There is no regret in life, and there are some things that may be a lifetime if you miss it. In modern society, raising a child consumes a family's material, financial and human resources like a gold-swallowing beast.
In the eyes of some young people, not getting married and having children can avoid many troubles and pains in their future lives. But is that really the case?
Recently, a 38-year-old woman surnamed Li in Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province posted a video on social platforms, Ms. Li is not only fair-skinned and in good shape, but also a 985 MBA student, with an annual income of about 300,000, belonging to a high-income group.
In Ms. Li's opinion, she is a proper high-quality older leftover girl.
With a slight cry, she complained that she couldn't find an excellent older leftover man of the same age as herself, and the people who chased her were rural bachelors.
This video quickly detonated a heated discussion on the Internet.
Judging from the video, Ms. Li is very eager to find a man who is as good as herself to form a happy family together, but unfortunately, Ms. Li said,
"High-quality men of the same age won't even look at me!"
Judging from Ms. Li's other short videos, Ms. Li went on a blind date five times, all of which failed, and she didn't wake up until she was 38 years old, and she didn't recognize her blind date situation clearly, and her words were full of regret and regret.
Ms. Li felt very anxious, especially fertility anxiety, and in a few years she would not even be able to have children, and no one wanted them, and she was already thinking about living in the countryside!
Seeing Ms. Li's experience, netizens are not "used to her", and many netizens have left messages and expressed hilarious comments.
- Do you guess why Liu Qiangdong chose Zhang Zetian instead of Dong Mingzhu? Why?
- No matter how expensive the food is, it is inferior when it expires!
- Ma met Jiang Ziya at the age of sixty-eight and became a god after his death. You're only 38 years old, don't worry, it's too early!
- I've seen an older leftover girl's stalk before, to the effect that the woman finally married herself off through countless blind dates, and not long after getting married, she found out that she didn't come to her aunt, and she was so happy, who knew that she went to the hospital to check that she had stopped menstruation!
- Don't! Stay up for a few more years and retire! Wouldn't that be better!
- What good stuff can be left? I really don't understand.
7. If it were me, I would rather find an 18-year-old Chinese girl than a 38-year-old doctor's aunt!
Jokes aside, we are now in a pluralistic society, and it is not an unforgivable thing for women to choose lifelong infertility, but paradoxically, Ms. Li obviously can't pass the threshold of having no offspring.
On the other hand, Ms. Li still firmly believes that children are the crystallization of love, denies the path of having children out of wedlock, and frequently goes in and out of blind dates.
However, even in a big city like Hangzhou, Ms. Li went on five blind dates, but all failed, until she was humiliated by the same high-quality young man and hit a wall many times in the blind date market, Ms. Li realized that age has become her biggest shortcoming in choosing a mate.
Ms. Li's self-esteem was seriously hurt! She didn't expect that she was so good that she was disliked by men, and she couldn't hold her face very much!
It can be seen from the previous videos that Ms. Li is really very anxious, especially fertility anxiety, according to the physiological structure of women, whether Ms. Li can give birth to a child normally in a few years is a question.
Ms. Li thinks that she can settle for the next best thing and choose a rural bachelor with relatively poor economic conditions, but to be honest, she may lack a certain understanding of the ideal life of rural people, and she is still grinding and grinding, and she is unwilling to wronged herself.
Regarding Ms. Li's life experience, some women may think that this is the whole of Chinese men discriminating against older women, but the truth is not the case.
As the saying goes, don't do porcelain work without diamonds, if we are just an ordinary person, if we don't have any special social advantages, peerless appearance, family property or high social status, etc., no matter in which society, marriage and childbirth is the most suitable, the most secure, and the lowest risk life path.
Nowadays, some girls are brainwashed by all kinds of poisonous chicken soup on the Internet, either thinking about being clean, not falling in love, lonely and old all their lives, free, traveling if they want to, shopping if they want to shop;
Either they have high requirements for men, just thinking that there is no burden of life, no child support, no financial pressure, no want to pay anything, just want to enjoy themselves.
However, when Ms. Li is close to the age of 35, she will know that reproduction is a kind of human instinct, just like not eating and sleeping enough, it needs to be satisfied.
At that time, no amount of travel and cosmetics will not be able to fill the emptiness and loneliness that comes with not having offspring.
Of course, except for people who have strong hearts or great ideals, ordinary people still forget it.
Under the influence of bad social atmosphere, some little fairies overestimate their own value, do not understand the underlying logic of society and human nature, are simple and unaware, and have incorrect views, and will only make their lives very bad in the end.
In fact, once the age of boys and girls in ordinary families reaches the age of 35, it is actually difficult to get married, especially women, which is determined by the physiological structure of women, which is a fact that cannot be changed, and we need to look at it rationally.
As an ordinary person, you should maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, constantly improve your inner cultivation and external charm, and at the same time constantly ask your relatives and friends to broaden your social circle, increase the opportunity to meet more outstanding people of the opposite sex, and your other half will definitely appear!