There is such a famous sentence in "Ode to the Ordinary Heart is the Way", which everyone knows: If there is nothing to worry about, it is a good time in the world. I was stupid and lived to be 63 years old before I realized that happiness in life has nothing to do with money, cars, or houses, in fact, it is as simple as that, one is good health, and the other is inner peace.
Is there more money and happiness? Is there more happiness in the house? No, my former colleague, who was in business, drove a Mercedes-Benz when he was 50 years old, owned three sets of 120 square meters of big houses, and built a villa in his hometown, so it stands to reason that he is at the peak of his life. But after only 3 years of good life, at the age of 53, he got a terminal illness, went to hospitals in big cities, and finally left.
Therefore, no matter how big we are, or how ordinary people we are, we only need to do 5 points in our later years to ensure good health and inner peace, are you willing to change from today?
01 Think less, talk less, do more.
Why do people feel anxious or psychologically restless? It is because they think too much, talk too much, they are all dreamers, they do too little, so their wishes are very beautiful, but they can't keep up with their actions, they can't meet their inner expectations, they will be anxious, and when people are anxious, they will love to get sick, and all diseases are inseparable from emotions and moods.
Dong Yuhui often tells everyone that learning from Wang Yangming is what he learns? Don't look at us as ordinary people, we can also use the unity of knowledge and action in our daily life.
That is, if you learn it, you must use it, and you can't just learn it without moving. For example, we know that reading a page of a book every day will improve people a lot, so we insist on 21 days, force ourselves to change every day, and after 21 days, we will develop physical habits. If you always want to read books, but you don't be strict with yourself, you can't complete this small goal day by day, you will be anxious after a long time, and if you want to do it or not, you will regret it in your heart, and it will not be good for your health.
Some old people will also say that my heart is messy every day, and I am always thinking cranky. It's because you think too much and do too little. Instead of sitting there thinking about things, it is better to empty your brain, do some housework, tidy up your clothes, and do some handicrafts, and your brain will be occupied, and you won't be messy and upset.
02 Allow anything to happen.
Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory, and each of us does not know which will come first, tomorrow or the accident? Instead of worrying about the future, it is better to calm down and accept everything.
What does it mean to allow everything to happen? That is, no matter whether it is good or bad tomorrow, I will allow it to appear, allow it to happen, and all I can do is to accept it calmly and face and solve it with a positive attitude.
Even if the family is poor, as long as you work hard, you will not be poor for the rest of your life. Even if the family encounters a temporary tribulation, as long as the big guys work together, they will always carry it over.
No one's life is smooth, and no one has a good thing that doesn't happen in his life. This is the normal state of life.
Life is only 30,000 days, especially for us old people, the days are getting fewer and fewer. Sadness is also a day, happiness is also a day, no matter how you live, you have to pass this day, instead of being sad, it is better to spend it happily, the mood is good, and the body will not have problems.
03 Dear friends, there is no one else out there, only ourselves.
We should pay more attention to our own hearts, whether other people's evaluations are good or bad, don't care about their words, and keep our hearts.
If we are worried and troubled when we encounter something, then after a long time, we will not sleep well, we will not eat well, our physical fitness will deteriorate, and we will get sick.
Everyone has to learn to care for our hearts, in fact, others have nothing to do with us. They say that no matter how good or bad we are, we will not hurt our bodies because of these words, only our own inner thoughts will work.
We must believe in the law of attraction and believe that the days are getting better and better, and the days will be smoother and smoother.
04 Learn the correct "slam the door".
Many of us elderly people have worked hard all their lives, and when they are old, they are not willing to eat well and dress well, but they are willing to give their children and grandchildren a lot of money, so that they can go to restaurants, buy famous brands, and travel to consume.
In fact, we are right to be thrifty, but we should also care more about ourselves, our children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, properly subsidize them, keep the pension money, and learn to treat ourselves well with the rest of the money.
For example, fulfill one of your own wishes every day. If you want to eat something delicious, you can buy it, and if you want to wear a beautiful dress, you can cash it out in time. Satisfy yourself a little bit every day, and you will be in a good mood.
At the same time, we need to be more critical of ourselves in these two aspects.
I remember watching a news story where a child said that my grandmother lived to be 90 years old because she was not nosy. When you are old, you must take care of yourself, and the affairs of the third generation of children should be less interfering, and the affairs of outsiders and neighbors should be inquired less. Keep your peace of mind.
The second is to make yourself tired. When you are old, you should do less heavy work, consume less body, and you can exercise properly, such as doing some slow exercises, tai chi, and Baduanjin, which are suitable for our elderly.
05 Don't expect too much from others except yourself.
We have to learn to separate topics, we do what we have to do, and as for how others give feedback, we can't control it, and we can't decide, so we don't look forward to it.
As long as we don't think about it, why don't others reciprocate us? We will be much happier, which is also called altruism, that is, to do more good things for others, and don't expect anything in return.
Whether you are young or old, discover more wisdom in life, which will make life happier and more comfortable.
When you are at ease, your body will be healthier, and your life will be peaceful and joyful, don't you say?