Author|Xie Minghong
Editor|Li Chunhui
After the concept of "family of origin" swept the Internet for many years, another word has become popular in the past two years, called "East Asian family". Shame to say love, but hurt each other.
When a new generation of young people become parents, will the traditional "East Asian family" model be broken? In five groups of amateur cute baby families, it has become the norm for parents and children to express their intimacy with each other. And I haven't seen parent-child variety shows for a long time, Hard Candy Jun simply forgot the cuteness of children (after all, the Internet haunts bear children).
I have the impression that 3-6-year-old cute babies are still in a state of ignorance, but they have evolved into "intelligent creatures" in "Growing Up All the Way". Whether it's emotional management or hands-on ability, there is autonomy hidden under cuteness. It turns out that children have a code of conduct that adults would ignore. In the past, it was said that parents are the best teachers for children, but now watching children can also bring parents a lot of new understanding!
I have to say that children are born variety artists and terrier kings, and their casual daily life is eye-catching and quite delicious. Coupled with the rare "travel away from home" and cutting-edge children's psychological analysis, it is enough to be called a new generation of baby raising illustrated.
幼崽宇宙,heroic 辈出
"Growing Up All the Way" is a parent-child outdoor life observation reality show made by Tencent Video, composed of Zhu Dan, Zheng Kai, Zhang Yanqi, and psychological expert Liu Yiyang, forming a "growth companion group", inviting 3-6-year-old cute baby families to embark on an outdoor journey and unfold the story of mothers letting go and babies being independent.
Bringing six 3-6 year olds together on a journey of growth and letting go is an incredible idea in itself. The first issue of "Growing Up All the Way" created a new cub universe through the observation of the lives of four groups of families - each hero has a little skill on his body, an unadorned "cute", and a "real" who is bouncing and stumbling.
Dashuo in Liaoning is a proper "snack goods", paying attention to "tea with eyes open, soup with eyes closed". Every time Dashuo fights with his parents in order to eat more three melons and two dates, it makes people laugh. For a while, I thought that the prunes were too small, and for a while, I wanted to have more sesame pills. Dashuo's father, who is afraid of his children's food accumulation, opens the cabinet like a stingy Pryushkin every time he prepares a meal.
The fries are distributed by the root, and the scene of Da Shuo and Daddy fighting is not too funny. "I'm going to eat now?" "I won't let you drop it!" "You don't need to read the introduction, you know that this is a pair of Northeast father and son. And the reserved program "Journey to the West" cos of this Northeast family is even more warm and loving, creative and creative, parents are multi-role under the guidance of Dashuo, and they also play Tang Seng's father in the last second, and they make a cameo appearance as the land lord in the next second. is like a master of the Journey to the West characters, like a director on the set + martial arts instructor + producer, directing this family drama to be lively and festive. No wonder Zhang Yanqi said that he wanted to watch more than a dozen episodes of this drama, and the family atmosphere was really enviable.
The left left and right right of the front and rear feet have been staging Hard Candy Jun's favorite splitting and closing bridge. The two brothers have fun every day, but they always get along in the end, which may be the magic of the twins alone. If you spill your rice, I will also spill mine, and if you want to eat it with your hands, then I must also try to challenge the difficult meal...... At this moment, the left and right families have become a real "battlefield", and every move of the two little boys has become a treacherous "game". My favorite plot is that the left and left are punished for sitting, and when they hear that the right and right can't get a toy, they want to help but don't dare to get out of the cool zone.
Although Lucky, a girl from Shandong, is only 3 years old, she catches ducks and hugs lambs on the farm, and she is an out-and-out farm bully. At the age of 3, she will help her mother burn firewood, and will ride a small car to deliver steamed buns to her grandmother in the field. Hard candy can't imagine how cheerful I would have been when I had grown up if I lived on such a farm when I was a child!
The half-breed princess Koala grew up in a fun and loving family atmosphere. Brave and full of curiosity about the world, she learned to ride a bicycle in just one day, full of courage and perseverance overflowing the screen. What's even more amazing is that the four-year-old koala is able to switch between identities freely. One second ago, I complained to my mother that my sister had snatched the spoon, and the next second, I remembered my father's advice and took the initiative to wipe the spoon clean for my sister to play with. The sudden change made the growth companion group exclaim "intelligent creatures". Growing up, sure enough, is a matter of a second!
Do you remember the white, soft and glutinous little boy in your emoji list?
In addition to the above five cute babies, Aunt Internet's "Dream Baby" Xiao Tangyuan will also meet you in the Nature Kindergarten. What kind of story will he write in the cub universe?
Parenting is a two-way street
"Your children are too sensible, it would be nice if our family was like this. "Maybe parents have envied other people's children, and children have envied other people's parents. However, in terms of objective conditions, each child has a distinct personality and a very different growth environment. There are so many children that there is probably no one fixed method that can be applied to every family.
"Good people come out of the golden stick" is a thing of the past, and "being friends with children" is no longer new. The first issue of "Growing Up All the Way" uses four groups of families with completely different parent-child relationship models to present a new parenting methodology and concept. Time-out and Fight back have both sparked heated discussions among the growth companion group.
