In 2008, a young man named "Dumpling Keli" released a 16-minute animated short film "Hit, Hit a Big Watermelon", which became popular all over the Internet and won more than 30 awards.
At that time, "Dumpling Keli" was 29 years old. Standing on the edge of the youth, it took him three years to complete the work, and at the end there was a long list of idols, and the second middle school was in full swing. However, in the following ten years, "Dumpling Keli" disappeared from the public eye, and it was not until the release of "Nezha's Demon Boy Descends" that those netizens who were no longer young found this missing person who was also no longer young.
This time, standing on the edge of the 40-year-old middle-aged, "Dumpling" was renamed "Dumpling". "Middle-aged out of the mountain", Dumplings took out "Nezha's Demon Boy Descends" to prove his talent, and after the Chinese Valentine's Day, the cumulative box office of "Nezha's Demon Boy Descends" exceeded 3 billion yuan......
Dumplings are late bloomers, but my friend Lao Li is ashamed. Lao Li, who is also forty years old, ran to Zhihu and seriously knocked out a question: If a man has achieved nothing before the age of 40, does it mean that this man basically has no hope?
Some netizens warmly encouraged in the comment area, "No, it means that you are about to become a late bloomer, don't be anxious!"
Someone else replied: "At the age of 40, you can't achieve anything, it's just a temporary result." We cannot judge a person's life based on such results. ”
Indeed, we often say that men stand at thirty, but this "standing" is an independent personality consciousness. It is not that there is a car, a house and a deposit, but that it is a Lide and a letter.
But you need to know that life is difficult, and the days of torment are not only the years of youth. Some people have passed the age of 30, but the fire of their youth in their hearts has not been extinguished. Seeing that life has entered the second half, but I am still reluctant for the sake of my family, thinking of the ideals that I have no time to take care of, I am unwilling, and I am full of sorrows, how can I not be anxious?
There is no shame in anxiety. Because as a human being, there will always be moments of anxiety. Anxiety, on the other hand, stems from impetuousness and is fundamentally stemming from the fear of uncertainty in the future.
"Man than man" specializes in the production of "impetuousness". The peers around him became rich overnight, the neighbors moved into mansions, the college classmates have been promoted, and the sworn brothers bought a luxury car...... The so-called no contrast, there is no harm, with contrast, it is easier to be impetuous, and impetuousness will inevitably lead to anxiety.
The fear of uncertainty about the future is the original sin that humans are born with.
People eat fish and shrimp, and fish and shrimp do not have the fear of uncertainty in the future, so whenever they go to see it, they swim happily in the water.
And if we who pursue "not to be confused" still have dreams in our hearts, how can we allow the weakness of human nature to gallop on our own flesh? Teacher Wang Guozhen wrote: "As long as we have life/We can fight for everything/Year after year/For those who love us/And for ourselves." "Believe in the words, as long as we have not lived to the moment when the coffin is closed, who can be sure that we will only be like this in this life?
Think of the cows who have overcome the anxiety of middle age, and they all end up living like a hanging. There is one of the most famous librarians in history, who founded the People's Republic of China at the age of 56, and this is not to be said.
Let's talk about Comrade Liu Bang in ancient times. Liu Bang was a cockfighting lackey when he was young, eating, drinking, prostituting and gambling, and was very decadent; at that time, who would have expected that he would make a revolution at the age of 47 and actually open the Han Dynasty for 400 years, and until today, the vast majority of Chinese still have "Han nationality" written on their ID cards!
Think about Huang Bo again. Before the age of 32, Huang Xiaoming, a fellow villager in Qingdao who was younger than him, became popular, but he was still working as a bar singer, dance coach, and film and television dubbing. That's not all, in the showbiz that relies on his appearance to eat, he has been repeatedly discriminated against because of his appearance, but he sticks to his original intention, just like Beyond sang in "The Sea and the Sky", "never gave up the ideal in his heart", and finally waited for the opportunity to star in "Crazy Stone" and became famous overnight. Today's Huang Bo, known as the "6 billion actor", is a recognized winner in life in the entertainment industry.
There are many more examples of late bloomers. Jack Ma founded Alibaba at the age of 35, Ang Lee made his first movie at the age of 36, Ren Zhengfei founded Huawei at the age of 43, and Li Ka-shing became the richest man in China at the age of 71...... There are countless walks of life.
Mu Xin, a writer and painter known to many people for his song "Once Upon a Time", was wanted by the Kuomintang when he was young, and was arrested and imprisoned for the "Cultural Revolution" in 1970. Later, Mu Xin was rehabilitated, settled in New York at the age of 55, taught artists at the age of 62, and held his first solo exhibition at the age of 76.
It is precisely because of the fire of art that has always burned in his heart that Mu Xin was able to survive the most difficult years, with a resolute and thorough heart, he turned his life into art, and finally became "Mr. Mu Xin" who everyone took off his hat and paid tribute to. Mu Xin said: "Not precocious, not a genius, but a genius, you must be a late bloomer." ”
There was an old man who wanted to write a book, but he was already 50 years old, and he had only written the first dozen or so books he had always wanted to write. Later, because of his busy official duties, he put down the matter of writing books, and it was not until he retired and returned home in his later years that he moved the idea of writing books again and officially began to write books. The book did not go well, but fortunately, he had the firm belief to write it down, and before he died, he finally finished it.
At the age of 82, he died, but his book survived. His name is Wu Chengen, and his book is called "Journey to the West".
When Qi Baishi was 57 years old, he made a living selling paintings in Beijing. His paintings are sold cheaper than those of ordinary painters, but few people buy them. I finally met a bosom friend Chen Shizeng, and his life was improved, but he never thought that Chen Shizeng died young, and he lost his only confidant, and he was criticized by his peers, and his life fell into trouble again. Fortunately, he has a good mentality, lives to learn, does not care about the world's eyes, and does not give up easily because he is getting older. Finally, in 1929, Xu Beihong, who had just arrived in Beijing, had a discerning eye and admired him very much at this time. Since then, his paintings have been selling better and better, and he is known as a master painter.
This year, he was 66 years old.
The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, followed by now. Whether it is "forty is not confused" or "late bloomer", the self-awakening of middle-aged people will eventually find the "magic boy" in their hearts, and shout the classic line "My life is up to me".
(From Qilu Weekly, Issue 31, 2019)