Elementary school students were banned from "playing cigarette cards", and I learned who forced the good children into a mental hospital

Author: Insight Potato Mom

Exuberant vitality is the best appearance of childhood.

01

Have you ever heard of "playing the cigarette card"?

This kind of game is becoming popular on elementary school campuses across the country, and it has also sparked huge controversy.

Using discarded cigarette packs, the children removed the lid and folded it into rectangular cards, which were placed on the ground and slapped in turn.

Whoever can knock over the cigarette card on the ground will own the card.

After class or after school, you can always see groups of children, squatting or kneeling, playing happily.

In order to win each other, they painstakingly developed various slapping gestures, such as butterfly slaps, mosquito slaps, slapping techniques, scissor hands, and so on.

The children are happy, but many parents can't sit still, and all kinds of worries follow:

"The child rummaged through the trash can every day to find cigarette signs, it was too dirty. ”

"The child secretly took the adult's cigarette cap and learned badly. ”

"The child is so involved in playing that his hands are swollen and he can't do his homework at all!"

What's more, it is believed that this kind of game will enlighten children's gambling awareness, make children curious about smoking, and addicted to games.

As soon as parents see their children playing with cigarette cards, they seem to have thought of how they swallowed clouds and fog at a young age, and their lives will not be completely ruined.

So, without asking the reason or communication, they decisively cut out the cigarette cartoons that the children had finally gotten and threw them into the trash.

Some parents went directly to complain, and then many schools issued notices of "prohibiting cigarette cards from entering the campus".

In the comment section, someone raised this question:

"Why is it that a game that has been played by a grandfather and a father and has not been tested for two generations is not allowed to be played by children today?"

It's ironic to think that a group of people who grew up playing cigarette cards have now become people who forbid their children to play cigarette cards.

What brought us infinite joy in childhood, now that we are parents, we see it as a flood of beasts.

02

A netizen recalled that when he was a child, almost everyone had a stack of cards in their schoolbags.

Every time after class, the friends would find an open space to gather around, and when everyone took it out, they all smiled with that mysterious and smug smile, as if they were going to pull out some secret weapon.

What cigarette boxes, paper boxes, matchboxes, packaging boxes, all kinds of candy wrappers, can all be used to beat.

Everyone, you make one, I give one, roll up your sleeves, lie on the ground, and use all your strength to fan. In order to get a favorite card, my hands can be swollen.

Every night when I came home, my hands were black, and my face was also marked with black marks.

Netizens said that in order to find cigarette boxes to make cards, they went through the trash cans.

He also ran to the workers' club, stared at the adults who were playing cards and chess, watched them finish their cigarettes, and then cheekily asked for cigarette cases.

Sometimes when you get that kind of brand-name cigarette box, you have to brag to your friends for a while when you go back.

For him, the game has not only exercised his body, but also strengthened his friendship, and still evokes many beautiful emotions.

There are far more games we have played in our childhood with wins and losses, and there are chips in them.

I remember when I was a kid, I used to play marbles with a group of boys during recess.

Sometimes I draw a circle on the ground, sometimes I dig a hole, and I feel very interesting to play with a variety of ways.

As soon as the bell rang for the end of class, everyone immediately rushed out of the classroom and bounced on the ground, ignoring the dust on their pants and the scorching sun overhead.

At that time, there were occasionally a few cents of change that were used to buy marbles.

And those marbles that I won also gave me a special sense of accomplishment. I treated them like treasures and found a box to hide them carefully.

At that time, our recess was still 15 minutes, and as soon as the bell rang, there were groups of people on the playground, and there was laughter and laughter under the red flag.

Girls love to jump rubber bands, shuttlecock kicks, hopscotch, and throw handkerchiefs.

The boys played more tricks, jumping goats, rolling hoops, pulling slingshots, and "cockfighting".

Everyone grabbed their left leg with both hands and jumped forward to participate in the battle.

No one is worried that we will fall and get injured, we will become addicted to games, and schools and teachers do not have to worry about parents coming to trouble, we can have fun and have fun in class, and we can devote ourselves to learning in a better mental state.

After school, a large group of friends went home together, you chased me, and there were no adults to pick me up.

Halfway through, we went to the pond to catch loaches, to the river to catch shrimp, to climb trees to dig birds' nests, into the orchard to pick peaches, the fatigue of the day of learning has long since disappeared.

Life was hard at that time, but we lived happily, freely and relaxed.

In today's words, we are all full of energy.

03

What about today's children?

All risky games must be banned, and all activities that affect learning must be compromised.

They don't have to worry about food and clothing, but they are getting farther and farther away from that simple and pure happiness.

My son is only 6 years old, but he complains every day that he is "so bored". He often struggled with the fact that he couldn't find a playmate after school, and everyone either went to a hobby class or was locked up at home to do their homework.

The mothers around me always sigh that today's children are really sad, they haven't played with real friends at all, and everyone has their own lives every day.

Without the nourishment of play and cooperation with partners, children naturally become more and more withdrawn.

Psychologist Chen Mo once pointed out that today's children's sense of reality is very weak, because everything has been replaced since childhood, and they only know how to study hard.

I think of some time ago, the term "toilet social" arose.

The reason for this was that the school had a 10-minute recess, and the children were asked to stay in the classroom and not go downstairs or play.

A group of children who should be energetic were forced into a dirty and smelly toilet.

Because only there do they dare to chat a few words secretly, or eat a snack to relax, which is really scary to think about.

A mother complained that education is really depressing now.

It turned out that his son met his neighbor's sister in the school corridor one day.

The mother asked her son if he was happy and greeted someone.

Unexpectedly, his son said: "You will be deducted points for talking!"

So the son could only look at his sister and went back to the classroom silently without saying anything.

Only then did my mother know that it turned out that the children would be deducted points for staying in the corridor, and they would also be deducted points for touching the handle of the escalator, which was simply too sick.

Some mothers said that the first thing their children do when they get home every day is to flush into the toilet, because they can't go to school for 10 minutes during recess, and some children suffocate their bodies.

There is also a girl named Xu Han, who said that she has only made two friends in her three years of junior high school, one is at the same table and the other is at the same table.

Behind the toilet socialization is a group of lonely and depressed children.

They have no peer relationships, lack life experience, and lack a connection to nature, so they are languishing all day long, and they don't have the smile and vitality of children on their faces.

A psychiatrist said:

"In fact, children in the past were also under pressure, but they often had an outlet to vent, go outside for a run, play with their friends, and any unhappiness disappeared.

And today's children's play space is severely compressed, so that negative emotions are infinitely amplified and more vulnerable. ”

Children who are kept in cages all day long, do not exercise, do not play, do not socialize, how can they not get sick or go crazy?

04

Some time ago the flu was raging and many children fell ill.

But even if one hand is on a drip, the children have to use the other hand to write homework.

What's even more exaggerated is that some hospitals have also set up a "special operation area" for this purpose.

Fever, dizziness, fatigue, and lying down are uncomfortable during illness, let alone performing complex learning activities.

It's really pitiful that the children are rolled up like this.

They are very young, but their school bags are too big to carry on their backs, and some children even carry two bags to school.

The children who have just entered the second grade have already had their hands calloused out.

They had put on their glasses early, and their spines had been bent.

They don't have weekends or holidays, and they always go back and forth between cram schools every day.

Psychologist Chen Mo once had such a prediction.

When parents meet in the future, they are likely to chat like this:

"Is your child depressed?"

"Well, depressed, severe. ”

"Our home was fine, mild. ”

This prophecy is becoming a reality.

The mental health of teenagers has reached a very bad moment.

At the beginning of this year's school year, child psychiatrist Lin Hong said in an interview:

More than a month after the start of the school year, the child psychiatric department of Peking University Sixth Hospital was already overcrowded.

Every day, the waiting chairs in the hospital are filled with very young children with blank eyes.

There are many children among them, and they are all "scholars" in secular standards.

One person with bipolar disorder said that half of the children he saw in the hospital were teenagers.

And the data in the "2022 National Blue Book on Depression" is even more shocking:

Depression patients under the age of 18 accounted for 30.28% of the total number of people in mainland China. In the group of depressed patients, 50% of depressed patients are school students, and 41% have been suspended from school due to depression.

I saw a mother crying bitterly after her daughter was admitted to a psychiatric hospital:

"My daughter, who has been obedient and sensible since she was a child, how did she get forced to be severely depressed?"

What's even more heartbreaking is that now my daughter is being treated in the hospital, but what my daughter thinks about is not whether she can get better, but that she still has homework that has not been completed.

The good students in the eyes of adults are all stuffed into a mental hospital in the end.

As one counselor put it:

"Today's children have a hole in their hearts, like a cold machine.

I want them to know that love, pain, play, disappointment, failure, and creation are the biggest differences between a person and a machine. ”

05

In the incident of banning primary school students from playing cigarette cards, Chen Lisha, the principal of Daowu Primary School in Liuyang City, Hunan Province, said the following:

"I often observe children playing cigarette cards, and it is very similar to how we were playing cards and marbles when we were children.

They release wantonness, devotion, and enthusiasm, and these exuberant vitality is the best appearance of childhood. ”

Blindly captive cannot raise children who are physically and mentally healthy.

Children make friends through play, release stress, and shape their minds.

Don't wait until you receive a piece of your child's medical record to regret pushing your child too hard.

Give it a thumbs up and encourage all parents.