The English Renaissance essayist Francis Bacon said:
Good luck in good times is hoped for;
Good fortune in the face of adversity is amazed by people.
Blessed people are always accompanied by good luck.
Send warm clothes in the cold winter, eat food when you are hungry, and it is smooth during peak hours.
No matter what kind of predicament you encounter, it seems that there are always noble people to help.
The unlucky people may even be choked on a sip of cold water, and they are still affected even if they avoid the danger.
In fact, there are traces of such unpredictable things as luck.
The truly blessed never care about these three things.
Don't care about small things, don't be confused about big things
"Caigen Tan" has a saying:
"The wise man will be obscure in his little things. ”
A wise and blessed person never cares about small things.
Zuo Zongtang was a staff member of Zeng Guofan, and he was gradually promoted thanks to his recommendation.
Zeng Guofan brought him, he should have humbly called Xie as the teacher, but he just called Zeng Guofan a brother.
Zeng Guofan saw it in his eyes, and he didn't mind his arrogance, and continued to trust and cooperate.
But with the promotion, Zuo Zongtang gradually became arrogant, and every time he saw his subordinates, he would scold Zeng Guofan.
In the face of Zuo Zongtang's rudeness, Zeng Guofan never spoke out.
Later, when Zuo Zongtang went on the expedition, his region owed money and grain, but Zeng Guofan sent people to send money, and gave his right-hand man Liu Songshan to Zuo Zongtang, who even made miraculous achievements for Zuo Zongtang later.
Only then did Zuo Zongtang repent, and was deeply moved by Zeng Guofan's mind, and sent a couplet to show his loyalty.
After Zeng Guofan's death, Zuo Zongtang also signed "Late Life" to show respect.
It is precisely because Zeng Guofan has a measure that when he was alive, he recruited talents and was loved and admired by many people.
Throughout his life, he has always practiced his own words:
Wide is the many.
If you are too concerned about small things, it is easy for people to feel stingy and difficult to get along with.
Taking a step back and being generous will earn respect and friendship.
Only by tolerating and helping each other can we build a bridge between hearts and minds and gain understanding and respect.
I remember that during my internship, the master who took me shared such an incident:
At that time, as soon as he entered the workplace, he met a super difficult leader, who was simply a ghost, and his criticism often fell on the heads of employees like thunder.
Once, the master was counted out in public by the leader because of a small mistake, but the master endured it and did not talk back to the leader.
Master said to me,
"It's unrealistic to change the leadership, and you have to put up with it to calm the storm. ”
He adopts a low-key and roundabout strategy, avoiding conflict and striving for understanding.
Later, his restrained wisdom slowly won the recognition of the unit, and his talent was discovered by everyone.
Classical writer Zhou Ruchang once said:
"I'm such a weirdo, I'm a contradiction, sometimes I see things clearly, sometimes I can't see clearly and I am confused. ”
In fact, isn't this a way to do things?
Know how to play confused at the right moment and stick to your opinion at the critical moment, so that you can be comfortable in the chess game of life, neither waste energy on trivial matters, nor give in to unworthy people in important moments.
Truly blessed people are tolerant and open-minded in dealing with small things, and calm in dealing with big things.
They are neither overly shrewd nor arrogant, nor blind and foolish, at the mercy of others;
Instead, they know how to "leave a line in everything, and see each other in the future".
Only in this way can we live freely and open-mindedly.
Don't care about fame and fortune, and don't do things stupidly
I don't know if you remember a story on the Internet.
In Quzhou, Zhejiang, a grandmother named Mao Shi has made a loving breakfast for many years, regardless of wind and rain.
She gets up at 1-2 o'clock in the morning every day, works hard to make soy milk, kueh and other breakfasts, regardless of rain or shine, sets up a stall for 6 hours, and the price of each item is only five dimes.
In this way, she has set up a stall for 27 years and sent 27 years of love.
In fact, the love breakfast was originally priced at five dimes, which was quite profitable.
But as time went by, prices rose, and the price of 5 dimes was far from the cost.
Although she has made a loss-making business, her grandmother always has a smile on her face.
