As the saying goes: "Sui Shu bows his head, and people are familiar and whispers." ”
True maturity must be more and more silent.
In other words, when a person has reached a higher level of maturity, he will prefer to be silent.
Jiang Xun said: "The silence of adults is a cocoon born by years. ”
As someone once said: "Talking well is never as simple as being able to speak, but knowing when to shut up and putting the part of yourself that you see through in your stomach." ”
When a person has experienced too much, understood too much, and seen through too much, he will slowly choose to be silent and slowly learn to let go.
This is not a kind of cowardice, but a kind of wisdom and attitude that is in harmony with life and life.
Sooner or later, one day you will find that when a person chooses to take the initiative to be silent, it is the beginning of his real strength and independence.
Don't talk about the hard work
In the adult world, no one is smooth sailing.
If a person always pretends to be too optimistic, too confident, or even too egoistic in front of you.
Well, in fact, this is a kind of arrogance, a kind of mental naivety.
There is no doubt that such a person, immature, cannot like silence.
See a sentence like this:
"One day you will understand that your grievances must be digested by yourself, and your secrets should not be told to everyone;
There aren't many people who really understand you, and most will just stand in their shoes and peek at your jokes. ”
We can think of it this way, that those who encounter problems and challenges, suffer setbacks and pains, are still naïve and arrogant after that.
The reason is very simple, that is, they do not take the initiative to solve the troublesome problems at all, bear the frustration and pain, but choose to avoid it.
That's why they show a very calm and indifferent attitude in front of people.
True maturity must be able to remain silent and become more calm after going through the ups and downs of life.
Just like Cao Dewang, the "glass king", said with emotion in an entrepreneurial sharing:
"You don't go around talking about being so tired that you only eat two meals a day, others will only make fun of you secretly, you have to keep your mouth shut and try to get out of the situation on your own. ”
Therefore, when you encounter hardships and difficult things that are difficult to say, then don't talk about them.
Hide it in your heart and think about how to face it and how to deal with it.
In this way, you should also choose to keep your mouth shut, rely on your own efforts and courage to face difficulties and solve problems.
In the end, he really relied on his own efforts and growth, and in silence, he became mature, independent, and strong, and won more and more people's trust and respect for himself.
Good things don't work
A person's most powerful maturity is not only reflected in choosing to be silent when encountering hardships.
At the same time, when you encounter happy things and good things, you can also control yourself not to show off or show off.
In fact, people who live transparently never like to show off themselves and show off.
Because if you do this, you will not be able to give yourself any valuable and meaningful gains.
On the contrary, because of his own publicity, some people will be jealous, and even jealousy and suspicion.
Eventually, you may end yourself in more trouble and suffering.
And these troubles and sufferings, we have reason to believe, in fact, we could have avoided them in the first place.
Dale Carnegie said in The Weakness of Human Nature:
"Only by knowing how to restrain your own light can you avoid stabbing others and making enemies. ”
So, don't think that if you get good results for a while, you will be better, and don't feel that you are superior to others if you have achieved success, and now you can't wait to find a sense of existence everywhere.
In fact, the more people like to find a sense of existence, the lower their emotional intelligence is.
Sooner or later, these people will make their lives more and more passive, even more and more tormented and difficult, because of their excessive publicity and outrageous show-offs.
Choose to be silent, maintain restraint, even if you encounter some good things, happy events, and happy events, you must maintain a degree and know how to consider problems from the position of others.
In this way, when everyone's hearts are balanced, they can make themselves steady and far-reaching, and get better and better.
闲事不理
Mature people can't meddle in their own affairs, let alone take the initiative to pay attention to an idler.
Indeed, everyone has their own life, their own hardships and difficulties, and their own things to deal with.
Therefore, don't waste your precious time and energy on idlers and things that are not worth dealing with or deal with.
If you have to do this, then your life will definitely become more and more chaotic, and your life will be dragged down by all kinds of bad people and bad things, and you will slide into the abyss of pain.
Dickens said:
"The best politeness is not to meddle. ”
A person's greatest maturity is no matter what kind of people and what kind of things he encounters in life.
You can calm yourself, slow down, and then settle yourself and think in silence.
Slowly, you will find that when you become more and more silent, you will be able to see human nature more transparently and the world more clearly.
At this time, your state of mind will be different, at least in terms of being a person and doing things, you will think more about yourself, rather than always looking at external objects.
Mr. Ji Xianlin said in "Talking about Life":
"As a man, you don't meddle in your business, but take care of yourself. ”
So, keep quiet, don't meddle, don't be presumptuous, and don't think cranky.
In this way, meditate, do your best, and let yourself reach the other side of maturity more silently.
In the end, let yourself live this life more calmly, and also live more freely, comfortably, and self-consistently.