-01
Two people in love, one person alone
There is a type of person who is called a "dependent partner".
These characteristics are found in this type of person:
I am not happy with each other, but I never want to leave;
Two people live together, but they are getting more and more lonely;
The other party has many shortcomings and has done some things that hurt him, but he still fantasizes that the other party will be able to change one day;
Stuck in unrealistic expectations, unwilling to burst this bubble.
If you are a "dependent" and the other person has never met your needs;
If in this relationship you always forgive, always compromise, always please;
If you get worse and worse, more and more lonely.
Please don't hesitate, don't kid yourself, and it's best to end the relationship decisively.
The "dependent" in the relationship, before changing himself, enters any relationship, which is painful.
-02
It is impossible to see the good in each other
Men's Perspective:
"Compared to when we first got together, she was getting uglier and worse, she was too nagging, and with her, I felt uncomfortable all over, and she restricted my freedom and space."
Woman's Perspective:
"After living together, I found that he was not romantic at all, incomprehensible, and a little sloppy; socks were thrown everywhere, he snored and grinded his teeth when he slept, and he was full of shortcomings when he ate."
When two people are together, there is no praise or expectation for each other, and there is only "disgust and blame";
After the halo effect disappears, the strengths of the other party disappear completely, and only each other's shortcomings are seen in the eyes.
Such a relationship is destined to be torturous and painful.
More and more disgusted, the next step will be a fierce conflict, and then break up.
-03
Wavering between continuing and ending the relationship
If you're with someone, you often have these feelings:
"TA爱我吗?会爱我多久?"
"Will we be happy together?"
"Is TA a suitable person to marry?"
The uncertainty is extremely high, what does it mean?
It shows that from the beginning, you don't have such a strong desire to go on with the other party;
At least in some ways, the other side is what makes you unhappy.
Compared with your ideal partner, the other party is more or less different;
It's okay to be with them, you don't suffer at the moment, but you never thought about marrying each other.
Wavering thoughts often appear, which is a sign of not loving enough.
Trust your sixth sense, trust your intuition;
If you don't want to marry someone, ending the relationship as soon as possible is the most rational decision.
-04
Behind your relationship, there is no social support
What is "social support"?
did not integrate into each other's circle, did not meet each other's family and friends;
One party has never shared a relationship, and social platforms always create a "single person";
has never mentioned the topic of marriage, let alone taking each other to meet their parents.
In other words:
Except for the two of you, the people around you hardly know about this feeling;
It's like two people hiding in the shadows, they only meet when they need to, and they are like ordinary friends when they don't need to.
Feelings without social support, crumbling, can be blown away by the wind at any time.
-05
Lack of interest and freshness
Perceive that there is a problem in the relationship, but do not make any changes and efforts;
You don't want to save, and the other party doesn't bother to solve the problem;
Let the relationship get worse and worse, and let the conflict escalate.
until they are too lazy to communicate with each other, too lazy to reply to messages, too lazy to share with each other;
Sometimes I didn't talk for a day, I didn't feel anything wrong, and I didn't even think about each other.
There is nothing new about each other, too lazy to try new things;
Too lazy to establish common interests with each other and do not want to participate in each other's lives.
At this point, there is no point in continuing.
-06
There is no loyalty to speak of, no sense of boundaries in heterosexual relationships
There is no commitment, no trust, and no basic loyalty and single-mindedness to feelings.
Like what:
The other party is in a lover relationship with you, but you have an ambiguous relationship with colleagues and friends of the opposite sex around you, and you are relatively close.
When you find out and communicate with the other person, they are reluctant to change.
Your partner has a lot of friends of the opposite sex around you, can you accept it?
Can you tolerate an ambiguous relationship between a partner and the opposite sex?
No matter how they argue, if they can't keep boundaries with other members of the opposite sex;
Essentially, this is a sign that they don't love you and don't respect you.
Topic:
Do you think it's time for a relationship to end if something goes wrong?
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