When you eat satisfying food, Dashuo will be so happy that it explodes. Once a request is denied, it looks like a major setback. Isn't it just ordering food? Maybe some families will take the approach of satisfying their children. On the surface, the Dashuo family seems to be a problem with eating, but the core is that the child wants to increase his own control in the process of growing up. Psychologist Liu Yiyang pointed out that the key to this stage is to "increase the sense of control and reduce the stimulation point", and the handling method of Dashuo's parents should be said to be quite skillful. Dashuo's father, as a loving father, plays with and divides meals. Dashuo's mother, as a strict mother, gives full play to the professional deterrent advantages of kindergarten teachers. One red face and one white face, that is the wisdom of the ancestors.
The punishment method for children on the left and right to make mistakes is Time-out, that is, to demarcate the area and time to let the child calm and introspect. Judging from the solution of the small contradictions between the two brothers, the effect is good. But then the two brothers "punched each other" because of the toy problem, and the Fight back that was introduced also opened up the conversation box by the growth companion group. Psychologist Liu Yiyang pointed out that fight back is not a literal response to violence, but to cultivate children's ability to express "I disagree".
At a time when parenting is highly urbanized and gradually refined, "Growing Up All the Way" does use Lucky to give a big score to the beauty of the countryside. Lucky's mother and Lucky are two-way growth, the mother will spoil her daughter to kiss her to get energy, and the daughter will also help her mother as much as she can. "Do your own thing, and your mother's thing will help you do it." When Lucky accidentally fell and couldn't hold back her crying, her mother told her, "You can cry when you're in pain, you don't have to be so brave in front of your mother." The program chose such a small farm overlord to show another answer to the greenhouse parenting pie. Nature is the best teacher for children, and wild growth is also dazzling.
Koala is closer to her father in her relationship with her parents, which makes her feel a little lost. This shows us that not only do children in multi-child families face competition for parental attention, but parents also struggle to balance their children's feelings. When Zhu Dan told about his guilt for his eldest son, he didn't know how many families with many children felt the same way, and Liu Yiyang pointed out that "being a mother with 60 points and being a 90-point self" made Hard Candy Jun suddenly realize. In many cases, parents can express their guilt directly with their children. They are far smarter and more energetic than we think.
"Growing Up All the Way" pays attention to the emotional issues derived from family topics, so that different audiences can find reality mapping and emotional sustenance in it. When the audience watches "Growing Up All the Way", they are not only sucking cubs, but also parenting methods and parenting wisdom. How to balance the relationship between twins, how to take care of the emotions of multiple children, whether it is better for children to be free-range or strictly educated, and the advantages and disadvantages of urban parenting and rural parenting are all broad parenting topics radiated by the program, which can bring practical reference to the new generation of parents.
Internet raising babies, it is better to look at children than from the perspective of children
"Keep balance and grow up together", compared with previous parents who take their children to travel, the biggest feature of "Growing Up All the Way" is to focus on the common growth of babies and mothers. The family life of 3-6-year-old cubs has been observed in many variety shows, but letting parents let go and babies grow independently is indeed a bold "parenting experiment".
"Growing Up All the Way" provides a two-way perspective for children to see their parents and parents to look at their children, plus a third perspective for the observation of the growth companion group, forming a multi-dimensional construction of the child's way of thinking and the parent-child relationship of the family. One of the things that is easily overlooked by parents from a two-way perspective is that children have their own behavior patterns and ways of getting along with each other. For example, when the koala's sister was crying, Zhu Dan pointed out that it was "fake crying", because she observed her sister's actions while crying. Sure enough, most of the child's behaviors have specific psychological motives, and Hard Candy Jun's words have already gone up to coax. If parents fall into the "trap" without knowing it, they can only be "handled" by their children when they encounter the same situation in the future.
"Growing Up All the Way" takes "children" as the core, and digs deep into the different personalities of 6 new generations of children, as well as the parental education methods and family relationship models. Dashuo, who is in the "sensitive period of order", chooses to fully respect and communicate with Dashuo in the way of communication between his parents and Dashuo;Lucky has super self-care ability in savage production, but Lucky's encouragement lets Lucky know that she can occasionally be unbrave;There are constant daily small conflicts between the left and right, and the punishment mechanism has become the mother's first choice;Koala's mother is facing the "eccentricity" of Koala, and the first thing to bear the brunt of is to adjust her mentality, which is also a compulsory course for contemporary parents. Under the display of a diverse family sample, there are both "growth" and "causes". The former is a behavioral record, and the latter is a psychological insight, which finally completes the three-dimensional presentation of "growth".
"I want to grow up quickly and protect the world and my mother. ""Growing Up All the Way" probably really does baby-oriented, allowing us to see their small emotions and big wishes that have not been discovered and valued in the past. In fact, it is not only the teenagers who are worried about the new words that are looking forward to growing up, but also the children who can't wait for the world.
Overall, the new generation of parents and their children communicate softer and more scientifically, and they also respect their children's inner feelings. In this special trip that belongs to the child, what interesting experiences will break out and what new parenting concepts will emerge, Hard Candy Jun has taken out a small book and is ready to learn. Even if you don't raise cubs, you have to raise yourself again in this way.