Recently, I saw Wang Meng's speech on the Internet, and when I saw the sentence "My mother sacrificed her self and fulfilled my self", I burst into tears and suggested that everyone should go and see it!
Wang Meng's family is a big family, his father ranks third, has 9 brothers and sisters, Wang Meng's mother Zhang Xiaoxia is the eldest in her mother's family, married Wang Meng's father at the age of 19, gave birth to Wang Meng's sister at the age of 20, and gave birth to Wang Meng two years later, perhaps because there are many children in the family, Wang Meng's mother has formed a kind of paying personality, Wang Meng's father is patriarchal, after Wang Meng was born, his father felt hit hard, he couldn't raise his head, and his grandfather also said "How is it a girl again" Wang Meng from memory, I feel that the family doesn't like her, they all want boys, and they have to surpass boys, climb ladders every day, scourge the crops, and the people in the compound have beaten her except for her mother and grandmother, and later, Wang Meng was hit by the coach of short track speed skating, and her father said that there is no point in playing vinegar skating, only her mother is willing to let her try, this try, all the way to the world stage, become a world champion, the family has also changed their attitude, even the grandfather who loves him least also said that Wang Meng is his favorite granddaughter, and his father said that he would not change this daughter for ten sons, and he was allowed to worship his ancestors, and the mother just listened quietly, in Wang Meng's life, the mother is the most important role, the mother never gave Wang Meng any restrictions, after being beaten, only the mother looked left and right with tears in her eyes to see if it was broken, the mother always stood behind Wang Meng, and the two daughters were also the pillars of the mother.
After watching Wang Meng's speech, I feel that her mind is so delicate, her expression ability is also super strong, and her heart is also very strong, especially for her mother, but she said that I still want to live with him, when I felt betrayed, and I once hated her cowardice, and even my own children could not be blessed, but after so many years, I also understood a lot, just like Wang Meng said, they have their own set of survival wisdom, and a complete logical closed loop to self-explanatory, so they always stop in place, however, I have been affected irrevocably, such a family, the child's heart, the mother's feelings will be very complicated, and it is easy to follow cowardice, so, Wang Meng is very strong in her heart, and her mother has always stood behind her to support her, but if her mother completely obeys her father and looks down on Wang Meng, she will not get a daughter who loves her so much.
In the daughter's story, the mother is a real person, Li Huanying, Zhang Xiaoxia, in the daughter's story, the mother has a name and a surname, and in the son, the mother is Meng's mother and mother-in-law, without a name and a surname. Mothers in the world are the same, all their lives of forbearance, dedication, and protection maintain all the prejudices and suppression of their children, and what mothers don't have, they finally realize in their daughters.
In fact, the phenomenon of patriarchy still exists today, in some places, there is only one daughter in the family, and many people say that it is a desperate family, such as Quan Hongchan, who can only "go to the family tree" after winning the championship, and there is also the first female graduate student in the family who can enter the ancestral hall to worship, this kind of thing abounds.
Zhang Xiaoxia's mothers in that era, they longed to be seen, but they didn't know how to express it, they would give, but they never learned how to love themselves, life would still be like this, and parents would tell each other about each other, but they were still old companions, and they also remembered each other, they had their own logic to understand their own lives, and in the end, in addition to resonating and moving Wang Meng's words, I also wanted everyone to ask themselves, have you learned how to love yourself?