Contributor: Anonymous Kusunoki Maple (Disclaimer: This article is not my own experience, it is the real experience of the contributor)
Presumably everyone will have a question in their hearts, if their good friends borrow money from themselves, whether to borrow or not, after all, it is the uncle who owes money now, which makes us start to have some resistance in our hearts.
Back then, a friend who played very well found me and wanted to ask me to borrow 200,000 yuan, and I went to the bank to withdraw money from him without saying a word, but I didn't expect that in the next 5 years, she seemed to be missing, without a little message, until a phone call not long ago, I didn't understand that my friend was not in vain!
01
I was born in a happy family in Henan, and I am still an only child, which can be imagined to be spoiled.
However, my parents began to teach me since I was a child, I should be cautious when making friends, don't make those fox friends and dog friends, sooner or later I will finish playing with myself, and I have to make two or three confidants in my life, after all, when I go out, I rely on my friends, not my parents.
My parents are both small leaders in the company, so I have been a "big lady" who does not worry about food and clothing since I was a child.
Maybe it's a problem with my parents' education, when I was in elementary school, I didn't dare to make friends, it was a simple classmate relationship, the kind that didn't know anyone outside the school gate.
This also leads to my own personality is more withdrawn, every day in addition to school, is to go to my parents' interest classes for themselves, in their eyes I am the well-behaved and obedient child, but what is my heart, who knows?
After I went to junior high school, a person who changed my personality appeared, her name was Xiaoli, I didn't have much affection for her at that time, so I wanted to play as an ordinary classmate, but after a long time, I found that she was very attentive to me, and I felt that she especially wanted me to be friends with her.
I remember very clearly one time, it was a physical education class, and it happened to be the beginning of the school year, and I didn't know anyone, if you have a good personality and are very cheerful, it will be easy to mingle with your classmates.
But I was just sitting alone in the playground seat, quietly in a daze, watching them play, I really wanted to go with them, but I couldn't take that step.
At this moment, Xiaoli walked up to me and asked, "Why are you sitting here alone, why don't you play with us?"
If we use the current term, it is "social fear".
I said euphemistically: "It's okay, you guys play, I just want to sit here for a while, just watch you play, and leave me alone."
When she heard this, she didn't say anything more and turned away, and I was really a little reluctant to go, and people kindly invited me to play, but I refused.
After a while, I saw that my classmates were walking in my direction, I quickly looked behind to see if it was someone else, they were getting closer and closer, and I was getting more and more nervous in my heart, and I didn't know how to face it.
When they came up to me, I opened my mouth first: "What are you doing here, why are you all standing in front of me?"
The immediate response to me was: "Go play with us, we are all classmates, what's the matter with sitting here, I don't know and think we're isolating you."
I knew they were joking, even though I was still politely refusing, but then Xiaoli suddenly stretched out her hand and dragged me to play with them.
I had a lot of fun in that PE class, and since then, I have gradually become acquainted with my classmates, and Xiaoli is also there, and she will accompany me every day no matter what I do.
The relationship between the two of us warmed up very quickly, and there was still this "sister flower" in the class at that time.
Time passed in a flash, we graduated from junior high school soon, and our grades were quite good at that time, so Xiaoli and I discussed whether to enter the same high school.
I couldn't agree more with this idea, and during that time, the two of us sprinted and were admitted to one of the best high schools in our city, "No. 1 Middle School".
However, we were not assigned to a class when we were classified, but this did not affect our relationship, and she was always the first to come to me at the end of class.
In the past three years of high school, our friendship has been very solid, and even when she was talking about someone in high school, she kept pulling me to eat with them, and I sat there like a light bulb.
When it came time to go to college, we didn't get into the same university, and because she was in a relationship, she was a little strained in terms of academic performance, which was not as good as before.
Her parents sometimes ask me: "What's going on with our Xiaoli's grades, it's getting worse and worse, what is she doing at school."
Naturally, I don't dare to say that it is because of love, after all, parents did not agree with their children's early love at that time, and once they found out, it was not just a reprimand.
I can only find a random reason to fool the past, and from time to time I supervise her to let her study hard, so that she doesn't even get into a university at that time.
But people who are immersed in love can't wake up no matter how they scream.
When the college entrance examination results came out, I was admitted to an undergraduate college as I wished, and she just stepped on an online junior college in the end.
02
Since then, even though we have been in touch every day, we will go out and play together from time to time, which was true when we first started college, but over time, she has new friends at school, and we have gradually become less connected.
After graduating from university, I went back to work in the local area and joined my parents' company, and they told me to start slowly from the basics, otherwise people would gossip.
I haven't been working for two years before Xiaoli calls me and says she's getting married!
I was shocked when I heard this, how could I get married so quickly, which caught me off guard.
