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People don't have to be gregarious when they reach middle age! Sooner or later, one day, you will agree with this sentence!
Many middle-aged people don't want to recognize that the moment under human nature is a sadness of self-deficit!
We often say that to be a person, especially a middle-aged person, you must be a self-strong person, otherwise you will do things that you don't know because of your inner deficit!
In particular, when facing all kinds of relationships, we must first make a worthwhile contribution to the relationship from the existential value of the relationship, rather than blindly catering to anyone for the sake of being gregarious!
In fact, the establishment and continuation of any kind of relationship is a plan. The picture, covering the satisfaction of spiritual needs and the satisfaction of practical needs, is collectively referred to as "value"!
The value is there, the relationship is there. If the value is not there, the relationship is gone!
As for your self-righteous gregariousness, it's nothing more than wishful thinking and nothing more!
Ignoring human nature, ignoring the value of relationships, and engaging in gregarious interactions with relationship partners can only show that you are too simple (stupid and ignorant), so you don't know what you have done!
Middle-aged people's "gregariousness" is very cheap! Learning to "exchange value" is the big winner:
1: Under human nature, people who have no value of existence, the so-called gregariousness is just people who are ignored by the object of the relationship
Why do you give too much and still don't get the desired response in the true sense?
Because, no matter how much you pay, no matter how much you go all out, it is not what people want for the relationship partner!
In other words, if you initially show that you don't want to pay, you give the relationship a "use you at no cost" attitude!
You say, will people still cherish you in their hearts?
You who have no value in existence are dispensable to the relationship object!
has the value of existence but only knows how to pay without a bottom line, and will only become the object of being used!
You know, what you think is only what you think! In the face of human nature, your value is the key to determining the alienation of the relationship.
When people reach middle age, if they are not strong enough, don't worry about catering to who is gregarious!
When you can do it, everyone will do it to you, and when you can't do it, everyone will not do it to you!
When you can't do it yourself, no matter how good your advice and guidance are, you will not be adopted, and you will even be scolded for being a "good teacher"! When you ask for help, you will have no hope because you can't repay it!
The world is really hard, and middle-aged people who don't understand how to be strong and blindly gregarious are even more bitter! I hope you, don't be like this!
2: Continuous self-breakthrough and self-improvement at all times can have a solid relationship
I once watched a short video in which a successful boss took several of his different friends.
When confronted with friends, this man who has a successful career is full of sadness without saying a word! These friends, each with a bank card in his hand, can't talk anymore!
If you think it's interesting to be friends, you're wrong!
There really isn't anyone in this world who really wants you well!
Those who can still help you when they see you frustrated know that they will not lose their help to you after weighing it, so they will rest assured to help you!
Although, such rhetoric will make people feel sharp, cold, and impersonal! But the truth is that this is really the case!
Otherwise, why do you think that the phrase "no one asks about the poor in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains" has been circulated since ancient times?
When you reach middle age, don't forget to grow, don't stop improving, and don't overestimate your position in the relationship!
Except for the value of your existence, no one is really interested in you!
In real life, there is no relationship if there is no value!
When you stand at the highest end of life, the relationships that the eight poles can't reach come to get close to you!
Between people, only by adhering to the principle of value exchange can we benefit others and ourselves!
But with the pandering of "gregariousness", you can't get a long-term relationship!
In the relationship, we must ensure that we have a value for what we want, and we must also ensure that we have a valuable output!
When people reach middle age, they should understand:
The best relationship is the relationship between yourself and yourself, and the best network is the correct understanding of yourself!
As for the gregariousness, it is often the existential value that determines your gregarious index!
So, ask inward, be a strong person, fit your own group, exchange the value of others, and you will win!
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it's love or friendship, the right time and the right person can achieve positive results!
Topic discussion: Are you a person who knows how to exchange equivalents?