#春日生活打卡季 ##最是一年春好处, you are to the lower link ##春到人间人似玉, you are to the lower link ##打工人的生活不易#
I've been feeling a little depressed lately.
It can also be said that there is some new understanding of human nature.
For people like me, although I am 30+, but I have no life experience, and my parents and teachers have been more favored since I was a child, my understanding of human nature is actually very limited.
And I learned a lot about it.
Recently, I met a child who had just graduated from graduate school, and I saw a lot of shadows of my past from him.
For example: very naïve, kind and warm-hearted, talking about their own things without reservation, overestimating the moral bottom line of others, very quick to react, like to speak smartly, love to joke without thinking about whether it will offend people......
Overall, this is a smart but innocent child, who looks like he has not been beaten by society at all.
In other words, it is also called "clear stupidity".
However, it is also too easy for people to see through.
It makes people think: you're a nice person, but I don't want to respect you that much.
Looking at the child in front of me gave me a chance to re-examine myself from God's perspective.
In the past, I would have felt that if I am passionate about you, and you treat me with disrespect or take advantage of my kindness to treat me as a fool, it is because you have a bad character, and it is not worth my time with you, and I don't have to care about your means.
But now that I have been taught a lot of lessons by the society, I have come to understand that ordinary people cannot be in awe of a person who is kind but has no scheming and can be seen through by others at a glance.
It's a real human nature that I don't agree with, that I don't think it's correct, but it's hard to suppress.
If I could travel back in time, I would no longer feel like I did at the beginning, "even after seeing this cruel truth, I will always be enthusiastic and sincere", "I must know the world without being sophisticated, and the history will be smooth and innocent".
I hope that people like me can become a person who will shake his face and make others jealous as soon as possible.
I would prefer you to be a "ruthless character" and be the kind of person who is quiet and cautious in what you say and do. That way, you won't be angry and lose your temper because you have been treated badly, but you will definitely put away your kindness and quietly give the other person a disadvantage.
Because, not everyone deserves to be so sincere;
And if you are so sincere to everyone, then others will think that your sincerity is not valuable.
It's a waste of enthusiasm and a waste of money.
Indeed, in society, only "ruthless characters" are the easiest to achieve. Their biggest characteristic is that they can control their emotions well, and they can conduct rational analysis at any time without being trapped by emotions.
So what are the obvious characteristics of ruthless characters?
01
Keep your mouth in mind that trouble does not come out of your mouth
There is a good saying: people don't talk much.
The more kind of people who babble, the less capable they are. Those who are really powerful are often quiet, and always give you such a moment at a critical moment.
Because they know that no matter how big the cowhide is, it is just a mouthful, and what is really useful depends on personal strength.
If a person is always talking about his thoughts, it is easy to lose the voice of the outside world.
Moreover, if others can't see through you, they will be in awe of you, and if you always talk about yourself to others, you will not have any mystery to others, and they will most likely not be in awe of you.
02
Don't care what other people think
Although many people will advertise themselves: I am a maverick and don't care what others think.
But in life, they always live as they hate. Clearly saying that he doesn't care about other people's opinions, but he scores his actions and performance everywhere.
One of the obvious characteristics of this type of person is that they have strong self-esteem, but they are not strong enough.
I'm always afraid of being isolated by others, so I always take care of other people's emotions, please the hearts of others, I don't know when I get angry, others don't care, just when you're joking.
Many times, we want others to like and accept us, so we always try our best to please others.
I thought I would be able to fit in like this, but in the end?
The more carefully you treat everyone, the more you don't care, and the less you get the respect of others.
"If you please others too much, you will increase the probability of not being cherished. ”
In this world, not everything you give can be exchanged for something of equal value.
03
及时断舍离，不被负面情绪左右
Nowadays, life is fast-paced and stressful, but there are always some people, no matter how much work they have, their mental state is always very relaxed every day, and even after a quarrel with someone, they can immediately have a drink with another person in the next second.
Truth be told, this kind of person is really worth learning from when it comes to dealing with emotions.
Let yourself withdraw from bad people and bad things in time, and not be swayed by negative emotions. Life is short for decades, and there is no need to let yourself be entangled in meaningless entanglements.
Really powerful people know how to withdraw in time. Even if you suffer a little loss when you leave with your whole body, you will never allow yourself to waste too much time and energy.
I hope you can also become a "ruthless person" who does big things.
In life, since we can't satisfy everyone, it is better to be cautious and independent, maverick, and strive to live a better life.
Such sobriety and open-mindedness, may you and I have it.
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