Why do some children with excellent grades suddenly don't want to go to school when they reach junior high school?

Today, an orange friend shared her confusion in the education forum: the child has won a lot of honorary certificates since he was a child, there are calligraphy and painting competitions, musical instrument performances, and even sports competitions, but now not only do not like to draw, but also do not like to read, the countdown to the high school entrance examination but refuse to go to school, do not want to take the high school entrance examination, only like to eat, drink and have fun, can this solve the problem of survival in the future?

This post has received a lot of comments from orange friends: It's really a child with a lot of talents! Is it the rebellious period of youth?

This afternoon, the "Seeking Light Plan 2024" Youth Growth Extracurricular Support System Construction Demonstration and Youth Happy Habitat Project Kick-off Meeting was held at the Huanglong Hotel.

Parents don't worry, give your children a vacation

Luo Hong, Secretary of the Party Committee of the Mental Health Center Affiliated to Zhejiang University School of Medicine (Hangzhou Seventh People's Hospital), shared his views at the meeting: Now a large proportion of children are unwilling to go to school, and many parents are also very anxious.

Some parents often say, "In our day, this kind of problem seemed to be relatively rare. Luo Hong also affirmed this, indeed, this is also the inevitable stage of social development. There are three main causes of psychological problems in today's children: the first is psychological helplessness. Parents are unreliable, the so-called love is to satisfy themselves, and second, there is no expectation for the future. Studying hard is to find a good job in the future, and then get married and have children, maybe his current life is better than the life after hard work; third, life is boring, and he has no hobbies of his own.

Luo Hong gave an example of himself: When he was a child, his dream was to make money to buy a set of Jin Yong's novels when he grew up, and to realize the freedom of white chickens.

In response to the orange friend's situation that the child is tired of school, Luo Hong also shared a case: "After graduating from junior high school, Miss Wang suffered from depression, and then took a leave of absence, began to be hospitalized to take medicine, and then failed to go to high school and college. During this time, she went to Dali for 7 years, went to more than 20 cities in China, and worked many jobs, such as dessert baking, homestay housekeeper, English teacher, interior decoration, ...... Later, she developed a strong interest in psychology and completed her junior college and undergraduate studies step by step through self-examination. Today, she has become one of Luo Hong's favorite "protégés".

We also got in touch with Ms. Wang, who gave this message to the children who were also facing difficulties: "Flowing water is not the first, but the competition is endless." The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, and secondly, now, it's never too late, believing that you will definitely find the direction of your life. ”

In this regard, Luo Hong also gave some advice to this orange friend: "In fact, your child is very good, don't worry, if you can, give her a vacation to try, if it doesn't work in the short term, three or five years can also be, naturally, the child will want to understand, what kind of life she wants to live." ”

Parents take some time out to take their children for a nature walk

Zhou Hangfang from Yungu Academy also shared one of her educational experiments: last summer, she took 4 junior high school students with excellent grades but cocooned at home, and 5 people took the subway to an empty house in Qingshan Lake and lived collectively for 5 days. In the past five days, everyone rowed boats, walked, laid shops together, had a KFC dinner on Qingshan Lake, ran in the rain and felt the taste of raindrops, went to the nearby farmers' market to buy ingredients, and cooked by themselves twice......

In a difficult living environment, these 4 junior high school students learned to share their hearts, work as a team, and manage their time...... Teacher Zhou Hangfang was deeply touched: In fact, many of our teenagers do not have such serious and terrible problems.

In her opinion, there is a lot of academic pressure now, and sometimes parents will make very fine time management for their children, but they often ignore one point, our children are not robots. When a person is instrumentalized, he must not feel the joy of living. Parents may wish to take some time to take their children for a walk in nature, so that the body and mind can be relaxed, and a lot of stress will be released.