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I am 32 years old and a middle manager of a foreign company. The family is well-off, the only child, and his parents enjoy their old age in their hometown. I have always had a serious and single-minded attitude towards relationships, and once a relationship is established, I will devote myself wholeheartedly and be loyal.
It was a summer day in 2019 and I met at a friend's party. She is sweet-looking, has an outstanding temperament, is gentle and elegant, and gives people a soft feeling. I fell in love with her at first sight and was fascinated on the spot. Knowing that she was an ordinary office clerk from an ordinary family, I was secretly glad that she was the right person. Before leaving, I mustered up the courage to ask for her contact information.
Since then, I've been on a quest for a while. I would ask her out to dinner and watch movies regularly, and I would start to get acquainted with her from a short distance. Although she was a little shy, she never refused my invitation, and she seemed to have a little affection for me. My heart was filled with excitement and I looked forward to holding hands with her for the rest of my life.
Once we watched a romantic movie, and she couldn't help but shed tears. I hurriedly handed over the tissue and asked her with concern what was wrong. She said: "This movie is so touching, and I really want to have such a pure and beautiful love." I understood and immediately said to her sincerely: "I fell in love with you at first sight, and I hope to make a sincere promise to tie the knot with you and walk through life hand in hand." "
Unexpectedly, she nodded without hesitation, tears of happiness in the corners of her eyes. In this way, we naturally established a romantic relationship. Since then, we've been inseparable and have nothing to talk about. She regarded me as the closest confidant in the world, and I regarded her as the most important woman in my life.
During those days, we were very affectionate and sweet. She often hugged me, gazed at me with gentle eyes, and said, "My dear, I have finally found the love of my life, and we will be together forever and never separate." My heart was warm, moved to tears, and I hugged her back and solemnly promised: "Don't worry, baby, I will love you well for a lifetime, you are the greatest pride in my life." "
Once the relationship is established, the way we get along is one that we talk about everything and make no difference. She treats me as a bosom friend who doesn't talk to anything, and I take care of her wholeheartedly. Her personality is very docile and obedient, and she is obedient to me, and I try to spoil her as much as possible, holding her in the palm of my hand and caring for her.
This is how our lives are simple, yet loving. She is very good at cooking, and often cooks food for me with her own hands; I would take her to dinner and a movie regularly. Sometimes we go on outings together, strolling in nature, breathing in the fresh air and feeling each other's warmth. Those ordinary days are actually the happiest.
All good times don't last forever. About a year after living together, some conflicts began to arise between us. The trigger was when she asked me for money.
At first, she just unintentionally gaged and said that she wanted to save some private money, so I happily transferred 50,000 yuan from the bank card to her. Not long after, she asked me for money again, saying that she wanted to change the house, and I didn't think much about it and transferred another 100,000 yuan to her.
In this way, she asked me for money again and again for various reasons, and I indulged her until the money transferred to her had accumulated to more than 700,000. I didn't think much of it at the time, and it was a matter of course to give her the money.
But one day, she actually told me bluntly that she was tired of our lives and wanted to break up and find a new love. I was hit by the news on the spot, and cried and begged her to think twice. But she seems to have had this plan a long time ago, and she is determined to leave me.
From the moment she proposed to break up, the conflict between us was out of control. She began to ignore me, ignoring my concern and overtures. I pestered her like a wretched worm, begging her to give me another chance.
Once, she yelled at me angrily: "We don't have anything to say anymore, you better leave me, we will break up!"
With tears streaming down my eyes, I begged her, "Baby, we used to be so affectionate, why did you turn your face so ruthlessly? "
But she scoffed, looked me up and down with a look of extreme disgust, and said in a disdainful tone: "You, what are you? You are a waste who lacks self-motivation and ideals, and I don't look down on you!"
Every time I think back to her appearance and tone at that time, I feel extremely stinging. Her words were like a sharp knife that pierced deep into my heart.
She resolutely turned back and rebuked me, "Shut up! I don't want to see your familiar face again." With that, she walked away without looking back.
In this way, the sweetness and beauty between us came to an abrupt end. That night, I lay alone on my empty bed and cried all night. The loss and helplessness in my heart almost overwhelmed me.
Just when I thought it was over, a month later, I made a request that I didn't expect: she wanted me to return all the more than 700,000 yuan I had given her.
