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In this life, it is actually very lucky to be able to meet a person who loves each other, enter into marriage together, run a family, and witness a happy life together.
A good marriage is not one person paying, but two people running together.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu said that marriage is like a besieged city, where people inside want to get out and people outside want to come in.
Marriage is not as easy as imagined, and it tests a person's heart and character more.
Between husband and wife, first of all, we must harvest happiness, and if we want to get along comfortably, then we must know how to fulfill each other in the run-in and meet a better self.
Love can be vigorous, but marriage will gradually become dull, husband and wife think, want to grow old together, want to be together for a lifetime, the most comfortable way to get along, just three sentences.
First, we must learn to tolerate things and not care so much.
No matter what happens, we must learn to calm down, give each other stable emotions, don't just complain about each other when we encounter things, even if the other party is at fault, we must also know how to tolerate.
No one is perfect, we don't always have trouble with each other, don't care too much about gains and losses, but look down on everything, tolerate each other with love, and learn to pretend to be stupid, so that we will give each other space and respect, and will make the other party feel that you are very patterned, and will feel that you are a good person and very warm.
Husband and wife, if you want to get along comfortably, don't talk about each other's faults, but open one eye, close one eye, be more tolerant, and care less, so that you can get along in harmony.
Second, appropriate softness, moderate stops.
Between husband and wife, it is inevitable that there will be some differences, and some contradictions will occur, don't quarrel with each other constantly, don't keep arguing, you have to learn to be soft, and you need to take the initiative to give each other a step, even if it is a quarrel, don't have a cold war, and finally don't quarrel for a day, everyone will resolve the contradictions and reconcile.
Therefore, between husband and wife, there is nothing that cannot be passed, as long as it is not something that touches the principle and bottom line, we must learn to stop in moderation, not to be aggressive, not to ignore each other for several days, but to care about each other's feelings, know how to empathize, do not disconnect, do not resent, otherwise if this internal friction continues, the feelings will be weakened, and it will come to the point of no return.
Husband and wife, if they are comfortable with each other, they need to admit their mistakes when they should admit their mistakes, and give in when they should give in, so as to exchange for more peace.
3. Know the balance and give the other party space.
Husband and wife, even if they live together and are tied together, each person is still an independent individual.
Whether it is a wife or a husband, they all have their own things to do, they have their own ideas and privacy, even if they are pillow people, don't stretch out their hands too long, interfere in each other's affairs, disrespect each other's wishes, force each other to live according to their own ideas, and let the other party change for themselves, In fact, over time, there will be more contradictions, and even make the other party disgusted and want to escape.
Between husband and wife, the most comfortable way to get along is to respect each other, give each other independence and space, support each other to do what they like, do not force each other, appreciate each other, support each other, and be each other's backing, which is the most beautiful.
Between husband and wife, don't always be suspicious of each other, don't suffer from gains and losses, don't be suspicious, the more you track each other's itinerary and doubt each other, then no matter how good the relationship is, it will be consumed.
In short, between husband and wife, remember the above three sentences in order to reap full happiness.
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