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"Don't extubate, I still want to live. ”
This is a sentence written on paper by a patient with kidney failure as he died. I believe that many people will be heartbroken when they see this sentence, but the patient's family still resolutely unplugged the oxygen tube that the patient relied on to sustain his life.
It was also this move of the family members that instantly attracted fierce condemnation from the majority of netizens. So is the behavior of the family members aimed at ending the patient's suffering as soon as possible, or does it have other purposes? Is this behavior regarded as giving up treatment, or is it deliberately stinging? Let me take you to explore the whole story.
On April 16, 2024, a patient with kidney failure in Gansu Province was transferred out of the ICU ward. The doctor told the patient's family that there was little point in staying in the ICU, that the patient had no possibility of recovery, and that the current situation was that the patient could be transferred to a general ward or go home, but in either case, he could only take his last breath. The patient's family eventually chose to bring the patient home.
However, after returning home, the patient's family began to get together and discuss that since there was no possibility of recovery now, the patient's continued hanging last breath was also a pain for himself, and it was also a lot of burden for the family.
Therefore, under the joint discussion of several family members, it was finally decided to give up the treatment, and everyone unanimously decided to unplug the ventilator tube that the patient finally relied on to continue his life.
However, at this time, the patient, who had been lying on the bed and listening silently to the conversation of the family members, made a noise, and the family members rushed over, because the patient was no longer able to speak, and the family members found a pen and paper and asked the patient to write down his meaning on paper.
I saw the patient holding a pen and writing a few words on the paper tremblingly: "Don't extubate, I still want to live." ”
Seeing this scene, the family members present were very heartbroken, and some people began to be unbearable at this time, thinking that even if they were on a ventilator and took a breath, they would let the patient live as long as they wanted.
But there are still a few family members who stick to the original idea. It's not that they don't want the patient to continue to live, it's just that even if they continue to persevere, there is no possibility of improvement, but if there is the slightest hope that they can get better, the family will not make such a decision.
Moreover, the original proposal to go home from the hospital was also put forward by the doctor, and the doctor's meaning was that even if the patient stayed in the hospital, it would be meaningless, and if he went home, he might be able to make the patient feel a little warmth, and just walk the last mile.
During the period of the patient's illness, to be honest, the family members have been overwhelmed, not only has it caused huge pressure on the family financially, but also taking care of the patient itself is a very hard and cumbersome thing, if it is only temporary, it is fine, but this disease is generally a "protracted battle", presumably the family members have been subjected to multiple pressures in the psychological, physical, and economic aspects during the patient's illness.
The most important point is that the symptoms of a disease like kidney failure will become more and more severe in the later stages. Although the patient is currently at an advanced stage and there is no possibility of survival, some of the symptoms that will occur in the late stage of kidney failure have not yet appeared.
That is to say, the patient has not yet reached his most painful time at this time, but now that he has left the hospital, there are no medical conditions at home, and he can only rely on a ventilator to barely maintain the patient's vital signs, and as the days pass, the patient's complications will appear more and more, the symptoms will become more and more serious, and the patient himself will become more and more painful.
At the end of the patient's life, due to the impact of the disease, the patient's physical state may be unbearable to look at, and if the treatment of the patient is stopped immediately, at least he can walk a little more decently.
The family members took a combination of factors and decided to abandon the treatment for the patient due to various considerations. So the patient's last life-sustaining ventilator was unplugged, and ten minutes later, the patient unexpectedly passed away forever.
Many netizens were very heartbroken when they saw this incident, and many people agreed that the families of these patients were simply too ruthless, and even many netizens gave birth to various speculations:
"The patient has a strong desire, so why not satisfy him, I think it's too cruel. ”
"The patient is conscious, can still write to express his strong desire to live, cannot extubate, can live a few more days, let him live a few more days, wait until he loses consciousness or is unconscious for a few days, and it is not too late to extubate. ”
"It's just a ventilator, how much money can it take? The patients have begged you, and they still pull it out, I can't understand. ”
"How can a relative be able to write, how can he bear to extubate? It's so cruel! It's just a S person!"
"I have only heard of patients who are in pain and ask their families to stop ventilators, but I didn't expect that there are patients who ask not to stop ventilators, and their families force them to stop the ventilators, so that the patients die with hatred. ”
Some netizens made a hypothesis and said: If this old brother has a pension of 20,000 or 30,000 yuan a month, do you say that the family will be extubated?
In fact, it is understandable that netizens are so heartbroken, after all, seeing this kind of birth, old age, sickness and death and other things, it is easy for everyone to bring it into themselves, or bring it into their families, so they will be emotional.
But everyone only thinks from the perspective of the patient, and few people put themselves in the perspective of the patient's family. As the relatives of the patients, who would want to watch their relatives leave? There must be no way to do such a helpless act.
At this time, another netizen said, "Didn't your parents raise you with and urine when you were young, raising children and daughters is to prevent old age, what is tired, think about it!"
It is true that it is very hard for parents to raise their children from an early age, but in the process of raising children, parents see their children's growth day by day, their children's progress, and they are full of hope for the future. However, when the family is taking care of the patient, the patient's condition is deteriorating and the future is hopeless, so although the children are grateful for the nurturing grace of their parents, it is really different from this situation.
For such a situation, there is also a very key question that the patient himself has a desire to survive, but the family members resolutely unplug the ventilator, is this behavior deliberate, or is it a waiver of treatment?
Regarding this matter, a lawyer said: In mainland law, it is stipulated that the crime of intentional s-person refers to the subjective intention to deprive others of their lives, and objectively the corresponding acts have been carried out.
The family members of several patients did not subjectively want the patient's life to continue, and objectively did carry out the act of unplugging the ventilator, but because such a situation is really very special, it cannot be judged by ordinary circumstances, so whether it is deliberately S person or give up treatment, we can only see the benevolent and the wise see the wise.
So after reading the whole thing, how do you view and define such behavior of patients? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss.