It is very important to find the real reason for the breakup after a breakup, and I don't think anyone has any doubts about this.
But in actual cases, most people can be said to be not keen on finding the reason for the breakup, they often take it for granted to find a reason, and then try to redeem it according to that reason.
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Every time someone comes to me and I ask them to explain the reason for the breakup, they usually throw out some very simple conclusions, such as because I am not good enough for them, because I don't take care of their emotions, because I am not motivated, etc.
It's not that these reasons are incorrect, but if you want to recover, I think it is necessary for you to conduct a deeper analysis in order to achieve a better recovery result.
In the simplest way, you think it's because you're not good enough for your partner that the other party broke up.
So here you can think deeply about what is good for TA, if you are good to TA when you are in love, will it really not go to the point of breaking up? and so on.
The more you think about it, the clearer you will be about what your problem is.
I won't list your problems one by one here, because there are too many reasons for breakups, and there are too many to list, I will provide you with a little direction to think about, hoping to help you quickly find the breakup problem.
First, you can start with communication.
For example, when you communicate, do you feel respected and listened to, you can also consider it from the other person's point of view, whether you pay attention to what the other person says, and how the other party feels when communicating with you?
Through this kind of thinking, we can peel back the layers and find your communication problems.
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second, in terms of your values;
I have shared before that the formation of values is formed from childhood to adulthood, so if you find that your values are different from them, you can think deeply about what your thinking habits are, and these thinking habits will be reflected in all aspects of their behavior, which will help you find the reason for the breakup.
The third is sexuality;
There are still a lot of couples who are unhappy for this reason, you can search the Internet for relevant adjustment content, I won't say more here.
Fourth, consider your life goals.
If you have no common goal, your vision for the future is not compatible, and this will become a very big reason for breaking up.
Fifth, you can think about the economic aspect;
This is also a problem that many couples will encounter, after all, if the economic strength is enough, your couple's life will be richer, you can travel everywhere and so on.
Or that the gap in your economic strength is relatively large, which causes inequality in your status, which can make you break up.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Sixth, there is your reality factor;
For example, parents oppose, studying abroad, the age gap is too large, etc., these practical factors may cause you to break up, and the practical factors should consider whether the practical problems can be solved, after all, the practical factors can not be changed by any methods and skills.
That's all for today's content, if you can't find the reason for the breakup, you can consider it according to the directions I gave, the more accurate your breakup reason is, the more targeted your recovery will be.
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