My name is Xiaohua, I am 35 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Xiaolong for ten years. We have two lovely children, a boy and a girl. In the ten years of married life, we have experienced many ups and downs, and we have also witnessed many happy moments. But also because of the trivial things in life, there has been a lot of friction between our husband and wife. This makes me think about a question all the time: is it the man who is the most tired or the woman who is the most tired when the husband and wife live?
In the first few years of our marriage, Xiaolong was the breadwinner of the family, working for a construction company and often had to travel and work late into the night. I also had a job at the time, but it was much easier in comparison. I take care of the children and the daily chores of the family. Although Xiaolong makes more money, his work is stressful and his life is full of challenges. I had to balance work and family responsibilities, taking care of my children and taking care of the housework, which made me feel tired.
Once, Xiaolong was busy at the company for several weeks in a row, often working overtime at night. The children were also upset because Xiaolong was not at home, and I had to work and take care of the children and take care of the housework alone, which was a lot of pressure. Late one night, I finally couldn't resist calling Xiaolong and asking him to go home early to spend time with the kids. He heard my choking and sighed deeply, saying that he also wanted to come back early, but he couldn't get away from work matters.
At that moment, I suddenly understood Xiaolong's difficulty. His responsibility is not only to earn money to support his family, but also to face the pressures and challenges of his work. I decided to change my attitude and stop complaining about him, but try to understand him and support him.
Xiaolong also began to adjust his work rhythm and try to go home early to accompany his children and me. He started to take the initiative to share the household chores and take care of the children, so that I had more time to rest. Our married life has gradually become more balanced and harmonious.
One day, we were at the dinner table talking about who was the most tired in marriage. Xiaolong said with a smile: "I have always felt that I am the most tired, with a lot of work pressure and having to support my family. I also jokingly said, "I think women are the most tired, to balance work and family, to take care of children and you." We all laughed.
This conversation made me realize that in fact, it is not absolute who is tired in the life of a husband and wife, and both men and women have their own pressures and challenges. It is important to understand and support each other and share family responsibilities so that marriages can be happier.
Later, Xiaolong and I tried our best to be considerate and supportive of each other in life. We began to work out the division of labor in the family to make each other's lives more orderly. The little dragon is responsible for picking up and dropping off the children and helping them with their homework, while I am responsible for cooking and taking care of the housework. We also learned to communicate regularly to share our feelings and stresses and resolve issues in a timely manner.
In such a married life, we find that we cherish each other's company more and understand each other's hardships better. This understanding and support makes our marriage stronger and allows us to find more happiness and fulfillment in life.
Whether it is a man or a woman, the responsibilities in married life are not small. In this process, mutual understanding and support are paramount. By working together, we can overcome life's challenges and find happiness for each other.