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I am an ordinary office worker working in a foreign company. I have to drive to and from work every day, and there are often traffic jams on the road, so I cherish that little alone time in the car. It was a precious moment for me to relax my mind and organize my mind.
My name is Li Lei and I am 32 years old. The personality is somewhat introverted and more cautious. He is diligent and friendly to his boss and colleagues. Life style check, no big hobbies, except for going to the gym on weekends. I work alone in this city, and my parents are still in my hometown. Although the income is not too high, with the style of thrift and thrift, life is quite stable.
I don't have too high expectations and pursuits for life, I just want to be able to live a peaceful life. But once, a small decision turned my life upside down. That experience made me realize that we still need to have principles and bottom lines in dealing with people and things, and we can't completely let things go. Otherwise, once someone else takes advantage, it will become even worse, and eventually lead to losses that you can't afford.
I was 27 years old at the time, and I had just joined the foreign company. On a sunny day, I drove to work as usual. In the parking lot downstairs, I met Wang Yanran. She is a new employee in our department, two years younger than me, sweet and pleasant, and very stylishly dressed.
"Hello, I'm Wang Yanran, a new employee. She offered to greet me.
"Hello, I'm Li Lei, and we're colleagues. Nice to meet you. I responded politely.
"Li Lei, my family lives near your house, can you pick me up on the way? I can pay for your gas." "
I was a little hesitant at the time, but looking at her sincere gaze, I thought to myself that the route was about the same anyway, so I nodded and agreed.
Since then, she has been my "guest of honor". We would meet downstairs every day on our commute, and then she would follow me to work in the car. In the beginning, she paid me some gas money on a monthly basis. Later, her attitude became more and more casual, and sometimes she didn't pay at all.
I'm not sure what to do with her behavior. On the one hand, I think it's normal for colleagues to help each other and take the initiative to provide convenience. On the other hand, if you really want to think about it, the amount of gas money she rubs against me every month is not a small amount.
I've had some hazy unhappiness, but I can't put it into account. I'm a more reserved person, and I never want to get out of the way or lose my temper with my colleagues. And Wang Yanran is very popular, and she is also popular in the company. I don't want to offend her and cause trouble because of this little thing.
However, I still don't want to let her rub my car unscrupulously. I secretly hope that she will realize that this is wrong and take the initiative to correct it. It's a pity that more than a month has passed, and she has gone her own way, unaware of it.
Gradually, through this time of getting along, I learned more about Wang Yanran's personality. She is not only beautiful and gentle, but also kind and polite, with a bit of delicate and lovely charm in her conversation. But at the same time, she also has a little temperament: willful, moody, and unsightly.
Once, we worked late and waited until it was completely dark. On the way, she kept complaining, saying that I was driving too slowly and not cautious enough, and almost taught me a hard lesson. I silently endured it, thinking to myself that she was just tired and emotionally disturbed.
As for me, I have been taught to be humble and generous since I was a child. In the face of her unreasonable accusations, I didn't fight back, but just tried to drive more carefully. It's not that I don't have confidence in my driving skills, but I just don't want to reason with her and get into trouble.
My tolerant and generous style has indeed won me a high level of popularity in the unit. But sometimes, I also reflect on whether I am too easy-going, so that I don't know that I am being bullied? I once secretly made up my mind to persuade Wang Yanran to be small-mouthed and admonished, but every time I saw her sweet face, my determination was loosened again.
In this way, as I went back and forth, Wang Yanran became more and more arrogant and presumptuous towards me, while I became more and more helpless towards her. Once, when I accidentally scraped the car, she laughed at me for being "clumsy with my hands and feet" and "incompetent at driving"; Once, because I didn't immediately open the door to let her out of the car, she slammed the door and left me alone in the car.
In the face of her excesses, I just endured in silence. Gradually, there were some subtle changes in our relationship: she became more and more ashamed of me, while I became more and more in awe of her. It's as if we have gone from colleagues to master and servant.
At this time, the company arranged for me and Wang Yanran to go on a business trip for a few days. I was both looking forward to and apprehensive about working with her. On the one hand, I hope that through this opportunity, I can deepen my relationship with her; On the other hand, I am also worried that she will continue to make unreasonable troubles and cause me trouble.
The night before I set off, I started to scrutinize the vehicle and be prepared. After all, this long journey, once there is a breakdown, it is not good. That night, I went to bed early and had a good rest for the next day's trip.
Along the way, Wang Yanran unreasonably criticized my driving style as usual, with a slight hint of provocation in her words. I just tried to avoid getting into an argument with her.
At noon, we took a break at a motorway service area. I pulled over and bought something to eat for her and myself. Who knows, Wang Yanran stalked her neck and asked me to give her the car keys.
"You give me the keys, I'm going to open the windows, it's stuffy in the car. She said confidently.
"Then I'll open the window, and you wait for me in the car for a while. I tried to politely decline her request.
"Don't be verbose, hurry up and give me the key!" She said impatiently.
I had no choice but to hand her the keys and get out of the car to buy lunch myself.
While I was leaving, Wang Yanran drove the car away! By the time I returned with the food I had just bought, the car was gone!
I was terrified, and I was at odds with each other: What was the reason for her to do such a crazy thing, or was she a prank, and was she going to drive back soon, or was she deliberately trying to leave me? Speculations alternated in my mind, and I was overwhelmed by mixed feelings.