She always waved her hand and said:
"When the kids are well fed, I'm happy. ”
"Breakfast grandma" Mao Shihua has been in her 80s from the age of 60 to her 80s, and she has ridden several broken tricycles and broken dozens of coal stoves.
Her persistence and diligence are even ashamed of us young people.
Not for fame and fortune, just to live happily.
Abandoning utilitarianism and focusing on enjoying the happiness and satisfaction of the present moment may be the only way to find true happiness.
Living your true self and pursuing inner peace and satisfaction is the most precious treasure.
In Mr. Jin Yong's classic work "Dragon Babu", the monk Gu Mo Zhi is a smart and clever character with scheming beyond ordinary people.
He worked hard, just to become the top master in the martial arts, and did things like snatching the six-vein divine sword and secretly practicing Shaolin stunts.
Although Kumachi is eloquent, can speak well, and speaks of Buddhism endlessly, he has never been able to get rid of the trouble of fame and fortune.
And when Gu Mozhi got the "Yijin Sutra", he greedily practiced divine skills, but in the end, he went mad and was absorbed by Duan Yu's internal force, and his martial arts were completely wasted.
lost his martial arts, and Gu Mozhi woke up and realized that blindly chasing fame and fortune was stupid.
In the second half of his life, he devoted himself to the translation of Buddhist scriptures, leaving a rare cultural treasure for the world.
"Song of Ten Thousand Skies" says:
"The gold is empty, the silver is empty, and after death, he is in his hands. ”
Life is like a play, and joy and freedom should be the protagonist, not fame and fortune.
The years are like a dream, and the glory and disgrace of gains and losses are the scenery, and peace of mind is needed as a footnote.
Being a man does not draw on fame and fortune, let your soul be at peace, your soul will be free, and your life will be open.
Don't care about stubbornness, don't be confused when you break the circle
Psychologist John Farber once conducted an experiment on caterpillars.
He arranged a few caterpillars around the pot, followed the natural caterpillars habitually moving along the previous one to form a closed circle, and then scattered some pine leaves on the side.
Despite the changed circumstances, these opinionated caterpillars still stuck to their original tracks, walking in circles for seven days and seven nights, and finally fell to death.
What kills caterpillars is that they cling to habits and experiences and are unable to change with the changing environment.
If life is only bound by stereotypes, it will eventually be haunted and imprisoned by this rigidity.
Food has an expiration date, and news is time-sensitive.
In the ever-changing moment, it is better to blindly stick to it than to boldly break the circle.
Only by updating ourselves, actively iterating, and daring to break through can we start a better life journey.
In the circle of friends, there is a senior sister with excellent photography skills, who always shares the beautiful photos she took.
Her photographic style is always uninhibited.
My sister told us privately that she had changed her photography style for a long time.
At first, she could only take portraits, and she didn't know anything about landscape photos.
One day, she walked alone on the street in the evening with a camera, recording the rush of people around her.
Suddenly, an avant-garde photograph caught her eye, full of strong personality and imagination.
At this moment, she seemed to see another possibility of her own, and the impulse to create was surging in her heart.
So, she began to experiment with different shooting angles, crouching, looking down, looking up, and every movement was to capture more unique images.
She also dared to challenge the use of light, and every moment of sunrise, sunset, and night became a source of inspiration for her, so her photography took on a new charm, and finally won the championship of the campus photography competition at that time.
The transformation of her style also gave her more opportunities for business cooperation.
When it comes to the use of strategy in "The Art of War", the most taboo thing is to stick to the rules and remain unchanged.
The main idea it advocates is to be flexible and follow the trend.
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Xi Murong said:
"I know that no matter how flowers bloom or fall, it's just a lonely performance, but I'm still willing to do my best to perform this life. ”
Let us cherish every opportunity and challenge, and be brave enough to pursue our dreams and realize our own values.
So, don't hesitate, take the initiative to break through your comfort zone at the moment, and don't let your life have too many regrets.
Let's abandon unnecessary calculations, learn to embrace change, and keep pace with the times.
Use the wisdom of the soul to perceive the beauty of life, to enjoy the true meaning of happiness, and to become a truly blessed person.
May you and I be blessed people, walking in the light and shadow of life, blooming with our own unique style.