A person can only become a friend of time if he gives it to himself as a gift.
——Lu Luo, Reader, Issue 8, 2024
The so-called friend of time is to be able to stand the test of time, no matter how time changes, you have never fallen behind, so that your value is firmly seen by time and recognized fiercely.
Many people and things are like a mirror, unable to withstand the precipitation of time, and eventually disappear in the long river of time.
Time loves permanent, vital things, and it scoffs at all that is ephemeral and perfunctory.
Time is also like a fussy old man who looks intently at everyone to see where we are all spending our time.
If you spend your time on unimportant people and things, he will punish you for nothing.
If you give your time as a gift to yourself and do what you love and are meaningful, he will reward you with a full load.
Don't think about being lazy or cheating, time is far sharper and sharper than we think, and it is more fair and rigorous than we think.
There is a saying that goes like this: "What is won by time, time will surely bear witness to it." ”
Time is the best way to give back, if you respect it, it will respect you, and if you cherish it, it will cherish you.
Time is also the shortest, and the people and things that have been certified by it and covered with pokes, it will not let them lose.
So, stay away from those bad people and bad things, keep more time for yourself, and it's better to be friends with anyone than with time.
Because what time can give you is "never come again" and "irreplaceable" that no friend in this world can give you.
People tend to overestimate what they can learn in one day and underestimate what they can learn in three years.
——Nine Sides, Reader, No. 8, 2024
There is a problem with human nature: in a hurry, what can be learned in half a day, will never take half a month to learn.
Because in our cognition, time is efficiency, only things that can be effective in a short period of time are worth doing, and things that need to take a long time to do are not worth investing.
But in fact, everything has its own laws and processes.
The meal you spend half an hour cooking is certainly not the same as the meal you spend three hours cooking.
The plan you spend a day on is definitely not the same as the plan you spend a week on.
And we often overestimate what comes in the short term and underestimate what comes in the long run.
As everyone knows, many things are more about accumulation. Only by accumulating enough and thick enough can a barrier and a moat be formed.
As Mr. Li Xiaolai said: "Quick success is impossible, everything is the result of accumulation." ”
A small tree that has grown for a month can be uprooted with a simple pull, while a tree that has been old for hundreds of years is difficult to dig up the roots at once with machinery.
Therefore, fast food can only solve the problem of hunger, and healthy meals will solve the problem of nutrition.
Human growth is a gradual process, not a mutation.
Learn to be a long-termist and spend more time on your profession or interests and put down roots, which is better than being like fireworks in a short period of time.
There is no flower that is a flower in the beginning, and there is no flower that remains a flower until the end.
- "Speech", Reader, No. 7, 2024
I don't know if you have such a moment: feel that you don't know anything, you can't do anything well, you are not as good as you should be everywhere, and you are not as good as others in everything?
Don't underestimate yourself like that. No one starts with everything and can do everything well, and there has to be a learning process.
The flowers don't bloom suddenly, and the rain doesn't fall suddenly. Every second you can't see, they're working hard and preparing for the moment you see.
It's just that we are used to only looking at the results, only talking about the results, and turning a blind eye to the process.
In fact, the result is neither unique nor constant.
Many of the results are only phased results, not final. It's like a flower blooming, but that's not the end of the flower, nor is it all the meaning of the flower.
There is no flower, it is always a flower. As long as you stretch the time long enough, there is nothing left, and in the end it will still be the same thing.
The world is changing and moving at a speed that we can't see every minute.
So, whether it's good or bad, good or bad, don't let yourself stay where you are, don't easily put a certain hat on yourself and put a certain label on yourself.
As long as the result isn't what you want, it's not the end result.
Between the ideal and the reality, there is always an undetermined area, which is specially reserved for us to rewrite our own destiny.
Don't get carried away when you're proud, don't flinch when you're frustrated, as long as you still have the heart to change, everything is possible.
After learning to play and fight with yourself again and again, learn to laugh and learn to live.
——Du Sujuan, Reader, Issue 7, 2024
It has been said that a smile is the lowest-cost passport in interpersonal communication.
Whether in the world of acquaintances or strange occasions, we seem to prefer those who love to smile.
There is a saying that people who love to laugh will not be too lucky.
Because smiling will convey goodwill and friendliness, and can eliminate alienation and estrangement between people.
If you accidentally step on someone's foot and apologize with a smile, you will be forgiven quickly, if you meet for the first time, you will win the favor of the other person with a smile, and if someone is nervous in public, you will be full of gratitude to you if you smile and encourage.
A smile is like a ray of sunshine and a good medicine that can cut through the clouds and bring warmth and healing to people.
It is said that life is like a mirror, if you laugh at it, you will laugh, and if you cry, it will cry.
Then smile more.
Smile at others, smile at yourself, smile at life, smile at the world.
When you think of a smile as more than just an expression, you will find that your life is getting better little by little.
No one will refuse a person who loves to laugh, and neither will life.
You get what you give.
No matter how bad life has become, no matter how unfair the world is to you, as long as you can still smile, they can't do anything to you.
A smile is an umbrella against wind and rain, and a shield against malice.
In good times, smile more to add to yourself, and in bad times, smile more to bring yourself good luck.
The best way to settle your heart is to "look for the least certainty".
———— "Speech", Reader, No. 6, 2024
In this fast-paced era that is changing with each passing day, everyone seems to be very confused, anxious, and impetuous, and a heart can't always be stable.
I have beaten the chicken blood and drunk the chicken soup, but the heart is still unsettled.
There is a psychological explanation that only certain things will bring people a sense of security, and a sense of security will make people feel sure and steady.
But in the sea of life, there are ups and downs, how can there be any absolute certainty?
It is better to lower expectations and lower standards, so that if you can't get the big certainty, you can seek the small certainty.
Just as we can't stop the whole tree from shaking when the wind blows, we can soothe the leaf closest to us.
It's the same with life.
The future is too far away, we can't see it, we can't touch it, but we can see every step of the way clearly.
Then start from the present, start from the things at hand, start from the things you like the most, do one thing well, and turn one article after another, so that we can gain countless small sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.
There is a good saying: "Instead of dreaming of a wonderful rose garden on the horizon, we should appreciate the red roses that are opening in our window today." ”
The heart is resilient. In fact, it does not take too much to settle a heart, and sometimes the smaller the thing, the easier it is to fix and lift.
If life is really a shipwreck, the lifebuoy in your hand is more reassuring than the lifeboat in the distance.
Author: Liu Xuemin.