When her lawyer faxed me a formal letter, I was struck by lightning and my whole body was numb. I never thought that she would be so ruthless that she would even have to get back the money I gave her.
I immediately called her to question her, but I only heard her respond coldly: "You took the initiative to give it to me, we have broken up, do you still expect me to keep your money for nothing?"
"But baby, that's what I really gave you, how can you do that?" I choked up and retorted incoherently.
"Don't do this! You don't know that there is a scam between us. She ignored it and said ruthlessly.
"What kind of scam? What the hell are you talking about?" I was stunned by her words.
"You fool, I just fell in love with your money, so I pretended to seduce you. Now that the money is in hand, do you think I will stay with you and serve you? Her words were like a heavy slap in the face, and they were thrown hard in my face.
I couldn't speak anymore, tears rolling in my eyes. I never imagined that she would be such a ruthless liar.
While I was shocked and indignant, I also made up my mind that I would never agree to her unreasonable demands no matter what. It's not just a question of money, it's a question of dignity and principle.
So, I gritted my teeth and refused her request, and sternly rejected her lawyer: "The money I gave at the beginning was out of my sincerity, and it was a gift from me on my own initiative, and she has no right to ask for it back." If she's stubborn, we might as well file a lawsuit!"
From that moment on, we were caught in a protracted litigation dispute.
In order to defend our rights and interests, both sides and I soon launched a fierce offensive and defensive battle at the legal level. Our main claim is to ask the court to reject her unreasonable demands, and she wants to take back the more than 700,000 yuan from me in every possible way.
At the beginning of the trial, the lawyers on both sides were like two opposing spears, going back and forth, arguing with each other. Based on legal theory and evidence, our lawyer argues that the money I gave at the beginning was out of sincere love and was a legal gift, and she had no right to demand its return.
The lawyer distorted the facts and accused me out of context that I was deliberately planning and deliberately carrying out a well-planned "marriage fraud" in order to embezzle her property.
The trial process was tortuous and difficult. The two parties engaged in intense legal discussions and debates on a series of issues such as whether it constitutes a definition of "fraudulent marriage" and whether there is a "consensual situation".
This lawsuit has brought heavy pressure to my life, and it has also left my heart wandering in pain and entanglement.
On the one hand, I insisted that the money I gave was a genuine gift and that she had no right to force it back. Although we broke up, the original love and promise were from the heart, and she shouldn't be so ruthless. I must stick to my principles, defend my rights and dignity, and not be bullied by her like this.
On the other hand, more than 700,000 is indeed a lot of money, even for me as a middle class. If I can get this money back, my life will be better. More importantly, deep down in my heart, I am still reluctant to break with it completely, and perhaps through this lawsuit, we can still have the possibility of rebuilding the old good.
So, I wandered back and forth between money and principles, suffering from gains and losses. Sometimes I made up my mind to fight to the end, and sometimes I felt that it was difficult to have money and affection, so it was better to settle the matter. My heart was torn between contradictions, and at one point I almost went insane.
In this way, the lawsuit between us ended in a judgment that I did not expect: the court rejected the claim.
In the verdict, the judge wrote: "Based on the factual statements of the parties and the available evidence, it is difficult to determine that the emotional entanglement between the original defendant is a deliberate marriage fraud committed by the defendant, but more like a romantic relationship based on sincere love." Therefore, the plaintiff's request for the defendant to return the gift money he had given was groundless. The claim is not supported. "
The court has made a final decision, and I have finally won justice. When I got the verdict, my tense nerves finally relaxed, as if I had finally gasped out for a long breath.
And over there, they secretly gritted their teeth and were indignant. Her lawyer expressed strong dissatisfaction with the verdict, believing that the court's decision was too one-sided and subjective. But in the end, the lawsuit could not be reached, and she could only give up temporarily.
This protracted lawsuit has tormented me and left me torn between money and principles. But in the end, I still stuck to my bottom line, was not blinded by monetary interests, and maintained my dignity.
From this incident, I have learned that money is important, but it is not everything. Blindly pursuing money and betraying one's own principles is tantamount to burying one's own soul with one's own hands? On the contrary, we should learn to stick to the bottom line, not be confused by interests, and always maintain noble sentiments.