It wasn't until a long time later, when the car still hadn't appeared, that I was forced to believe that she had really driven away, and our friendship with each other broke down completely. I stood alone on the side of the road, helpless and angry.
When I realized that Wang Yanran had really left me alone on the side of the road, an unprecedented anger surged into my heart. I gritted my teeth and kicked the stones on the side of the road hard, venting my resentment.
My mind flashed back to the scenes we had along, and I felt humiliated by her pampering and disruptive behavior towards me. I can't wait to find her right away, fix her hard, and get her back!
"Wang Yanran, what the hell are you doing? Hurry up and drive the car back!"
"Oh, Li Lei, you're so interesting. She said in a flirtatious tone, "I don't want to return your car, it's my own car." "
"What nonsense are you talking about?!" I gritted my teeth.
"Don't forget, you've been driving me for free for more than a year. I didn't spend a penny on your gas, so of course, the car was mine. She said confidently.
She took advantage of me in such a justifiable manner, and she was so eloquent and vexatious! I never thought that a person's theoretical logic could be deliberately distorted to such an extent.
"You drive me back immediately, or I'll call the police!" I gritted my teeth, eager to eat her alive.
"Haha, you can call the police. She laughed very arrogantly, "When the time comes, I will say, I paid for this car, how can you be a poor bastard who is qualified to take my car?"
I couldn't hold back my anger anymore and hung up the phone hard. Tears rolled in my eyes, and my body trembled. Just then, a car drove up, and the good Samaritan saw that I was alone and took me to a local hotel.
In my hotel room, I felt as if I was in a deep trance. I sat on the edge of the bed, my mind repeating over and over the woman's vexatious quibbles and abuse.
I began to reflect on whether I was too naïve in my way of doing things, and from the very beginning, I didn't defend myself and allowed her to do whatever she wanted. I have always been blindly tolerant and indulgent, but I have ignored where my bottom line is. This is why this is such an unacceptable result today.
Just when I was in great pain, a thought suddenly flashed into my mind: perhaps, life is about setting different bottom lines and principles on different occasions, and you can't completely let it go.
I do not deny that friendliness and tolerance are virtues, but they also need to be based on the premise that both sides have a basic mutual trust. If the other party is suspicious, but you blindly indulge in compromise, it will only encourage the other party's luck mentality, and thus push things to a more extreme point.
In the case of today's incident, if I had rejected her in a resolute and principled way from the beginning, she might have been furious, but at least it wouldn't have gotten to the point where it is today. But I was reckless again and again, and in the end it was such an unacceptable result.
Life is all about balancing between benevolence and reason. For those who deserve to be tolerated, we should have more fraternity; However, for those who are cunning and indulgent, we must also have principles and bottom lines, and reject them in a clear-cut manner, rather than letting them go unchecked. Only in this way will we not fall for others and add to the losses we suffer.
"Wang Yanran, I know that you have bad intentions and want to take advantage of me. But I also want to make it clear to you that I will not be swept away by you easily. You give me three days, and within three days, if you don't drive the car back, I'll call the police and charge you with theft!"
"Nothing to talk about!" I interrupted her, "Three days, this is the deadline I gave you." If you know each other, drive the car back now, and I can consider opening the net. Otherwise, wait to be arrested!"
With that, I unceremoniously hung up.
I sneered, not intending to give her half a cent at all: "It's just gas money, or a small amount of money! You drove my car away, which already constitutes the crime of theft." Even if you give me tenfold, hundredfold gas money, it will not make up for your crimes. "
"Three days, if you don't drive the car back after three days, I'll call the police immediately. I said mercilessly, "When the time comes, you will face prison at your own risk!"
With that, I hung up the phone again fiercely.
With the keys in hand, I went to the parking lot and saw my car parked there unharmed. My mood finally relaxed and it seemed like everything was back to normal.
I started the car and the familiar sound of the engine sounded, which made me feel more grounded and relieved than ever. I took a deep breath and felt all the tiredness in my body be swept away. yes, let the dust settle, I'm going to start a new life.
As I left the hotel, I looked at the buildings that were drifting away from me, and wished myself that I hoped that everything would go well in the future, and that I would not encounter such setbacks and tribulations again. After all, life is still long, and it is worth looking forward to and pursuing something better.
When I returned to the unit, I took the initiative to ask Wang Yanran for transfer. My superiors also seemed to realize the discord between us, and soon agreed to transfer me to another department. From then on, I never had to deal with the woman who broke my heart again.
After this regrettable episode, I began to reflect on some of the problems I had in my own way of doing things.
Through this lesson, I have come to a deeper understanding that we cannot completely let things go our laurels or rest on our laurels. We must learn to set different principles and bottom lines on different occasions, and be ruthless in our determination to those who are unreasonable, but also have more friendship for those who deserve to be tolerated. Only by grasping this delicate balance can we truly get out of the haze of life and welcome a better future.
From this incident, I also deeply understood some basic principles and wisdom of life.
In short, this episode has given me too many life inspirations. It made me realize that life is not always smooth sailing, and that each of us will inevitably encounter tribulations of one kind or another, and the key is to learn from them and really grow. Only when we grow can we embrace the next stage of life with a broader mind.