so easily when we had such a beautiful relationship? I couldn't stop wanting to roar or cry.
But soon, I calmed down. Maybe this is the arrangement of fate, we are destined to go to the end. The most important thing now is to learn to let go.
"Xiao Li, I have encountered a big problem. I said weakly, "Zhang Wei is getting married." "
Xiao Li frowned, as if he was thinking about something. After a moment, she spoke: "Wenwen, I know you must have a hard time accepting this fact now. But, have you ever thought about letting it go?"
"I understand. Xiao Li interrupted me and said earnestly, "But some things are destined to be unlasting, and the fate between you may end here." Wenwen, you should learn to forgive and bless, so that you can truly let go of the past and start anew. "
Xiao Li's words were like a heavy hammer, hitting me hard. Yes, how can I live forever in the shadow of the past? I should bless Zhang Wei and wish him happiness. Only then will I be able to be completely liberated.
I took a deep breath and nodded to Xiao Li.
I thought I had made up my mind to let go, but when I told my parents about it, they objected.
"Wenwen, are you crazy?" Mother's eyes widened, "How can you bless that negative man? If he had given enough bride price, you wouldn't have broken up!"
"Nonsense!" My father was also angry, "Tradition is tradition, why do you young people look down on it? If it weren't for your disrespect for customs, how could you be in this situation today?"
I sighed and said earnestly, "Mom and Dad, you're too complacent. The essence of marriage is not money, but the feelings of two people. If you can't even see through this, then what's the difference between you and the Zhang family?"
My parents were stunned by my words, and they looked at each other, but they were speechless. I know it's not easy to change their ingrained stereotypes, but I'm still going to try.
After leaving my parents' house, I found a few friends of the same age and told them about my troubles.
"Wenwen, I totally understand your thoughts. Xiao Zhao said, "Marriage should not be bound by money, and your views are very in line with the trend of modern society." "
"That's right. Xiao Liu also echoed, "Now is not the past, everyone should use a new concept to look at marriage, rather than being limited by stereotypes." "
I nodded, thinking they had a point. Yes, our generation has received a good modern education, and its minds are naturally more open and progressive than those of the previous generation.
"But then again, how are you going to deal with this?" Xiao Zhao asked curiously.
"I decided to wish Zhang Wei a happy wedding. I said frankly, "Although we had a good relationship at the beginning, it has now passed. I should learn to let go and bless him with a forgiving heart. "
Xiao Liu patted me on the shoulder and said earnestly: "Well done Wenwen, this is exactly the consciousness that a knowledgeable modern woman should have." Don't be bound by tradition, and use your own wisdom to look at problems. "
I smiled, and my heart suddenly brightened. Yes, I'm not going to go against the grain, I'm facing life with a new way of thinking. That's the real progress, and that's the attitude I should be looking for.
"Wenwen, what are you looking for me?" Zhang Wei looked puzzled.
I took a deep breath and said solemnly, "Zhang Wei, I know the news that you are going to get married." I'm so happy for you from the bottom of my heart. "
"I know you must be confused right now. I interrupted him in a sincere tone, "But trust me, it's what I mean." Our relationship may end here, but I hope you can be happy. That's all that matters. "
"Don't say that. I shook my head, "It's not anyone's fault. We're just bound up in some old ideas, but now I'm relieved. "
Zhang Wei looked at me with a complicated look in his eyes. I know he must be struggling inside. But I still plucked up the courage and continued: "Zhang Wei, I really hope you can be happy. Although the affection between us is no longer there, I will always bless you. "
Zhang Wei looked at me deeply, and finally nodded: "Thank you, Wenwen." I will always remember your sincere words. "
I smiled, feeling like a burden had been lifted from my heart. Yes, letting go is a relief, and I can finally start again.
Even though I was determined to let go, my parents still stuck on their laurels and insisted on not letting me do it.
"Wenwen, how can you bless that negative man? This is self-inflicted humiliation!" Mother said angrily.
"Mom, you're just too stubborn. I shook my head helplessly, "Won't you ever be able to think outside the box and look at things in a new way?"
The father frowned, as if weighing the pros and cons. After a while, he finally spoke: "Wenwen, you have a point. We really should be open-minded and more open-minded. "
I looked at my father with joy and gratitude. The mother still had a straight face, looking disapprove.
"That's not going to work!" She said categorically, "Bless him? How can our ancestors do such a dishonorable thing because they have been following the rules for generations?"
My mother was stunned by my words, and her face was full of helplessness. Her father stepped forward and hugged her and comforted, "Wife, Wenwen is very reasonable. We should look at it with a new perspective and not be bound by stereotypes. "
In this way, with the support of my parents, I prepared a blessing ceremony for Zhang Wei. On that day, I invited a few good friends to witness this special occasion.
"Wenwen, did you really decide to do this?" Xiao Li asked with concern.
I nodded firmly: "Yes, I have made up my mind. Although Zhang Wei is my past, I hope he can be happy. That's all that matters. "
Xiao Zhang patted me on the shoulder and said earnestly: "Well done Wenwen, this is exactly the consciousness that a knowledgeable modern woman should have." Don't be bound by stereotypes and use your wisdom to face life. "
I smiled, and my heart suddenly brightened. At this moment, Zhang Wei walked in with a complicated expression on his face.
Zhang Wei looked at me with a gloomy look in his eyes. After a long time, he finally spoke, his voice choked: "Thank you, Wenwen." I will always remember your sincere words. I also wish you all the best for finding someone more worthy and living a happier life. "
After bidding farewell to Zhang Wei, I felt that I had completely let go of a heavy burden in my heart. I looked out the window at the bright sunlight and blinked, with tears still in the corners of my eyes.
Xiao Li stepped forward and hugged me, and said earnestly, "Wenwen, you did a great job. Let go of the past in order to start again. From now on, you have to embrace life with a new mindset. "
I nodded, my eyes firm and persistent: "Yes, I want to be like a real modern woman, and use my wisdom to face all kinds of opportunities in life." Don't be bound by stereotypes, always be open and tolerant. "
Xiao Zhang also walked over, patted me on the shoulder and said, "That's right, Wenwen." Only with such a mindset can you truly be relieved and start a new life. "