Zhihu has a hot topic, "Do you dislike your parents for being poor?", which has so far attracted 1.53 million onlookers and discussions.
Why does such a topic attract so many people's attention? After reading the discussion among netizens, I really have mixed feelings......
"Dogs don't think their families are poor, and sons don't think their mothers are ugly." Aren't people even as good as dogs? How can they dislike their parents for being poor?
When I was a child, I envied other people's families for having money, but when I grew up, I found that although my parents did not have a lot of money, they also worked hard to live, gave us the best things they could give, provided us with food and clothing, for us to study, and gave us infinite love.
I don't dislike my parents for being poor, but my parents dislike me for being poor
There are indeed some parents who don't want to work hard to give birth to a baby and let the baby work hard, and then hope that the baby can be rich and rich and then feed themselves, completely ignoring the baby's talent, and not having to do their best to support their children, just hoping that their children will grow naturally like crops in the field, and then they will harvest. But what kind of children's knowledge and vision do not need the support of their parents? Without knowledge and vision, how can they become children who are successful in their eyes?
It is never poverty that is disgusted, but the absence of love and something deeper than poverty
Material poverty is really nothing, if it is just that the material conditions of the family are not good, but the relationship between the parents is harmonious and kind, and the whole family environment is peaceful and relaxed, what is there to dislike in such a family? However, if a family is not only in poor material conditions, but also mixed with black smoke and miasma, violence, ferocity, and stubbornness, how can people not want to flee, how can they not dislike it?
After reading so many discussions among netizens, I believe you can also see that what children dislike is never the material poverty of their parents, as long as they care enough, children will only hate themselves for being too poor to let their parents live a good life. We have all been children, and we have grown from children to adults and even parents, if you have regrets about your original family, try to let the regrets end in yourself, don't let your children inherit their regrets.