My name is Wu Shuo, I am 22 years old and I am about to graduate from university. Originally, I had already made a plan, since my girlfriend He Ya was one year younger than me and was currently in her third year of college, so I planned to wait until she graduated to start talking about marriage, and get married in 2026 at the latest.
Unexpectedly, my girlfriend's graduate school entrance examination plan disrupted my arrangement. What I didn't expect was that my girlfriend would make such a request.
On October 23, 2001, in a small county town near the Yangtze River in Jiangsu Province, the old Wu family was happy to add Lin'er. Knowing that it was a boy, my grandfather named me Wu Shuo, hoping that I could have a bright life when I grew up, and at the same time hoped that I would become an upright person.
My family's financial situation is still good, my dad works in a bank, and my mom is a junior high school math teacher. Since my parents were busy with work and didn't have time to take care of me, I grew up under the care of my grandparents.
Although my grandparents love me very much, they don't spoil me, and under the strict requirements of my grandparents, my academic performance is not bad, and I have always been at the top of my class. However, I was unlucky, and I had a serious illness on the eve of taking the college entrance examination in 2020, which delayed a lot of study time, and finally performed unsatisfactorily, and I was only admitted to an ordinary university.
When I saw the results of the college entrance examination, I felt very disappointed and moved the mind to repeat, but I was worried that I would not be able to bear the psychological pressure of repeating and fell into hesitation.
My parents comforted me: "The college entrance examination results do not mean everything, as long as you study hard, learn more useful knowledge, and find a good job after graduation, you will also have a career in the future." ”
In this way, I gave up my plan to repeat my studies, applied for a university in Nanjing, and came to Nanjing to study.
In the second semester of my sophomore year, I met my girlfriend He Ya. At that time, I was very fond of small animals, and I often went to the school where stray cats gathered to feed the cats, so I met He Ya, who also came to feed the cats, and we got acquainted with each other.
He Ya is one year younger than me, and one year younger than me, she is a slender figure, beautiful and sweet girl. After meeting me a few times, her image was deeply imprinted in my mind, and I can't forget it.
As soon as I thought of He Ya, my face turned red, and I felt as if a deer was bumping into me. Soon, my roommate noticed my abnormality and teased me: "Do you have a sweetheart?" I tell you, if you have a sweetheart, chase after it, don't look back and give others a head start. ”
I thought about it for a while, felt that my roommate made a lot of sense, and decided to take action. So I bought a bouquet of roses, went to the place where the cats were fed, and when He Ya came, I handed the roses over and asked He Ya if she would like to be my girlfriend.
He Ya's face was as red as a ripe apple, and she shyly took my rose, and in this way we were together and became the envy of everyone on campus.
I am responsible for my feelings. In my opinion, there is only one purpose of falling in love, and that is to get married. From the very beginning, I fell in love with He Ya for the purpose of getting married, even though I knew that her family conditions were not good, and they were much worse than me, I never wavered.
He Ya is an authentic rural girl, her hometown is in the southern region of Anhui Province, also near the Yangtze River.
Different from my hometown, He Ya's proximity to the Yangtze River can be said to have advantages and disadvantages. According to her, living on the banks of the Yangtze River, although there is fertile soil to grow crops, the Yangtze River is moody and often floods. In her memory, her family's land was flooded several times, so their family's financial situation has not been good.
"At the beginning, our family could barely survive, until 2008, when my younger brother was born, my mother injured her body in order to give birth to him, and she couldn't do physical work, and my grandparents had already passed away, so my father could only give up farming and choose to go out to work. ”
After He Ya's father went out to work, her mother found a temporary job in a nearby restaurant, taking care of her two children and earning money to support the family on the other.
At present, He Ya's younger brother is in high school, and the family's financial burden is getting bigger and bigger. She has a good academic performance and has won two scholarships from the school.
After learning about He Ya's family conditions, I felt very distressed, and I would do my best to help. He Ya found a part-time job writing for other people, and I sometimes helped write it together, so that He Ya could earn more money.
On weekdays, I would buy some school supplies from the Internet and ask He Ya to bring them to her brother. When the two of us went out shopping, I was basically responsible for the expenses.
I said to He Ya more than once, "When we graduate, we will get married." If your brother has no money to go to school, you should help him, I have absolutely no opinion. ”
However, what I didn't expect was that He Ya would have the idea of going to graduate school, which I discovered by accident.
Two months ago, I went to He Ya's bedroom to look for her, and I saw a lot of materials that could only be used for graduate school entrance examinations, and I felt very strange.
I asked He Ya if she was planning to go to graduate school, and He Ya nodded and told me about her dream. It turned out that she had always liked Nanjing University.
