We talked before that as long as you are good enough, then your predecessor will definitely come back, but today I would like to tell you that there is a big difference between theory and practice.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
There are two big obstacles to this theory:
The first is what makes a good enough to be good? There is no fixed standard, you can know a general direction through what you know about your ex, but you may not be able to attract your ex as well.
The second is that it is particularly difficult to change in a short period of time. Most people can't change it, most people just use the old cognition, repeating day after day in sadness, and when they are not so sad, they will let go.
Therefore, from a practical point of view, to discuss the issue of reconciliation, it is not possible to generalize, it is because you have become a good ex to turn back, the actual situation may be more complicated than you think, and there are many reasons that can make the ex turn back, let me briefly list some:
1. I didn't find a new love, or rather, I didn't find a new love better than you;
This reason may turn the ex back, because people have emotional and physical needs, and if these needs are not met for a long time, then they will naturally look for the other half. But after leaving you, you find that you don't find a better one, and you may come back to you.
It is important to emphasize here that what is said here is not necessarily how good you are, but that it is possible that you can meet the needs of your ex, so you feel good.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
2. The physiological needs are not satisfied, so they are retrieved;
This is more common in the process of a girl recovering her boyfriend, but if the girl easily satisfies her ex-boyfriend, the ex-boyfriend may not want to get back together immediately, so I have been emphasizing that in the process of recovering the ex, you can't please the other party without a bottom line in order to reconcile.
3. The predecessor has suffered a setback, and his self-perception has returned to rationality;
Because when you break up, generally speaking, your ex will definitely have a certain sense of superiority in dealing with you, but this superiority will disappear with the passage of time
I have encountered a case before, the counselor is a man, and it was useless to save the ex at that time, because the ex-girlfriend was going abroad for further study, and I felt that there was a gap between me and my boyfriend, and they all broke up.
But later, after all kinds of things, his ex-girlfriend found out that in fact, going abroad for further study may not necessarily bring good prospects, and finally reconciled.
4. Your ex still likes you in his heart, and for various reasons, the feeling of liking overshadows the problems between you;
Like is a feeling, since it is a feeling, it is indescribable, maybe when you first broke up, you feel that breaking up with you is the best choice, but after a period of time after the breakup, I feel that it is better not to separate from you.
I also shared a case with you before, which is also a male counselor, after a breakup, he always harassed his ex, once he got drunk and went to make trouble, and he did nothing that was in line with the logic of redemption, and the result was finally reunited. In the final analysis, it's because his ex has feelings for him.
That's all for examples, there are many reasons why your ex will turn back, so don't be frustrated, sometimes the reason why your ex will turn back is something you can't imagine, so you have to learn to be optimistic and redeem, be yourself, and wait for the flowers to bloom.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Here I also want to emphasize that the example I gave here is not to say that the predecessor is completely reconciled with you for these reasons, but that with the blessing of these reasons, combined with your actual situation, the final reconciliation result, from the perspective of your own remedial, you are still doing yourself well and improving yourself, after all, the reason why you can make the other party turn back is still you after all.
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