#100个理想的家#
Don't get me wrong, this is not a story, but a blind date that actually happened. A 60-year-old widowed aunt and a 68-year-old widowed uncle, under the leadership of the matchmaker, walked into each other's world. At first glance, it seems that everything is going fairly smoothly, and both of them look exactly what each other expects. However, when the aunt opened her mouth to put forward the conditions, the uncle's mood instantly turned from sunny to cloudy.
The aunt's requirements are simple and straightforward: one is to ask for a bride price of 100,000 yuan, and the other is to give a "river crossing money" of 10,000 yuan every year. She said frankly that if these conditions cannot be met, then there is no point in finding a wife. After hearing this, the uncle's face changed slightly, as if he was struggling fiercely in the depths of his heart. He felt that his aunt was a blind date, and she was simply talking about conditions and making a deal. He hesitated, but decided to reject the aunt directly.
The aunt didn't seem to give up, she proposed to pay in installments, give 35,000 first, and then make up for it after getting along. But the uncle was still unmoved, he fell into deep thought, and finally refused the aunt's request.
When the matchmaker asked the aunt why she wanted so many bride prices, the aunt said frankly that this was to give her son an explanation and leave some property so that he could have something to rely on in the future. This blind date ended in failure in less than half an hour.
Is this really looking for a wife? Or is it a naked solicitation? In my opinion, this is more like a transaction with a clear price, and it has lost the emotional color of a blind date. I am not surprised by such people, because in the minds of some people, marriage has become an exchange of interests.
However, I would say that marriage is not a business and cannot be measured simply in terms of money. If two people truly love each other and are willing to face the ups and downs of life together, then money is not an issue. On the contrary, if you marry only to satisfy your own interests, then such a marriage is not destined to last.
For the uncle, his income is not high, and it is reasonable that he cannot meet the requirements of the aunt. He should understand that looking for a wife is not to increase the burden on himself, but to find a partner who can support each other and spend his old age together.
And for the aunt, she should also reflect on her behavior. Marriage is not child's play, and decisions cannot be made on the basis of spur of the moment and desire. She should look at her needs more rationally and find a partner who is truly suitable for her.
In conclusion, marriage is a major event in life and needs to be treated with caution. We should look for someone who can truly spend our lives with us, rather than treating marriage as a transaction.