Once upon a time, the term "fake divorce" was popular. The husband and wife have obtained a divorce certificate for things such as buying a house, but they still live together and raise their children together.
In the eyes of one of the parties, divorce in the legal sense is just a name for their convenience, but if the other party has other ideas, then the unaware party must be very disadvantaged.
A Bin and A Hong from Datian, Sanming City, Fujian Province, have been married for 13 years and have two children together. In 2018, Abin bought a house due to credit problems, so he proposed a fake divorce from Ah Hong.
After receiving the divorce certificate, the two continued to live the same life as before the divorce. In Ah Bin's opinion, except for the divorce certificate that he and A Hong have received, they are no different from before the divorce.
But gradually, Ah Hong's heart became farther and farther away from Ah Bin at some point, and even took the initiative to favor another man. As for Ah Hong's changes, Ah Bin didn't know anything until he witnessed it with his own eyes.
At the beginning, the two successfully bought a house after a fake divorce and put the house in Ah Hong's name.
The joy of having a new home fades over time, and with it comes great pressure. This new house has to repay more than 7,000 mortgages every month, and the two have two children to support, and the huge living expenses have become the source of quarrels between Abin and Ah Hong.
coincided with the failure of Abin's business at that time, so he decided to go to Fuzhou alone to try his luck and make more money to reduce the burden on his family.
Ah Bin has been gone for three years, and Ah Hong has stayed in his hometown to take care of the children.
In Ah Bin's view, living separately from Ah Hong is just a temporary separation, and the purpose is for a better future for the two.
During this period, the careless Abin never noticed Ah Hong's changes, and he didn't react until afterwards: Ah Hong's heart was no longer with him.
When Abin first arrived in Fuzhou, he would video chat with Ah Hong every day. But slowly, Ah Hong began to stop answering video calls, and it took a long time to reply to Ah Bin that he was taking a shower or busy with housework just now.
The naïve Ah Bin believed it and didn't take Ah Hong's increasingly obvious perfunctory to heart.
Until the year before last, Ah Hong offered to help Abin reduce her burden, and she said that she would go to Xiamen to work with her good sisters.
At first, Abin disagreed, but Ah Hong said that the child was taken care of by both mothers, and the child was older, so she didn't want Abin to work so hard alone.
In the end, Abin reluctantly agreed, and in order to dispel Abin's doubts, Ah Hong also showed Abin a photo of his good sisters who went to Xiamen with him.
After Ah Hong went to Xiamen, she would send a message to Abin every night, such as a short sentence such as "I went back to the dormitory to sleep".
At this time, Abin still didn't notice Ah Hong's abnormality, until this year's Chinese New Year, Ah Bin saw such a chat record on Ah Hong's mobile phone.
He stayed where he was like a lightning strike, and he couldn't believe that Ah Hong had betrayed him and betrayed the relationship between the two for many years.
In this message, Ah Hong asked the other party: What about you, can you abandon everything?"
Later, Ah Hong also asked the other party if he had made it clear to his wife, but the other party only vaguely mentioned it.
The angry and sad Ah Bin immediately asked Ah Hong for confirmation, and the weak-hearted Ah Hong did not defend much, admitting that she had lived with this man when she was in Xiamen, and that this man had another family.
After finishing speaking, Ah Hong sincerely said that she would cut off contact with this man and never communicate again.
But Ah Bin found out several times that Ah Hong was secretly keeping in touch with this man. And Ah Hong's family knew about it, not only did they not stop it, but they also acquiesced to Ah Hong being with that man.
Just last month, Hong's mother called Hong back to her parents' home. But Ah Bin found that Ah Hong, who was supposed to be in her mother's house, opened a room with the man in the same hotel.
Even if Ah Hong hurt Ah Bin like this, Ah Bin still didn't give up.
He took the initiative to find the man, hoping that he would be able to leave Ah Hong and return to his family. And that man shamelessly made a condition: I spent a lot of money on Ah Hong, since you want me to leave her, then give me the money.
Abin agreed without hesitation, and the other party asked for 36,800, and Abin immediately transferred 3,000 yuan to him and promised to give it within a year.
thought that Ah Bin was so aggrieved and begged for perfection, Ah Hong and the other party would do what he wanted, but the two were still breaking the thread, which couldn't help but make Ah Bin feel that he had become a proper wrongdoer.
Abin has paid so much, but after some twists and turns, Ah Hong is obsessed and determined to separate from Abin.
No matter how Abin persuaded him, Ah Hong always looked like he was not in the limelight, and the helpless Ah Bin could only invite an emotional mediator, hoping that Ah Hong could return to the family with the help of the mediator.
Abin told the mediator that Ah Hong was six years older than the man with a family, and that he felt that this man was not a good thing by the man asking him for money.
If Ah Hong doesn't want to be with him anymore, then at least he has to leave the man with bad intentions.
But when the mediator asked Ah Hong, Ah Hong gave a direct answer: "I know that Ah Bin loves me very much, but I don't love him anymore." ”
Speaking of her marriage with Ah Bin, Ah Hong even said that the union of the two was a mistake from the beginning.
Ah Hong said that the reason why Abin married him was entirely because the two reached the age of marriage, and the two began to quarrel every day after they got engaged.
As she spoke, all the grievances that had been accumulated in Ah Hong's heart for a long time poured out. She said that Abin never cared about her, and now his retention is just his possessiveness.
