Predictable.
Zhao Xiaotang and his mother got into a fight on the show.
Originally, the program team arranged a very warm plot, asking the daughter to set up a certain node when she was a child, and call her mother to share her feelings at that time.
The other guests, mother and daughter, were moved to tears.
Only Zhao Xiaotang and his mother quarreled directly on the phone.
In fact, the thing in dispute is very simple.
When Zhao Xiaotang was 14 years old, he was indiscriminately accused by the dance leader teacher, and his mother didn't listen to what happened, so she stood on the teacher's side to accuse her.
So she wants to ask her mother now, if she were to go back to that time, what would she choose?
To put it bluntly, Zhao Xiaotang actually just wants his mother to apologize.
At the age when she was most self-esteemed, because of the teacher's injury, her parents did not stand on her side and became her backing, which had an indelible impact on her psychologically.
But her mother not only didn't feel that she had done wrong, but directly began to argue, scolding her daughter for being too self-conscious, and not seeing her parents' dedication to her at all.
even threw out two sentences of "the dictionary in the canon":
"Don't Mom and Dad love you?"
"Mom and Dad have done so much for you!"
Zhao Xiaotang was also emotional, and couldn't help but quarrel with his mother on the phone.
Originally, when she was 14 years old, her mother had already missed it once regardless of the child's feelings.
Now that she has grown up, she told her mother that she wanted her to untie the knot, but her mother felt that her authority and dedication had been provoked and despised by her child, so she began to reprimand unreasonably, resulting in more contradictions and estrangements than the problem was solved.
This is simply a very typical presentation of "Chinese-style education".
If this dispute happened to Tao Xinran or Wang Luodan's mother and daughter, perhaps the audience would be more understanding, after all, the age of the two mothers was there, and most parents in that era educated their children in this way.
But.
This is Zhao Xiaotang's mother, Ms. Yue, it shouldn't be.
After all, Ms. Yue and Wang Luodan are only 10 years apart, and they belong to the younger generation of mothers, but they are very traditional and old-fashioned in educating their children.
However, if you take a closer look at the parent-child relationship between Zhao Xiaotang and her mother, it will not be unexpected.
When Ms. Yue appeared, she wore small leather shoes, piles of socks, black silk bottoms, small leather pants, a loose sweater and a ponytail.
Change the dignity of a traditional mother, and focus on a young and energetic person.
Usually pampered at home, the only job she has done is to get the hair out of the sink, as for the kitchen, housework does not need to come to her at all.
Dress up beautifully at home every day, and live a pampered life.
Zhao Xiaotang's father also dotes on his wife.
When the mother and daughter played the game, they also agreed that Ms. Yue had a higher family status and was younger than her 27-year-old daughter.
Zhao Xiaotang will also be sympathetic to his mother's little princess temper, although he said that he wanted to break his mother's idol burden, bought a doll costume and wore it with her, and wanted to trick her.
But I still bought a pink doll costume that was more in line with Ms. Yue's psychological acceptance.
Ms. Yue, who feels good about herself, will ask her daughter to help take pictures as soon as possible, and then send it to the child's father to watch online to ask for praise.
When the mother and daughter went out skiing together, the father also called and told the daughter to take good care of her mother.
Under the pampering and tolerance of family members, the mother in this family has been spoiled as a little princess, and the daughter is mature and tolerant of her mother's little temper.
Inexplicably, there is a sense of déjà vu that the family position is reversed.
So when Zhao Xiaotang and his friends were playing with coconut shell powder at home, making a mess all over the ground, Ms. Yue, who loves cleanliness, bluntly said that she wanted to cry after seeing it, and Zhao Xiaotang instantly felt that she was too much.
While coaxing her mother, she shouted to her friends to clean up, so that her mother didn't have to worry about it.
There are many scenes like this where the daughter takes care of her mother's emotions.
So this time, after Zhao Xiaotang revealed his scar to Ms. Yue, he did not wait for his mother's comfort or apology, but made Ms. Yue cry aggrieved.
Because she felt that her daughter said this kind of thing on the show, she couldn't save face, so she shouted:
"Okay, Mom and Dad don't love you!"
"I hate you!"
The childish emotions mixed with it seem to be more like a child's anger on their parents, after all, no one can imagine that a mother will ask for emotional value for her child.
This "I hate you" is also more like a word that only comes out of an ignorant child when he quarrels with his parents.
After the mother and daughter had a big quarrel, Zhao Xiaotang was very disappointed and found an open space to relieve his emotions.
After Tao Xinran saw her, she comforted her and said:
"Your mother is a 'girl', you don't have to worry about a child, you just treat her as an 18-year-old girl. ”
"She may be spoiled by the whole family, and her father is also spoiled, and she doesn't have too much pressure in life, her psychology is different, she is a little girl. ”
Obviously, even other families can see that the roles of Zhao Xiaotang's mother and daughter are reversed.
Even the audience can see it.
Of course, in the end, it is not surprising.
Zhao Xiaotang, who was still adjusting his emotions, took the initiative to coax his mother to end the dispute between the two.
Even if she is as strong as Tao Xinran's mother, when she is eating, she reviews that she feels that she didn't care enough about her daughter in the past through this phone call.
I don't know if Ms. Yue, who was in tears after listening to Tao's mother's review at that time, also had a trace of remorse in her heart?
There are many parents who can't communicate with their children normally, because their parents are too strong and feel that there is nothing wrong with what they do, and if their children are dissatisfied, they are not satisfied and ungrateful to them.
Such a parent-child relationship will only become more and more estranged, and in the end the parents do not know why.
Many netizens in the comment area have also experienced this kind of "unsupported" childhood, and they will still be haunted when they mention it as adults.
This is not an isolated case.
For Zhao Xiaotang's family, it is better than solving emotions.
Returning the mother to the mother's position and letting the daughter be the daughter back is probably the first step towards a healthy parent-child relationship.