A mother-in-law feels that she doesn't need to be too demanding of her future son-in-law, but there are still a few things that must be met:
The first is to hope that the bride price and dowry will exist, but the amount depends on the conditions of the other party, and it is intended to help the small family of two children settle down as soon as possible.
Second, if the other party buys the property in full, the daughter's name will not be added, but if a loan is needed, the name must be added.
The third is to prefer a son's family, and if there is a little contradiction, it will not interfere with the child's small family issue, unless it is a matter of man's principle.
Fourth, be open to matters such as the Chinese New Year and the child's surname. Do not intervene in the mother-in-law's child-care affairs, and do not ask for money.
Fifth, it is advocated to keep a certain distance, and the relationship between in-laws does not have to be too close.
The six most important points are that even if the other party is not in good economic conditions, they must have a good character, and hope that the child is diligent and enterprising, and the elderly are reasonable and not strong.
This kind of in-law is very much in line with my understanding. 1. The bride price and dowry are the cornerstones used by both parents to form a family for their children, and it would be wrong to use them for other purposes.
If you can give more, the children's small family economic foundation will be thicker, and parents can do what they can, just like children are born in families with different economic status.
Second, the in-laws do not need to interact more, just maintain enough respect.
3. Do not intervene in the children's lives, let them face everything by themselves, and do not comment on non-principled contradictions.
Fourth, the grandchildren should be extensive and extensive, the children should be taken care of by nannies, and the monitoring equipment installed at home can be understood in real time, and there is nothing to worry about.
Now many people think that weddings can also be ignored, so much red tape is too troublesome, the two families get together, the money saved is better than let the children go out to see, and go wherever you like!
Some people say that the man's family pays a down payment, and if you also pay it together, you can add it.
If the man pays the down payment, are the man's parents responsible for repaying the loan? If the man repays the loan individually, it is also a joint income after marriage, but the share is different. Otherwise, if the man repays the loan, doesn't the woman need to pay for the family expenses, and if the family expenses do not need the woman, then is it still a marriage?
The man pays the down payment and repays the loan together after marriage, and the part of the loan repayment, whether or not the woman's name is added, belongs to the joint share of the man and woman, but if you ask for the woman's name to be added.
It is equivalent to sharing the share of other people's down payment, and the man's parents will also be worried, after all, the down payment is from others, and people's hearts are unpredictable, and each other may have multiple hearts, which is not easy to deal with.
If you get divorced, you still have the woman's share and you can't afford to lose money. The down payment in a big city is a few million, add a name, that's a dream, maybe you are referring to the down payment in your small county town, and the girl in the big city didn't mention the house and add the name.
It is very reasonable to repay the loan together, and you don't have to take half of the down payment, do you have the sincerity to get married? I don't know why someone's daughter is marrying you! Find someone to share the cost equally, and serve you for free to give you children?
And these men and women are negotiable, if the man's family is particularly good and willing to pay a down payment, then the woman's family can pay for the decoration, no matter how much the decoration cost is not as high as the down payment.
The man always has to be a little high-profile, and after marriage, the couple can repay the loan together and add the wife's name, and they shouldn't be too careful, then it's not a marriage.
I think the conditions mentioned are reasonable, and the man's family, who argues every day on the Internet that they should not give a bride price, is absolutely incapable and has no financial conditions to give their son a bride price.
Such a family is likely to meet a woman who asks for a sky-high bride price. And those men who don't pay attention to the amount of the bride price, the women who come into contact with it most likely also feel that the bride price doesn't matter, how much you give me, I will double it back to the woman's family in the small family.
Because it is actually difficult to cross the social class, what kind of family you have cultivated what kind of son, and what kind of family you have come into contact with the woman of the family, everyone's values are actually quite close.
In fact, most of the time, it is a matter of attitude, and those who have conditions will not care about this, and they will also meet the same family, understand each other, and the children will support each other after marriage, and it is the greatest wish of both parents to live a good life.
My friend told me that my daughter got married on the fourth day of the first lunar month this year, and the bride price was given by the man according to our local customs.
Other small etiquette, banquets, red envelopes, etc. are all free, and I will do it myself. As for the house, the daughter has bought a set for her in the provincial capital before she got married, and now the daughter and the daughter are working and living in the provincial capital, and if the in-laws are not willing to help take care of the child, we can also take care of it for free.
I think so, as long as they are happy and happy, everything we do as parents is worth it.
Such a woman's parents have a more positive outlook, and they are also sympathetic to Dali, the marriage of the young couple should be like this, and the bride price of the man's family is voluntary according to the conditions, because it is not to sell the daughter, you can't bargain, let alone ask for it.
It is also reasonable for the woman's family to deal with the house in this way, if the man pays the down payment and the woman pays the decoration fee after marriage, it is most reasonable for the two to repay the loan after marriage.
The woman's dowry should also be paid according to the conditions of the parents, but it should not be too far from the man, unless the man's family does not mind, such a marriage is the most reasonable, and the life of the young couple will be happy after marriage.
The way children work together to live an active life is why parents should do their best to support them!
1. Children love each other enough;2. Children live: communicate with each other when they encounter different opinions at work, have a sincere attitude, be open-minded, and trust each other! These two points are the cornerstones of a happy marriage!
If children have done both, then parents should do their best to support them in every way!
Even if the other party's economic conditions are not good, they must have good character. The child works hard to move forward and take the right path, and the old man is reasonable and not strong. It's a really good consideration, but it's rarely seen in the world.
The bride price is basically in the countryside, and in the city, except for the old-fashioned rural areas at the junction of urban and rural areas, basically either the bride price is not wanted, or 20,000 yuan means it. This money doesn't have to be, and there is not much money and a name for a bride price.
There is no bride price for equality between men and women, but compared to other bloggers, these marriage conditions are the most correct statement of the three views so far, which is not divorced from reality, but also has a sense of modernity, and can be regarded as passable.
Human pursuit is divided into three realms: material, spiritual, and soul. Putting the bride price of the house and car in the first place is a manifestation of material deficiency.
My cousin and sister-in-law are college students in the 80s, and now they are engaged in scientific research and teaching in universities, and the first thing his daughter is looking for is that the boy's mother is not strong, and the second is that the boy has a good character, and there are no other conditions, and the children just like each other.