Recently, the topic #ADHD boy bullied his classmates and 46 parents petitioned for his transfer# rushed to the hot search, arousing the attention of netizens (click for details).
According to the school, the parents of both parties have reached a settlement.
The school arranged online classes for him
After the May Day holiday, children will return to school
Xiao Ming, a first-grade student at an elementary school in Wuhan, repeatedly beat his classmates. On April 1, the parents of the other 46 students in the class jointly submitted a request to the school to transfer to the school.
On April 12, a staff member of Xiao Ming's school introduced that Xiao Ming was transferred to the class in February this year and was not diagnosed with "ADHD". Xiao Ming is undisciplined in class, and has behaviors such as beating and pulling his classmates, which is a bit incompatible with the good class spirit and study style that Xiao Ming's class has formed.
A person in charge of the school said that sometimes, the head teacher also reported to the school that Xiao Ming had made progress and made him a class cadre, but the child's behavior and habits were not good, although there were changes, it was not obvious. On March 28, Xiao Ming bullied his classmates again, and after being criticized by the head teacher, he kicked his classmates three times on the 29th, "At that time, the parents of the children who kicked the children, together with the children who were kicked, and the head teacher went to the hospital for timely treatment, but the parents had opinions." Because after communicating, this kid also kicked people. ”
On March 30, the parents of the children who had been beaten by Xiao Ming communicated with Xiao Ming's past performance in the class group. On April 1, the parents sent a joint letter asking him to leave the school or change classes, and the school finally decided that the parents would bring him back to education first.
The school said that the child did not come back to school after being taken away on April 1, but he is a 7-year-old child who also has the right to receive education. After the May Day holiday, children will return to school. At that time, it will be seen whether the boy still has uncontrollable behaviors such as beating, or strive for the child's parents to accompany him for a period of time. At present, the parents of both parties have reached a settlement.
Experts: The tripartite governance of family, school and society should be strengthened
According to the school staff, the school had communicated with Xiao Ming's parents to find out the reason for Xiao Ming's behavior, and found that Xiao Ming's parents were usually busy with business and neglected the education and guidance of their children. After that, the school will strengthen supervision and provide more positive guidance to children.
Zheng Xiaobian, a professor at Central China Normal University and an honorary member of the China Youth Mental Health Committee, said that Xiao Ming had some problems in cultivating behavioral habits. Poor behavioural habits in children are formed between the ages of 3 and 6 years, during which time the child may imitate the way parents or others speak and behave if the home education is not well guided. After the child enters primary school at the age of 8, the school can alleviate psychological problems through the opening of mental health education courses, and special training can be carried out for some special groups of children, so that children can realize the mistakes of their own behavior and help them correct their mistakes.
Zheng Xiaobian believes that it is not advisable for parents to write a joint letter to vent or get other children to turn away, and it is not an irrational solution, which will cause educational inequality. Schools should train parents in the legal parenting system, so that parents can sit down calmly to discuss and formulate methods, rather than suspensions their children from school.
In addition, Zheng Xiaobian said that it was also inappropriate for the child's mother to write a safety guarantee letter promising that "once there is another act of beating, verbal abuse, intimidation and other behaviors that hurt the whole class, she will take the initiative to let Xiao Ming transfer to another school". The main responsibility of family education is the parents, so that parents understand the nature of parenting in accordance with the law, how to improve their own parenting methods, cooperate with schools to improve education methods, so that parents realize that they are the first responsible person, and then through the joint efforts of family, school and society, let children grow up healthy and happy.
In this regard, some netizens said
Children and their parents who were beaten
There are also their helplessness and helplessness
Many netizens said
Lack of homeschooling
is the root cause of the problem
It must be taken seriously!
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Editor: Chen Wen
Editor in charge: Yan Ping