"My dad worked in Nanjing, and when I was 14 years old, my mom took me and my brother to see my dad and lived in Nanjing for more than a month. One day, my dad took my sister and brother out to play, and we passed by Nanjing University, so we went in for a walk. From that day on, I fell in love with the university and made it my goal for the college entrance examination. ”
Speaking of this, He Ya sighed. Her academic performance was originally very good, and although it was very difficult to be admitted to Nanjing University, it was not completely hopeless.
However, He Ya's mother is not in good health, taking care of the two children is too difficult, and she is often sick and hospitalized, and He Ya, as the eldest child, has to find time to help the family with housework and take care of her younger brother, and she can't study wholeheartedly. In the end, she was only admitted to this university, and she missed the dream school, Nanda.
He Ya also said that after seeing the results of the college entrance examination, she had already accepted her fate, but after coming to Nanjing to go to university, she passed by NTU more than once, and every time she couldn't control herself, she would stand at the gate of NTU and watch it stupidly, until it was dark, and then she reluctantly left.
After the registration for the graduate school entrance examination began, she went to NTU again and completely made up her mind to realize her dream.
Hearing this, I gave He Ya a thumbs up: "It's a good thing to have pursuits! I believe that you will definitely be able to pass the exam." ”
He Ya wants to be admitted to graduate school, and I support it, after all, my girlfriend wants to be motivated, so I naturally can't hold back.
A month ago, I went to look for He Ya and saw He Ya on the phone. Before I could get closer, I heard He Ya's heart-rending cry: "Why? If I am a daughter, do I have to sacrifice everything to fulfill your son? Why can't I go to graduate school? Whether he can marry a wife or not, that's his business, why do you want me to make money for him?"
After a while, He Ya's voice was full of pleading: "Mom, you will provide me with graduate school, okay? I promise you, when I graduate from graduate school and earn more money, I will definitely give you money, and I will definitely honor you, okay?"
I don't know what He Ya's mother said, He Ya cried even more heartbreakingly, she put down her phone and squatted on the ground, looking so helpless.
I hurriedly walked over, let He Ya lean on my shoulder, and asked her what was wrong. He Ya cried and told me: "They don't let me go to graduate school, they want me to go to work after graduating from college, earn money for my younger brother's education, and marry my younger brother's wife." ”
Seeing her crying with pear blossoms and rain, I was also distressed, but it was difficult for the Qing official to cut off the housework, and I couldn't help at all. Unexpectedly, the next day, He Ya found me and made a request with me.
"Wu Shuo, can I discuss something with you?"
I asked her what was wrong, and she said, "You're about to graduate from college, and you can work and earn money, can you support me for graduate school?"
I was amazed to hear that. He Ya said that her admission to graduate school will be of great benefit to our future: "If I can get my wish to be admitted to NTU as a graduate student, the income will definitely not be comparable to that of a bachelor's degree." Then when we get married, the family's income will increase a lot, won't it? Besides, I have a high education, which is also good for my children!"
Seeing He Ya mention the marriage of the two of us, my heart became extremely soft, but I can't make decisions about this kind of thing myself, so I called my mother and asked my mother's opinion.
After hearing this, my mother decisively refused: "Son, you are too naïve. I ask you, how can you be sure that she will marry you as soon as she graduates from graduate school and has a good job, instead of kicking you and looking for a better man?"
I subconsciously wanted to deny it, saying that He Ya was not that kind of person, but my mother asked me dumbfounded: "The first thing you do when you go ashore is to kill the person you want first, have you heard of this?
Of course I've heard that, and I've seen these cases. However, I still believe in He Ya and think that she is not such a person.
My mother continued to persuade me: "Even if she graduated from graduate school and is willing to marry you, I am not optimistic about this family business." The reason is simple, she can't get rid of her original family. The more she can make money, the more her parents will stare at her. Don't forget, she still has a brother!"
At that time, my mother and I argued with reason, and kept explaining to her that He Ya was not that kind of person. Eventually, my mother relented: "Okay, then, you don't have to provide it, we will provide it." You tell her that you get your marriage certificate first. She has become my daughter-in-law and a family, so I dare to rest assured that she will go to graduate school. ”
I thought about it for a moment and decided that this would work. If I get the certificate, we are husband and wife, and I can wholeheartedly provide for her to go to graduate school, anyway, the higher the wife's education, the more she earns, and the better it is for the family.
Half a month ago, I made a request to He Ya: "I can provide you with graduate school, but we have to get a certificate first, and my parents will support you at that time." Rest assured, we can do without children until you graduate from graduate school. How?"
He Ya was silent for a long time, and finally said that marriage is a lifelong thing, and she can't make a blind decision, she needs to think about it. Unexpectedly, she didn't contact me for a week, until last week, He Ya called me, saying that she was not ready to get married, and asked me if I didn't trust her.
I explained to her that I didn't distrust her, but that my trust was mutual, and she had to promise me that my family would dare to trust her. The two of us got into an argument and quarreled, and she blocked me in a fit of rage.
Now, I don't know what to do. Am I really asking too much?
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