introduction
In old China, people admired "old husbands and young wives". The so-called "old husband and young wife" means that the husband is older than the wife.
A historian said that in ancient times, the phenomenon of old husbands and young wives was not uncommon, and the reason for this phenomenon is often closely related to the traditional concept of "male superiority and inferiority of women". The ancients believed that a man was the owner of wealth and had the right to marry a young woman, while a woman was not the owner of wealth and needed to marry an older husband to support herself. Under the influence of this concept, marriage is seen more as a social transaction than as a union based on love.
Of course, the historian goes on to say, there are certain historical periods and cultural contexts in which the marriage of old husbands and young wives is also unique. For example, in ancient times, there would be some literati and writers who married a young and beautiful wife because of their outstanding talent or fame, although such marriages would still be bound by social concepts, many literati and writers would take great pity on their young wives, so that their young wives were endlessly favored.
The historian went on to say that with the changes of the times and the improvement of women's social status, the phenomenon of old husbands and young wives is no longer common, and the age of many couples has gradually become even, and with the advent of the era of more men and fewer women, the phenomenon of old wives and young wives has become more and more!
In fact, the historian's statement is still very reasonable. No, Liu, a 34-year-old man this year, married a 63-year-old lady He as his wife! However, on the day of the wedding of the two, the old lady He actually regretted it!
So, what's going on here?
Next, let's talk about it.
affair
The man, 34 years old, is an older unmarried young man.
According to Liu's own introduction: He lost his mother at a young age and lost his father at a young age, and he grew up with his elderly grandfather and grandmother, because he had a serious illness when he reached the age of marriage, so he missed the age of marriage, and once he missed the age of marriage, it was very difficult to find a partner again! So that he was still a single person in his thirties.
Two months ago, after being introduced by a matchmaker, Liu met He, who had been widowed for many years, and when Liu heard He's age, he immediately expressed his unwillingness. After all, he is only 34 years old, and He is already 63 years old! Although it is said that "old wives and young husbands" are popular today, after all, the age difference between the two people is too great.
Liu said that the matchmaker has a "clever mouth". Under the matchmaker's repeated peace, he had no choice but to agree to a marriage with He. After the two set up a marriage, Liu first took out a bride price of 80,000 yuan, and then registered with He.
April 12 is the wedding day of Liu and He. And when Liu brought a group of people to pick up He for the wedding, He didn't get up in bed. When Liu asked what He meant, He said: "I thought about it all night, and your family conditions are not good, I don't think you are worthy of me." Now, I regret registering with you. ”
He's remarks surprised everyone present. In terms of appearance, Liu's appearance is also better than He's; in terms of age, Liu's age is also younger than He's, how can He think that Liu is not worthy of her?
Later, under the persuasion of everyone, He got up from the bed and followed Liu out of the door. Subsequently, the two had a very simple wedding.
The above is a general process of this event.
When many netizens learned about this incident, netizens started a heated discussion.
Netizen voices
A 63-year-old lady actually thinks that a 34-year-old young man is not worthy of herself, I don't know what He thinks, and I don't know what kind of man He plans to find!
How can netizens be embarrassed: He should take a mirror to look at himself, he is so old, he still dislikes Liu! I don't know who gave her this courage!
In short, netizens have a lot to talk about.
Lao Hu's point of view
The ancients said that not knowing others is a small mistake, and not knowing oneself is a big mistake!
Lao Hu thinks: The old lady He made a mistake of not knowing herself. After all, she is no longer a yellow flower girl, and she still feels that a 34-year-old man is not worthy of herself, which is really a bit incredible!