She wanted me to be her bridesmaid, and although I didn't usually keep in touch with each other, I still had the other party in my heart, so I agreed to it.
On the day she got married, we talked a lot, and I asked her where she got married, and then I asked why she got married so soon.
She was not irritable, but told it all: "It's an object I talked about in college, it's not very far from our side, it's from the next city, are you still young, and you've been talking about it for two or three years, but once the protective measures were not done, so I got pregnant before marriage, and we just happened to be getting married, and having a child is not a bad thing, so let's break the jar and break it."
I didn't say anything more after listening to it, as a good girlfriend, all I can do is hope that they can live happily after marriage, and not get married within a few years like some families.
After her wedding, I continued to return to work, and I was almost at the age of talking about marriage, so my parents began to urge me to get married, afraid that I would take turns as an older leftover girl in the end.
After being introduced by relatives and friends, I met my current husband, and at that time I felt about him in general, not to mention the feeling of love at first sight, but after step-by-step contact, I found that he has many advantages.
After talking about marriage for a year or so, I also wanted Xiaoli to be my bridesmaid, but it was a pity that she couldn't leave with the children at home, so she didn't come to my wedding, and this matter has always been a regret in my heart.
Our married life is very happy, he is also very motivated in his work, our initial idea was not to have children first, and we want to live in a world of two people for another two years.
I was sleeping that night, and I was woken up by a phone call, and I was still thinking about who called me in the middle of the night, and when I saw that it was Xiaoli, I sat up all of a sudden.
After all, after getting married, who will call you in the middle of the night, there must be something urgent, I quickly picked up the phone, I heard the end of the phone accompanied by bursts of crying, I asked: "Xiaoli, what's the matter, you just say something, don't cry first, see if I can help you."
She first stabilized her emotions and said to me: "My child suffered from cancer at such a young age, in order to treat the child, the two of us spent all the savings of the family, and there was a lot of debt outside, and then my husband couldn't insist on such pressure and chose to divorce me, what should I do now with the child alone."
At this time, I hurriedly comforted: "Don't cry first, don't do stupid things, calm down first, and when I go to you tomorrow, you must hold on."
At this time, my husband was also woken up by me, so I asked what was going on, and I told my husband about it.
After listening to this, he was very angry, and felt that Xiaoli's husband was too irresponsible, how could he be like this, although she was a mother, she was not a child.
But Xiaoli's implication is still to borrow us money, at this time my husband and I are very hesitant, we have indeed saved money in recent years, but Xiaoli has no ability to repay if she borrows, I am afraid that I will not come back when the time comes.
The next day, I found Xiaoli, as soon as I saw me, I began to cry bitterly, I didn't know what to do next, I comforted for a while, and then asked, "How much does your child's treatment cost?"
The moment she raised her head, she seemed to see a "savior" and said that she would have at least 200,000 yuan.
I was shocked to hear this number, although I can get it, but it is indeed a bit much, after hesitating, I called my husband, discussing whether to help her, my husband's opinion can be more pertinent, I want to help but dare not help, I want to hear my opinion.
I really want to help, she is such a good friend as me, and I have the ability to help her, the child is still young, I can't let him leave before he sees the beautiful world, so I decided to take out the 200,000 yuan to her.
Then I said to Xiaoli: "You wait for me, now I'll go and get you money".
Her face was full of shock, she didn't expect me to help her like this, if it were someone else, she would definitely not come up with so much money.
After I gave her the money, I quickly asked her to take the child to a big hospital for treatment, and the money was paid back slowly.
It was after this that our contact became less and less, until finally we couldn't contact her at all, when she said that the child had been cured, and then she was ready to go to work in other places to pay off the money, and I believed it.
From time to time, I would call her and ask her how she was doing, whether she was tired or not, these words of concern.
But after a year, when I called her again, she was always in the "out of service", and I couldn't believe it at the time, thinking that she should not be that kind of person.
However, my husband and relatives around me are saying, "I won't be able to contact him in the future, will I run away with this money?"
There are more and more doubts around me, and my heart is slowly beginning to waver, this is my friend who has played since junior high school, and he won't deceive me, right?
03
This lost contact is 5 years, not long ago I was at work, a foreign number called, and when I was still curious about who it was, a familiar voice came from the other end of the phone, it was Xiaoli That's right.
She told me about the hardships of the past 5 years, and also asked me for my card number, saying: "I have saved a lot of money over the years, and now I will pay you back, the reason why you can't contact me is because I lost my mobile phone, and then the software can't be logged in, so I thought it would be better to give you the money at that time."
At this time, the heart I was hanging on finally fell, originally I thought that the 200,000 yuan should be a lesson for myself, but I didn't expect Xiaoli to return it.
I'll just say, Xiaoli is not that kind of person in my mind, but when you borrow money, you must look at the person's character, don't let the money go down the drain when the time comes!