During the Spring Festival of 2019, Kaka (pseudonym), a 25-year-old girl from Shanghai, recorded several conversations between herself and her parents, which caused heated discussions on the Internet. For his daughter, who was single at the time, her father said, "What's the hurry? Fate hasn't arrived, so it's useless for you to talk about seventeen or eighteen." Five years later, the 30-year-old Kaka has released a new video: she is still single and unemployed. But the father was not disappointed, but supported his daughter to do what she liked, "As long as she is happy, we are happy." ”
This video quickly rushed to the hot search, and many netizens envied that this was "someone else's father" and "loving family", but some netizens said that many practical problems in life have to be faced after all, and it is useless to have "chicken soup for the soul" alone.
It should be noted that the pace of contemporary society is getting faster and faster, and the pressure of life is also increasing, as Kaka's father said, young people nowadays are "not easy". One of the most important reasons why Kaka's video has sparked heated discussions is that everyone can empathize with her thoughts and confusion, and the tolerance and understanding she received from her father is in fact what many young people need today.
It can't be said that some netizens are unreasonable: you need encouragement and support in life, but you can't just encourage and support. If you just love your children unconditionally, it is not impossible for it to turn into a certain degree of "doting", which is not conducive to young people facing the difficulties of life. After all, it's easy for people to grow really after experiencing setbacks.
But it is worth noting that Kaka did not "lie flat", on the contrary, she worked hard in work and life, but the result may not be satisfactory. This is not the normal state of life, and life is unsatisfactory nine times out of ten. This is also why the father, who neither blames his daughter for being unemployed nor urging him to get off the single, will be supported by many netizens: In the face of young people who have gone all out, we might as well give them a little more warmth. Sometimes, a little warmth in life can change a person's life.
During the morning rush hour, passengers take the subway in Beijing. Photo by Xinhua News Agency reporter Ju Huanzong
Of course, this father leaves us with more to think about. He said, "People just have to be casual, life is imperfect, plain, and it doesn't necessarily have to be colorful, who can define what it means to be colorful." Indeed, can we really define a person's success or failure, or is there really a so-called perfect criterion for judging it?
If Kaka finds her partner at the age of 30 and has a satisfying job, will we be able to assert that she has been "successful" in her life? When this question is placed in front of us, perhaps we should reflect on whether young people are really trapped by utilitarian success studies? Is it really the standard process of life that everyone should follow when they are admitted to a prestigious school, find a good job, and complete life events at the right age?
The blind date corner attracts many parents to come and learn more about it. Photo by Chinanews reporter Zhang Bin
It can be seen that the father who refuses to urge his daughter to get off the single is also a symbol: every young person can have many "ways of living", and as long as they have done their best, they should receive more understanding and support.
In fact, every generation of young people will experience challenges and difficulties, and the father, who has come before, knows the hardships and difficulties best, so he chooses to support his daughter. When everyone walks through thousands of mountains and rivers and finally ushers in the moment when the willows and flowers are bright, they must remember the warmth they have gained on the way of life.
(Source: Xiaoyu/WeChat public account "Guangming Daily")
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