Facing the stranger of the mediator, Ah Hong began to tell about the suffering she had suffered in her in-law's house over the years.
She said that her mother-in-law didn't come to help her cook, and she had to cook and cook every time she came home from work, but Abin was indifferent to this, only crossed Erlang's legs and waited for the hot meal to be served.
What's even more excessive is that during the marriage between the two, as long as a friend called, even if it was twelve o'clock in the middle of the night, Abin still left her and the child to go out to party.
After accumulating such a series of things, Ah Hong's disappointment in Ah Bin is getting bigger and bigger; when she was still in love with him, he didn't cherish it, but now that he is cold, he still comes to keep himself, what's the point?
Then, Ah Hong also talked about Ah Bin's inaction: when he was at her mother-in-law's house, he never stood on her side, but fought against her with her mother-in-law.
As she spoke, Ah Hong began to choke, which showed how much these little things hurt her in the first place.
Ah Hong said that when she was at her mother-in-law's house, even if she had to go out to eat with friends at night, she had to get the food at home before she could go out, otherwise she would be troubled by her mother-in-law.
Even though she had told Abin in advance, Abin was indifferent.
On the other hand, Ah Bin's younger brother, Ah Bin was simply compared to the ground.
Ah Hong said that when her mother-in-law said to Brother Abin, you want to find a hard-working wife to help you with housework, Brother Abin replied directly: Am I looking for a wife to do housework?
Therefore, Ah Bin's younger brother's wife now has nothing to do at home, and all the housework falls on Ah Hong's head. Ah Hong complained about this, but Ah Bin only perfunctory with the sentence "My mother is closer to you".
After listening to Ah Hong's story, the mediator understood Ah Hong's mood very well. So the mediator criticized Ah Bin, who was squatting in front of Ah Hong: "You also have to review and reflect on yourself." If it's fragrant at home, then why should she look for it outside?"
The mediator accused Abin that it was his various behaviors that pushed Ah Hong further and further.
At this time, Ah Hong added: Another important reason why she no longer loves Abin is because Abin is always suspicious of her.
In the past, she went out with her female friends, but Abin always suspected that she had a situation, Abin said that Ah Hong often played outside until three or four o'clock before coming back, Ah Hong retorted: Then you don't often drink until three or four o'clock, can I also think that you have a situation outside?
The former husband and wife are still arguing with each other like a couple.
The mediator interrupted the quarrel in time and criticized Abin again;
Ah Bin just nodded, but he didn't approve of what Ah Hong said earlier that led to the breakdown of the relationship between the two.
He said that all this was caused by Ah Hong's trip to Xiamen.
Ah Bin called Ah Hong's behavior extremely immoral: "He has a wife and children!"
Speaking of finding one, Ah Hong was obviously weak-hearted, and the momentum of his speech was far less than at the beginning: "He is gone." ”
"That's not because of you! People don't even want wives and children!" Abin asked.
"What the hell are you going to do!" Hong became impatient.
Seeing that the two began to quarrel again as soon as they mentioned finding a topic, the mediator persuaded Abin to leave first, and she communicated with Ah Hong alone.
Ah Hong said that at first she didn't have the idea of looking for it again, but suddenly someone understood and cared, and she opened up to the other party.
As for the statement that her boyfriend is married, Ah Hong refuted it. She said that her boyfriend did have children, but he and the child's mother did not have a marriage certificate, so in a legal sense, her boyfriend was also single.
Her relationship with her boyfriend is also very reasonable.
The mediator asked Ah Hong again about her future plans, and Ah Hong changed her previous hesitant attitude, saying that there was no longer any possibility between herself and Ah Bin, and she wanted to pursue her own happiness.
The mediator advised Ah Hong to think more about her two children, but Ah Hong was silent and did not say anything.
After Abin learned Ah Hong's intentions, he said the most unbearable point: after he and Ah Hong faked divorce, he had always paid the mortgage for the house, and he would give Ah Hong living expenses every month.
Even after Abin learned that Ah Hong was "cheating", he still gave her money every month. Now that I think about it, Ah Hong just lives in the house he bought and uses his money to support other men.
Ah Hong said that the house could be transferred to the child's name, and she would never ask for it.
After hearing this, Ah Bin immediately changed his mind and said that the house and living expenses were not important, as long as Ah Hong was willing to return to the family, he would no longer care about the rest.
Despite being so humble, Hong still doesn't want to live with Abin anymore, and she says that Abin even harmed herself in order to keep her, which makes her very scared.
Then Ah Hong blamed Ah Bin, because of him, there was a gap between her and her boyfriend, and her boyfriend even blocked her.
The mediator hopes that Ah Hong can see the reality clearly and not give up her marriage and children because of the impulse to fall in love.
Ah Hong cried and said that she knew she was sorry for Ah Bin, but she still had to be brave to pursue her own happiness.
In the end, Abin had no choice but to give up, saying that he was willing to let go.
In Ah Bin's opinion, the fake divorce has no effect on her at all, but for Ah Hong, this just gives her a legitimate reason and excuse to find happiness.
Emotional matters have never been right or wrong, and Ah Hong, who is not bound by the law, can take the opportunity to intervene in the feelings of others in a bright way.
only took pity on her and Abin's two children.