At the same time, I also realized how important a person's behavior is. If I hadn't been so delusional and carried away by my feelings, I wouldn't have suffered such twists and turns. From this point of view, it is also a painful and useful life lesson.
Now, I have a completely different view of money. I will still work hard to make money, but I will never take money too seriously, let alone let it blind me. On the contrary, I should treat life with a healthy and positive attitude and face the world with positive sentiments. Only in this way can I truly live my life worth.
After this lesson, I also have new expectations for my life. I hope that in the future, I can find a confidant who has a positive outlook and is honest, and I will walk with her for the second half of my life hand in hand. At the same time, I also hope that I can make a difference in my career and become a person who is beneficial to society.
In short, life is long, and although the road ahead is still full of unknowns and ups and downs, as long as you can follow your heart and adhere to justice, you will definitely be able to break through the clouds and fog and live a wonderful life.
Although the lawsuit ended in my victory, the wounds caused to my heart are irreparable.
What she did was undoubtedly a heavy blow, and she not only cruelly forsaken me, but also demanded that I return those gifts so ruthlessly. This is simply a complete tear up of the once beautiful love between us.
I regarded her as the love of my life, and I was willing to go to great lengths for her. But she trampled our love under her feet so viciously, and fooled me like a fool.
Every time I think about all this, I can't help but cry. Sometimes I would shout at her pictures and vent all the pain and grievances in my heart: "How can you do this to me? I love you so much, but you break my heart so much! What did I do wrong, why did you abandon me so cruelly and take my money away?"
Some nights, I would dream of her smiling at me gently, snuggling up to me as affectionately as she had done before. But as soon as I woke up and saw that the pillow was empty, I would burst into tears.
My soul was tormented by pain and anger for a long time. I began to hate everything related to love, and I developed a strong aversion to the words marriage and lover.
In order to get out of this haze, I put all my energy into my work. I started working late every day, completely burying myself at work and not allowing myself any free time to think about it.
Gradually, I also reaped some results. Because of my hard work and conscientiousness, the company quickly promoted me to a more important management position. Not only has my salary increased dramatically, but my status has also become more prominent.
But even so, I still couldn't completely get out of the haze. There will always be nights when I'm alone in the office working overtime, and a gentle side face will involuntarily come to mind. Those sweet memories were like a whirlwind, hitting my heart fiercely, and I couldn't extricate myself.
I began to hate this weakness of myself, and I threw myself into my work even more enthusiastically. Only when I am working, can I forget those painful past moments for a while and get a moment of leisure.
Gradually, the focus of my life shifted completely to work. I started to become more and more reticent and lost interest in everything around me. Outside of work, I'll be at home alone, staring at the TV, or working overtime all night.
My friends were worried about me and advised me to rest and relax, and not to be alone at home. But I ignored it and continued to do my own thing. Until one day, my body finally couldn't bear this high-intensity rhythm of work and life, and suddenly fainted in the office.
During my days in the hospital, I was often alone thinking about life. I think back to how I fell into this decadent state of life step by step, and my heart was extremely painful and self-reproachful.
I began to reflect on whether what I was doing was right and whether I had gone in the wrong direction. Although that past made me heartbroken, I shouldn't just give up my life and pursuits.
I also remembered my ideals and ambitions when I was younger: how I wanted to one day be a useful person who could be recognized by society and contribute to the world.
But now, I'm going the other way and I'm completely lost. My heart was dark, completely occupied by hatred and anger. It's been a long time since I've had a genuine smile, and I've been gloomy all day, losing hope in everything.
I had to pick myself up and regain the light of my life! I secretly made up my mind to leave the gloom of the past behind me and start anew.
I began to walk on the field paths every day, breathing in the fresh air and listening to the most primitive music of nature. Slowly, my mood began to change, and I rekindled my expectations and yearning for life.
One day, facing the setting sun, I solemnly swore that "from now on, I will face the world with a peaceful mind." I will use my own hands to hold up a new world and embrace the beauty that life has given me! I will let go of the pain of the past, but it does not mean that I will forgive those who have hurt me. I just don't want to be blinded by hatred anymore, I want to respond to the world with tolerance and kindness!"
In this way, under the nourishment of this land, I finally came out of the haze and embraced the beauty of life again.