Economist Xue Zhaofeng once described: "Marriage is actually like two people partnering together to start a company." This metaphor is really apt, because the relationship between husband and wife can indeed be seen as a special partnership, and in this "cooperation" process, there are also many details that need to be paid attention to, and there are 4 things not to talk about to the public.
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1. Regardless of family income
Many people may think that talking about household income is a way to show off or share joy, especially when the family income level is enviable. However, such behavior can inadvertently cause problems.
A woman who posted her husband's high income on social media was investigated by the company for not only affecting his career, but also posing a threat to the family's safety.
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There is a saying in the Analects: "Do not speak with words, and lose words." This means that there are some things that should not be told to outsiders, especially those that are important for privacy and security.
Second, do not talk about the contradictions between husband and wife
In married life, it is inevitable to encounter some quarrels and disagreements. Some people, when emotional, may choose to complain to outsiders in the hope of sharing for comfort or solutions. However, this often not only does not help solve the problem, but can make the situation worse.
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It is difficult for outsiders to fully understand and fairly judge your family conflicts, and their opinions or suggestions may be based on limited information, which can easily lead to misunderstandings or biases. The best way to deal with it is for both spouses to calm down, solve the problem privately, and avoid making the conflict public, which is more conducive to protecting each other's feelings and dignity.
3. Don't talk about each other's shortcomings
This is equally important in a couple's relationship. Everyone has shortcomings, and as a couple, it is even more important to tolerate and support each other. If you expose each other's shortcomings in public or in front of friends, it will not only hurt the other person's self-esteem, but may also affect the relationship between the two parties.
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It is more ideal to give correction and help privately when the other person makes mistakes or shortcomings, and help the other person improve in a constructive way, rather than embarrassing the other party by making the problem public.
Fourth, do not talk about the private affairs of husband and wife
This is another key point in maintaining the marital relationship. Whether it's a sweet moment between a couple or a moment of quarrel, these are private matters for two people that don't need to be shared and shouldn't be shared with outsiders.
Not only can oversharing attract unwanted attention and judgment, but it can also be exploited by people with ulterior motives. In today's prevalent social media world, maintaining a certain sense of mystery and privacy is actually a way to protect yourself and your partner. Enjoy the beauty of the world for two, and you don't have to let everyone know your every step.
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To sum up, marriage is like a long-distance race, which needs to be maintained and managed by both husband and wife. Knowing what to say and what not to say is essential to maintaining the stability and happiness of your marriage. Smart couples will choose to keep some privacy, not only as a sign of respect for each other, but also as a sense of responsibility for the relationship.
In short, know how to "don't talk about the four things" outside and communicate more at home, so that the marriage can become more and more stable. (The picture comes from the Internet, if there is any infringement, it must be deleted)