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Some time ago, the matter of "peeled persimmons" was on the hot search, and a netizen posted a picture on the Internet, the picture is a peeled persimmon that has been slightly oxidized.
According to the girl's description, the persimmon was peeled by the girl's mother for her younger brother, and when the younger brother came home from school on Saturday, the mother cut the persimmon for the younger brother in advance and waited for the younger brother to come home and eat it.
The girl always knew that her mother was partial, until she saw this peeled persimmon, she completely exploded, and the unfair treatment she had received over the years was like a thorn deep in her heart, and every time she thought about it, it would sting her.
Even though she was so angry and sad, she suppressed her emotions and asked her mother why she peeled persimmons for her brother, couldn't her brother cut them himself?
The mother also seemed embarrassed, but still retorted to the girl that she wanted to eat it.
The girl knew that her mother was lying, and her mother usually ate persimmons and never peeled them.
Some parents will hide their children if they are eccentric, but some will throw them directly in front of their children, as if to say: yes, I am just eccentric, so what?
According to the girl, her mother never peeled any fruit for herself, but everything seemed to be clinging to her brother.
In normal life, the mother would always ask the girl why she didn't come home.
In fact, it is obvious that the mother can ask this kind of question, which shows that she has never really cared about her daughter's feelings, and a family that treats her badly, of course, she is not willing to go back.
In fact, in this society, patriarchy has always been the norm, and sometimes it seems that parents treat their children equally, but in fact, it is invisible patriarchy.
Regardless of whether there is a brother and sister combination in the family, or a sister and brother combination, in daily life, parents seem to treat their children the same, there is no obvious preference, and even more preference for girls.
This creates a false impression for girls that parents do not discriminate.
Some time ago, such a joke was popular on the Internet, where the blogger shared the room of everyone in his family, the sister's room was often clean and bright, generous and spacious, while the younger brother's room was narrow and crowded, and the decoration was simple.
Some netizens made some remarks
Of course, not all families are similar to what netizens say, but in today's social environment, most families may be like this.
They tend to favor their daughters in small favors, but when it comes to major events, such as a boy getting married, buying a house, or buying a car, the parents will give all their savings to their sons, and the daughters will only have a meager dowry.
For example, some time ago, a netizen named Xiaoyu contributed to the blogger, she asked if she wanted to give her dowry to her parents, and the blogger said Are you worried about such a problem when you are still so young?
In fact, Xiaoyu's parents gave all their savings to their younger brother to buy a house, and if his parents encounter some accidents or illness in the future, he may be able to help his parents a little if he has a dowry.
Xiaoyu said that because her parents treated her and her younger brother the same since she was a child, she did not favor sons over daughters, so she would care about her parents in turn.
In fact, Xiaoyu's example is a very typical invisible patriarchy.
Parents usually do not discriminate in terms of food, clothing, housing or emotion, and they also have deep feelings between them, but they are always biased towards their sons in major matters, and under the coercion of emotions, daughters often don't care about anything.
Nowadays, there are many videos on the Internet, the background of these videos is the door of the delivery room, if a boy is carried out, the father will be sweating profusely, half sweet and half sad, but if it is a daughter, it is full of joy, as if winning some lottery.
Often such videos will give people the impression that the current patriarchal situation has improved, and everyone obviously wants a little girl more.
In addition, some families have a son, and relatives will persuade the couple to have another little girl.
They will say that most sons will not be around when they get sick in the future, and they are often daughters by their side, daughters are intimate, daughters are good!
In fact, this is also a kind of patriarchy, why are they all children, and when they are sick, they ask their daughters to be by their side, instead of two children taking care of the elderly together?
The idea of patriarchy has been around for a long time, and with the development of society, the situation has actually improved, but the disease of patriarchal thinking is not only a problem of ideology, but also the "helplessness" of social reality.
As mentioned above, the invisible preference for sons over daughters, in terms of marriage between men and women today, if two parties get married, the man may need to have a house and a car, but there are no such hard conditions for the woman.
Therefore, in this context, if a boy reaches the age of marriage and his parents cannot support him, it will be difficult for him to get married. It is unrealistic to ask a boy to own a car and a house in his twenties without the support of his parents. There may be some capable people, but there are often very few.
Patriarchy hurts everyone, but it hurts women the most, whether it's mothers, wives or daughters.
In the documentary world, the mother Lin Qin suffered from heavy bleeding during childbirth, and she could only remove her uterus to save her life at a critical moment, but her in-laws still wanted her to give birth to four children, and she hesitated when signing.
This mother-in-law's family is particularly patriarchal, in the case that Lin Qin's body is no longer suitable for childbirth, in order to have a boy, the mother-in-law still let Lin Qin get pregnant and give birth, it seems that she is no longer a dignified person, just a woman with a uterus.
Forcibly getting pregnant and giving birth to a child when you are not in good health is just as thrilling when you give birth.
Lin Qin suffered heavy bleeding during childbirth, because her in-laws chose conservative treatment, the doctor could only go to blood transfusion and exchange blood over and over again, and in the end, the blood in Lin Qin's body had been changed three times, and even the gauze that wiped the blood covered the entire operating room.
You can see how sinful the mother is!
At the moment when the fetus was removed from Lin Qin's womb, the doctor shouted: It's a son!
Maybe at this time, the doctor also breathed a sigh of relief for Lin Qin.
After Lin Qin finished giving birth, she was lying in the ward, and she said bluntly with tears: It's better to be a man.
Whether it was because she almost lost her life on Huangquan Road because she gave birth to a boy, or she had to suffer such a childbirth as a woman, or she was treated unfairly as a girl, all these things made her say from the bottom of her heart: It's better to be a man.
In fact, what is the pursuit of people in this life? Is the pursuit of having a boy? I may feel funny when I say this.
Giving birth to a girl, if her parents treat her badly, she will still be separated from her parents, and give birth to a boy, if her parents are too doting, her parents can only swallow the bitter fruit they have planted.
Marriage, family, and childbirth are connected, in fact, people form a family for happiness, enter marriage for happiness, form a family for happiness, and have children for happiness.
Treat equally, water with love, plant good seeds, and then you will receive good fruits. If you are worried about whether your children will live up to you in the future, if you have such thoughts, it means that you have a weak heart, then you should reflect on yourself, when planting seeds, did you forget to water with love.
Both patriarchal and patriarchal parents are the stupidest of all, making a mess of their families and ultimately asking their children why they are like this.
Parents love their children equally, and children will naturally love each other, a virtuous circle, and the family will be happy.